I feel kinda mad and hurt at my friend but maybe it's just me. He is the nicest guy in the world 95% of the time but he does have a few big personal flaws. One reason he has stopped hanging out at my house because I told him he couldn't dip here anymore (he left his dip cup out all the time). I introduced him to a couple friends of mine. I mentioned to him that these people are real nice but I just don't enjoy hanging with them. He now is best friends with all of them and I feel left out. When he started hanging out with me he told me some really personal private stuff that his last friends had told him. I fear he has told this new group that I don't like them. We have been friends for years and then all of a sudden he wants to hang out with a group I don't like, more than he wants to hang out with me. I don't know if I can talk to him about it because he says what he thinks you want to hear and BS's (lies) a lot to get out of trouble. When he became my friend he was all of a sudden doing everything with me. He has changed totally and is doing that with this new group (chameleon). All of his friends in the old group are angry with him for some reason or another. The new group just loves him. He used to come over to my house everyday. Now he just comes over every couple days when he feels like playing XBox or whatever. He has done this before: spent everyday with me, dropped me TOTALLY when he dated a girl, ran back to me when they broke up.
2007-05-11 05:41:59 · 29 answers · asked by lend322 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2007-05-11 05:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by ILOVEU 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Personally he does not seem like much of a friend....First of all a true friend is your friend no matter what....secondly a friend does not run around telling other friends the personal stuff that someone has shared with them in confidence...I know it is hard right now but I think you should move on without this friend. He is not worth it. I am sure you can find a better friend out there somewhere else. You are better then that and friends do not play these games with each other. Kinda childish when you think about it. You don't want to do what I want so I am going else where then.......Kinda like the little kids that say ok you are not playing my way so I am taking my ball and going home....think about it not much different....Do you really want to be friends with someone like that?
2007-05-11 05:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Chris&Rose J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to make some new friends of your own. You don't have to necessarily kick him to the curb, but don't get so caught up in the fact that he has meshed well with your other friends. You said it yourself that although they are nice, you don't really like hanging out with them so who cares if he enjoys them. A true friend will be there no matter what. Do as someone else advised and let nature take its course. If you guys are true friends, then things will work itself out. But you sound kinda wimpy over this subject, so don't dwell on this, just make some new friends. Or kick it with you old ones. Try and include yourself.
2007-05-11 05:53:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, thats just the way life flows. Even though he doesn't spend as much time with you, you are his crutch. He knows that you will be there when he needs you. You are probably the friend he respects the most. In a way, he is taking advantage of your friendship, because he knows you will be there when things in his life are screwed up again. Stick to your beliefs, and don't worry about his happenings. Find some new friends, but always be there when he needs a hand.
2007-05-11 05:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Blessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure. I think he needs to know that you will always be there for him. I think give him companionship and then in the long run hopefully he will understand what a true friend is. If you don't want to stay his friend then move on, but if you do then I would stay and just go with the flow.
You can never have to many friends!!!
Good Luck!
2007-05-11 05:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by bookworm87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this guy sounds like a very good friend. Go out and meet new people it is a BIG world and there are lots of people in it. If you don't like the other crowd what do you care what they think. He has definate person to person relationhip problems and you are prob better off. He dumped you like an old gf so treat him like an ex.
2007-05-11 05:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie it's always rough to loose a friend.
But from what you are saying here your friend really isn't that stable.
Honey let this guy go, and find your own group of friends who really appreciate you and will be there for you.
"Fair weather" friends are a dime a dozen and seldom come through when you really need them
2007-05-11 05:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean to be too blunt but....Find someone thats the nicest guy in the world 100% of the time. Life is too short to be playing games like this one. Otherwise avoid this guy and see if he comes back to the way you like to be treated. If he doesnt come back then it wasnt meant to be.
2007-05-11 06:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by Pratch2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like much of a friend, why are you clinging so hard to him?
If he prefers the company of others, that is his choice...let him go...it's his right to be with whoever he enjoys spending time with, just as it is yours. Make new friends and meet people who have more in common with you. ☺
2007-05-11 05:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ditch him.u sond like a nice person but u dont deserve a friend who treats u like that. hang out with people that u no wont backstab u for anything
2007-05-11 05:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi;first of all do not let him use you.
you need to just give him his space because maybe he just want to get some air as in making new friends,but he will want to be your friend again because he knows that you will always be there for him and he have done it before as you said.
all you can do if he sees you and don't talk to you ,you now will know who are friends.
remember when you are in trouble that's when you will know you friends because they will always be there for you.
also choose your friends wisely.
2007-05-11 05:57:38 · answer #11 · answered by miss congeniality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋