My daughter is failing school, only passed one subject this whole year of grade 10. She used to be a straight A student. She skips school constantly and has been suspended too many times to count.
I have tried grounding, she goes out anyway. I have taken away all priviliges, cell phone, computer, tv etc etc. She doesn't seem to care. If I tell her she's not allowed to go somewhere, she goes anyway. She has no respect for me as a parent.
The other day, I kicked her out of the house. I know she is at a friends house and know she is safe. I want her home, but not with the disrespect she gives to me.
Help??????
2007-05-11 05:43:51 · 19 answers · asked by Onmyown 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Follow this:
First you think that she is not your daughter, rather someone else's.
Next, you call her back, take an appointment from her for discussing the matter!
Next, Keep thinking that you are an outsider and she is not your daughter, just ask her what she wants from her mom, means how mom should behave, how mom should caress her, etc.
Lastly, apologise for being rough to her for all these days. Convince her that she is the most important for you(you may be least important for her!). Always adjust with her feelings and never ever impose your dorminancy over her. Think that she is a visitor in your house.
Do this for just 3 months and you will see the world change!!!
2007-05-11 06:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by anildel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as school goes, she is going to have to repeat the 10th grade if she only passed one class so she will be seperated from some of the kids she is hanging out with. That will help. They are not going to want to be seen with someone in a lower grade then them. Thats "uncool".
When you punish your daughter you have to be firm. Stick to what you say. If she goes out anyway, go get her. That will embarrass her and she will know you mean buisness. Take her phone away from her and keep it with you so she has no way of getting it, take the computer out of her reach or take one of the cords so it wont work, Set a parental lock on the tv with a password that she will never get. You have to be consistant in punishment! My mom would call a # on the phone if she left the house and she would hit redial when she got home to see if we used the phone. If we did, we were grounded longer. I hope it all works out for you, my sister was the same way growing up and I hated seeing my mom go through that. It all worked out for the better for us and I'm sure it will for you too. God Bless!
2007-05-11 05:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you may have to discuss alternatives to traditional school with your daughter. If she gets behind with her outlook about school she is likely to drop out all together. You may have to talk with the school counselors for alternatives. If you make this a control battle you will loose. A human can not control another human being period. Somehow you must find a way to connect with your daughter and reestablish communication. You may have to look at how you discuss issues with your daughter. Your daughter is no longer a child but is becoming a young adult, you will have to respect her views and opinions especially in regards to herself as in the end it is her life and her choices to make. By kicking her out at her age you abandoned her, in some states this means you gave up your parental rights. Before talking with your daughter take time to really think what type of adult relationship you'd want with her, a way to talk with her not to her, etc.
2007-05-11 05:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way when I was at that age too. I was a strait A student but then I got in with the wrong crowd and everything went bad. I started fighting, skipping school, not listening too my parents, drugs, etc... My parents phoned the cops on me and it was tough then but now we get along great. I actually thank them for doing that now. Good luck!
2007-05-11 08:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THat girl needs boot camp!
DID you spank her as a child?
How abouot you call a boot camp and send her away for the WHOLE summer. If she is going to treat you like that and fail school, send her to boot camp. and tell her she will be going back duing christmas breake if she keeps it up. YOu do a lot for her and she is just going to treat you like that? she doesn't deserve a summer. Talk to a couciler at her school and see where you can get more info. Also, don't tell her about it... until after you sign her up and it is the morning you take her. if you tell her before hand, she will run away.
another solution is you can call the police and they will take her to juvinial prison.
good luck... and remember you did nothing wrong, youre a good mother. Also, it could be her friends that are influesncing her.
2007-05-11 05:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by labonita451 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sweetie, i say do what my parents did. call the cops. when i ditched, they called them on me for truancy. when i left when i was grounded, they call saying i ran away. when i failed school simple, i got no money and i had to stay home, then i would leave and they'd call the cops again. so... yeah. it sounds harsh, but it straightend me out pretty good. i ended up getting into a really great college, even though i couldn't go cause of money. i'm now working, engaged, expecting a child, and i maintain my household like a proper woman (cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of my step-daughter, et al.) so, it may take a few calls to 911 but i got sick of being brought home by the cops and even having to spend a coupple of nights in jail (my mom worked 911 dispatch and knew all the cops so they held me on nonsense charges and never put it on my record. but it will give her a wake up
2007-05-11 06:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by PiX iE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call the police and tell them she's a habitual truant from school, and a habitual runaway, as one other poster said, if she goes out despite being disallowed, go get her, embarrass the snot out of her until she gets the clue you won;t back down, and it's her own fault if she fails the year and has to repeat it, once she's stuck in gr 10 a second time, she will wise up quick
2016-11-10 14:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfram 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the children's have the same problem ,now the time is bad for you ,show more affection and love towards your child .be patient it takes some time to your child to understand your love when they come to realize about the world then she could realize the real person who cares for her.good luck.....peace be with you through jesus
2007-05-11 07:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by appu ma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whop her *** she is a child she need to be put in her place. She dosen't need to be out like that she might get hurt. And if you don't believe in hitting her well the next time she leaves call the police they'll take her as a run away and that's just enough to scare her!
2007-05-11 05:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by brittany2569 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to have a relaxing conversation with her. It is also a good idea if you try to be her friend (try to talk 'bout things that she likes, like music...) because it will be much easier for her to tell you what is going on if she trusts you.
2007-05-11 06:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Claudia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋