I want to name my baby after both sides of the family, even if his family wants nothing to do with it. Is that weird? Should I not do it?
2007-05-11 04:44:02 · 37 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Why not? I think it shows a lot about you that you want your son to be connected to both sides of his family regardless of the fact his sperm donors an idiot.
Go for it!
2007-05-11 04:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by chickey_soup 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
It is not abnormal to want to name your son that way but... it is your son and not you who would have to like with THAT name and children are very blunt... If the family has nothing to do with your child and the others at school ask him about that part of his name?
Ultimately you are the one to decide...
All the best...
2007-05-13 06:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by sweetbarbiebabydoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to be honest and say its a little wierd especially since they want nothing to do with the baby. I mean if you just happen to like the name then why not, but to name it after a family member whos really not even interested in the child, thats just bizzare.
2007-05-11 04:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The father doesnt want anything to do with your son, but what about your son's grandfather from the fathers side? Is he willing to be in your son's life? Is the rest of the father's family willing to be part of your son's life? If it's just the father that has a problem taking responsibility then I say go ahead and use your son's grandfather's name. It shouldn't matter to you son's father what you name him if he isn't willing to be part of his life anyway.
Good luck and congrats!
2007-05-11 05:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by migirl1982 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
YES. Not normal and not a good idea.
Hopefully some day you will find a wonderful person to love you and your son and why would you want your boy to be named after a loser that will forever remind you of that loser?
Your son might not like it and your new spouse probably would not like it either that you are honoring an ex.
Bad idea all around
2007-05-11 05:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by cathoratio 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yuck- I totally think you should not do it!! I think it's an honor to have a child named after you, an honor your baby's family does not deserve, or even seem to want. It could come off as a desparate attempt to get them involved by making them feel guilty. Even if they change their mind about wanting to be more involved later, they've been very insensitive and don't deserve it. I think you need to come up with an entirely new name, one that doesn't involve family names. Just think about the conversation you'll have with your son about where his name came from someday- "That's your grandpa's name- oh, you don't know him because he didn't want to know you...." At most, use a name from your family....
2007-05-11 04:50:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You should do what you feel is best for your baby he is going to have the name for the rest of his life regardless who it is after. As long as you like it and the baby's father isn't totally against it. Then go ahead and you never know it may help your son with his identity when he gets older.
2007-05-11 04:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bre 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If they want nothing to do with the child then I wouldn't do it only because your child will ask where his name came from and then you'll have to explain the entire drama to him. If things smooth out before your son is born then be sure to ask if it's okay.
2007-05-11 07:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kalei 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would find a different relative to honor. I mean your child has to carry the name with him for life, and if this is the name of someone whom wants nothing to do with him, it might make him confused. Maybe you should find a different member of your husbands family or a great great grandfather.
2007-05-11 04:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's a little weird, but that's me. It's your baby, name him what you want. To me, naming a baby after someone is a badge of honor. These people don't deserve that if they're going to let their differences get in the way of knowing this child.
2007-05-11 05:06:40 · answer #10 · answered by QaHearts 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well if you really like the name then do it. Or you could always have that name as a middle name.
I didn't even want to name my son (due June 13) after my dad because it is also my brothers name -but I felt that saying the name would remind me of my brother whom I do not get along with at all. But my husband was adamant about it, so we decided to use it as the middle name instead.
2007-05-11 04:48:59 · answer #11 · answered by Fatoosh1 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋