2007-05-11 04:21:28 · 45 answers · asked by KAY KAY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why do he look for others.
2007-05-11 04:23:25 · update #1
delete his accounts and divorce his butt you aren't doing it wrong he is
2007-05-11 04:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No,my dear ! Let me tell you the sad facts about your marriage is on the rock.It's a long way you're from home if you want to keep this a float.I don't know the back grounds, but one good advise a personal attitude change might worth a thousand words.However,if that what is in your partners' mind you are sinking the boat.Hard to keep a marriage going where there isn't any love between and one left in the cold.Good luck,try lots a hot tea,makes the nerves calm in the 'high seas'
of divorce.
2007-05-11 04:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by intrexgames 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you assuming that YOU are at fault because HE is being a skunk and trolling the dating websites??? I don't care if you're the worst wife, ever, that violates his marriage vows, so start by letting him have his share of the blame!
That being said, you all may have some problems you can work out, but you'll probably need a little outside help. There's no shame in getting a hand from someone who can help you sort things out and build a better relationship. You could try a marriage counselor or your clergyperson, for instance.
I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope it works out well for you in the end... no matter how it works out.
2007-05-11 04:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by bumsteadowl 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't EVEN think you're doing anything wrong! Unless you entirely ignore him, cheat on him and leave for months at a time, I can't think of any single reason why a man should take vows of marriage with you then look to date someone else.
Confront him about the dating sites and serve him with divorce papers. Odds are he's already met at least one other woman. It's a matter of your health and safety...take action now!
2007-05-11 04:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by misguidedrose18 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why Do he look for others? It's why Does he look for others. Anyway, he's cheating on you. He may not be having sex with them but it's still cheating to be married and looking at the same time. It's probably not anything you are doing, other than allowing it to happen. You need to get out before he brings home an STD.
2007-05-11 04:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by fourzenuff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would a married man be on dating websites unless he was looking to potentially date other people? I dont know why you think YOU can't get "it" right, but I do believe you should try to reconcile your relationship if you think this is possible b/c you made vows until death do us part. If you think the relationship is already dead, then it's time to let him go and move on.
2007-05-11 04:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by Unique 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is his problem not yours, why did he get married if he wanted to be on dating websites? That's what makes it bad for the single women to chat on line. Thanks for reminding me why I don't do it. He is a adolescent adult and is cheating emotionally. I'm sure there are other things to do around the house besides wasting his time and your time trying to figure this dude out. He's not playing fair and you need to take control over this. A couple means two not three.
2007-05-11 04:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that he is on all of the dating websites is a very strong indication that he is not committed to you, and he does not respect you. If you can accept this, then you might be able to stay married to him. If you cannot accept this, it means that you respect yourself and value yourself as a human being, and you know that you deserve better. This issue has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him, and you are not at fault in this situation! I sincerely hope that things improve for you. Value yourself; you mean something in this world!
2007-05-11 04:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Celestia X 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Him!
It's not you, it's him.
You can't think for him or even read what he's thinking. But you can sit down and have a serious discussion with him about all this that he thinks is missing, that he has to go and seek out more women.
But seriously, its not you. Someone who would put themselves out there on dating sites when he is married obviously has a personal problem of their own.
I suggest heavy communication between you too. Make plans for a weekend of just opening up to each other. Pray on the matter. Even if you aren't religious, I find prayer to be very helpful and strengthening.
Hope all goes well.
2007-05-11 04:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Confront him on it. Tell him you have seen that he is on these websites. He may ask you why you are looking at the sites yourself. Let him know that this behavior is unacceptable. If you give him an ultamatium, be prepared to follow through on it.
Some sites have a way that you can contact them and let them know if someone is married...so basically, report your own husband.
2007-05-11 04:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by cbgrace71 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
it ain't you that can't get it right. it's him. you could be halle freakin berry and he'd still be looking for another chick when he's bored with the same ol' stuff. men that cheat... whether it's physically or on a mental level... normally do it because that's the type of person they are... never satisfied with what they got. he's obviously insecure and needs attention from other women to feel more like a man. you need to check him.
2007-05-11 04:25:25 · answer #11 · answered by Missy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋