i have been wanting a baby for a long time, and i am sure that i have the means 2 support it. my family keeps telling me no, that i will be making ahuge mistake. i really want a baby so much, and it hurts when i see other people pregnant or holding their baby. i can get a place pretty soon, and i'm saving up money 2 buy things 2 furnish it.
2007-05-11 04:37:46 · 13 answers · asked by meghanmerie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is no cut-and-dried answer to this question. Additionally, there is no one that can answer this for you. It's hard to give an opinion on this without knowing how old you are, your financial situation, etc. But I will tell you, based on the things you *have* said, such as you can get a place "pretty soon" and you are "saving up money to buy things to furnish it," I don't think now is the right time. All those things should ideally be in place before even considering becoming a mother. It sounds to me like you have a good old fashioned case of Baby Fever (I've had it too!) which can cause you to quit thinking completely realistically.
Besides, the fact that you are saving money right now to buy furniture tells me that perhaps you aren't as ready financially as you might think you are because I am here to tell you, babies cost a lot more than home furnishings and getting into your own place. I think you need to be more established in your life than you come across as being right now before you have a baby.
Normally, I would say to not listen to anyone else when it comes to a decision like this, but your family knows you a lot better than anyone on here; maybe they see something we couldn't possibly see; some reason we couldn't possibly know as to why maybe you *would* be making a "huge mistake."
But in any event, I hope you make the decision that's right for you.
Good luck!
2007-05-11 05:06:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you get your place a baby might be the furthest thing from your mind. I know that once I moved out, I was working two jobs and going finishing college. I was so busy I didn't even think about a baby or marriage until college was over and I got married. Then things settled down and now there's a baby on the way. Trust me..enjoy your freedom while you can!!
2007-05-11 11:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married or do you plan on trying to support a baby on your own? If you and your husband plan on having a baby together and you have the money to raise a child, then I say go for it. If you plan on being a single parent then I agree with you family that it is a huge mistake.
2007-05-11 12:47:25 · answer #3 · answered by sweettnpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by the information you provided, I believe you are not ready to have a baby. Apparently, you do not have your own place yet and you have to save up to furnish your apartment. In my honest opinion you should wait until you graduate from college, become established in your career and wait until you get married. There really is no need to make things harder for yourself if they do not have to be. That is just my opinion...
2007-05-11 11:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're on the right track to getting there. But why dont you get settled first and then try. Get your place, get it furnished and then go for the baby otherwise you wont be able to afford all the things you are working for right now.
2007-05-11 11:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by ELW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your same situation. I am the 2nd oldest of ten kids and grew up with the responsibility of helping my mother raise my younger siblings. Since my youngest sibling turned ten I started wanting my own children. I debated to myself nermorous times over if I should or shouldnt. While my mother wasnt against me having children at all, I still decided to wait. I'm glad that I did wait. Now I'm due with my first child (a daughter to be named Ashlynn). My husband is so excited and I love having him there and involved with the entire pregnancy. I know it is really hard to see other people with their children, but believe me, it's worth the wait to find a good man to share the experience with.
Good luck!
2007-05-11 11:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by migirl1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful what you wish for. I am a single mother and it is not easy. I don't wish that on anyone who is not mentally, physically, and financially prepared. So I would sit back and really think about the decision you are trying to prematurely make and wait. Your time will come.
2007-05-11 11:46:59 · answer #7 · answered by erickarp03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound really young. babies cost a lot of money . pregnancy is expensive. you need a stable home. money a stable HUSBAND a very good job with really good insurance. if your family isnt supporting you then it isnt the right time. when the time is right your family will support you dont do it
2007-05-11 11:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a question that should not be answered by us internet people. Way too serious to base your conclusion from us.
2007-05-11 11:46:07 · answer #9 · answered by webcop33 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well how old are you. you can get a place that means your still young you should wait till maybe after college.
2007-05-11 11:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by mother of twin girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋