Me and my husbands ex-girlfriend who is also the mother of his kids did not get along at the beginning of our relationship. However since then, we have developed a civil relationship that you might could call being friends. When we see each other we talk about men, laugh like typical women. Two months ago my husband confessed that he'd cheated on me with her once before we got married (over a year ago now) and told me how sorry he was and begged for my foregiveness. I havn't seen her since he told me this but I will this weekend when we visit his families house for mothers day. Do I act like nothing happened?
2007-05-11 05:43:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave the past in the past. Don't open up old wounds. If seeing her would bother you then after the mothers day deal distance yourself from her until you can work out your emotions. Don't say anything to her. What for? Its called "the past" for a reason. Leave ill feelings there and move on and be happy with your MARRIAGE. It might be best not to tell this ex anymore of your business. Weigh the pros and cons of this friendship and make your choices wisely.
2007-05-11 05:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by My Business 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot ask people who hadn't experience the feeling of having done what has done to you. Their opinion will just make you deny yourself a very good judgment. Do as you feel. You don't have to make a scene, but if you feel bitter about it, and you can't accept it, what's your option. Go? or not Go? only you know and feel being talked to behind your back. Are they laughing? I don't know. For me, when i read your question, because it happened to one of my friends, and she continue to being friends with the woman, then, everything went fine, (drum rolling...) and one lunch time, she caught them in the bed, after their marriage of 4 years. they are so relax with the little kid sleeping in one corner of the bed. If someone had consumated another, everything will be so easy as one two three. "Oh, i did it before so why not again." Where is the respect and the morale there? GONE!
2007-05-11 05:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by earth angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know that I knew about the encounter, but not this weekend. There's a time and a place. At the same time, I don't think I would approach this with a nasty attitude,either. It's been over a year. He didn't have to confess. I would express your disappointment in her not having said spoken up, what with this new found friendship.
2007-05-11 05:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by mysticprincess74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. If you feel the need to tell her you know, and get it out in the open, then do so...since you two have become friends of a sort, it may be something that's been weighing on her that she'd be glad to talk about and put in the past...
Or you can let it go and realize it's in the past and if you accept your husband's apology then it's over and done.
2007-05-11 05:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Yes! Yes! Act like nothing happened!
You are just starting to be friends, don't mess it up!
If she starts coming over on a regular basis then you will have to put a stop to it.
If you watch desperate housewives the you know your not alone in this world on cheating relationships.
Hope this helps
2007-05-11 08:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jon L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say or act different around the family. it will just cause problems and makes things worse. it did happen before you guys got married, but i do understand how you are upset about it because you two were together when it happened. but she is the mother of his children and if you dont want probelms to start up with the family just try to play it off cool just for that one day. and maybe later on if you want go talk to her by yourself and talk to her about your differences
2007-05-11 05:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should act as you would normally would. If she mentions it, don't lie but I see no reason to bring it up.
What possible good would come from you acting on this information?
I think you should maintain a civil/friendly relationship for the sake of everyone around.
Let bygones be bygones.
2007-05-11 05:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by mammato4boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
legally you can't do anything, but maybe you should aks yourself why you picked a guy like that...people who end up in this situation are people who usually get married after only 2 or 3 years of dating, and don't get to KNOW the person...they think 1-3yrs is enough....think again (as you found out)
2007-05-11 05:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by Dr T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well just have your mom oanwser the phone and when he asks for u have her tell him that u are not home or busy, but don't just avoided him either if he keeps calling or whatever u have to sit him down and tell him that u don't like him and make sure he understands. Best of luck
2016-05-20 22:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! but not in a threating manner. just say what he told you to find out her side of the story, remember there are 2 sides to every story. you may find out it happened more than once, she may have buddied up with u for a reason, or, he could have made it up because your being friends with her may intimidate him. but i would definitely find out. also, dont front her out in front of anyone, take her aside & dont tell your husband your going to ask her either!
2007-05-11 05:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋