My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 10 months and we are going to Greece for 2 1/2 weeks.
Everyone keeps telling us "if you make it through this, you'll be together forever" sort of thing. I feel like this is putting pressure on me and making me nervous. I don't want to think of this trip as a test of whether or not we are "meant to be". I am really happy and excited to go but anxious, too!
Has anyone been here before? Any suggestions/advice? Obviously, I am going to do my best to relax, enjoy and have a great time (that's probably the best advice I can give myself). :)
2007-05-11 04:56:35 · 6 answers · asked by Confid321 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're obviously quite young. If he bails on vacation, let him go. I wasn't worthy of you.
2007-05-11 05:01:30 · answer #1 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL...whether or not you want it to be a test is beside the point. Fact is, it will be...but in a good way.
Relax, enjoy yourself have a good time, go with the flow make the best of it...for sure you will see him at his best and at his worst..which can only help you in the long run to make a wise decision about whether or not you wish to remain in the relationship.
The most disasterous vacation I have EVER been on was to South America with a girl friend. She was so horrible (drunk the whole time, hitting on married men, trashing our hotel room, acting the ugly American..you name it) that when I got home I sat on my fiance's lap and cried. I never spoke to this woman again.
Just go, have a good time...and if you see some ugly in him...or show him some ugly of your own..either you will get through it or you won't...it is certainly not the end of the world or the best thing in the world...either way.
Roll with the punches, go with the flow...and be yourself, the good, the bad and the ugly, if he can deal, and you can deal...GREAT..if you can't...OH WELL..life goes on...and you still got a trip to Greece out of the deal.
2007-05-11 05:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by Terri M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All they are saying is that if you do not kill each other in 2 1/2 weeks alone together, then you can survive marriage, not that the two of you are going to get married. So relax, enjoy, have fun, visit the islands, and don't even think of it as a step towards anything but your health and relaxation.
2007-05-11 05:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traveling together can be very stressful even for the best relationships. The trip will give you a good idea about how you are able to work out things....delayed travel, transfers, difference in languages, food, etc. Also how you handle money together. Just go and have a good time. Whatever happens, happens.
2007-05-11 05:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not true at all! Why do you have to worry sick about this nonsense. If he meant for you with or without this trip then he'll be still yours. And if he's not meant for you eventhough you eneded up married for 10 years, he'll be gone!
So, enjoy your self and enjoy his company. Make the best out of this trip for both of you.
Happy holiday...! Greece is very very beautiful!
2007-05-11 05:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by minime_risk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't realize they're doing more harn than good! My fiance has his own business and every time I'd be over there helping, someone would always say--I hope you like it here, becasue this is going to be your life! They didn't realize how much I bristled every time...I was there by choice, and I felt like that put alot of pressure on me. I told my BF (now fiance) & how much I couldn't stand that-I don't know whether he said anything to them or not, but nobody ever says that to me anymore!
2007-05-11 05:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋