do you consider living together married?

Question

I live with my boyfriend, and alot of people say, ''O you went and got married!"

I dont consider us being married, I think we are still somewhat dating. True enough I dont work, and rely on him to fully support which he does!

I still dont considered it married. I love how things are and so does he!

Are you happy just living together?

I go to school full time, so I DONT JUST sit around all day. I have one year left, so we agreed that i wouldnt work until I finished! I still see us dating, we dont spend every waking moment together. HE has his friend I have mine, we been together 3 years and I love him SO much.

Answer 1

No, that's absurd.

And yes, I would rather just live together than get married.

Answer 2

I've been with my bf for 2 years. He lives in another state. After we'd been together for several month, people started asking me when he was going to move here, or if we were gonna get married. I would get so frustrated with those questions b/c it's like they're saying our relationship is not enough the way it is. We're both happy with the way things are. We're committed, faithful, trusting & we love being together, yet we still have our time apart & that's just as valuable. Thankfully people have stopped with those questions.
I have a friend that has been with her significant other for 7-8 years now. They don't plan on ever getting married just b/c they don't want to do, and they're perfectly happy. They bought a house together, although he's not there very much b/c he's an archeaologist & travels a lot for work.

Answer 3

Having lived with the same man for 12 years without marrying him, I can say that I wouldn't have it any other way. We are both happy, and have no plans to make it legal.

However, we do not live in a common law state, so we have no problems with society telling us that we're married anyway. Do a little research on your state to determine if in a few years, you would be considered legally married. Most of it has to do with how you represent yourselves publicly (as husband and wife, or as a couple not planning to marry).

Also, might I advise a trip to a lawyer. As someone who's not a legal partner, you will have no say in your loved one's care etc in the event of a serious illness or accident, and vice versa. The lawyer can also tell you about the ramifications in the event that one of you dies.

We've already handled all of these things, it leaves us free to just live and be happy, and not worry what will happen in worst case scenarios.

I wish you a long happy relationship.

Answer 4

You can be happy living together without any further commitment. Living together isn't considered "married." Those people who say you MUST be married still subscribe to the old-school way of thinking that you have to be married to live together. In some states, though, you can have a "common law" marriage if you begin using his last name, such as with a checking account, or signing it on documents. Not sure exactly how it works, but you may check it out if that's what you're doing.

If not, don't sweat it. Live together, see if it works out. If it makes you happy, go with it!

Answer 5

The answer to whether two people are happy with just living together will depend from couple to couple. This arrangement however does not have any legal validity, meaning he will not have to support you if the both of you split up. But if you're planning to be with this person for the rest of your life, it would be a good idea to get married. This will be useful if the both of you, god forbid, should get into a legal tussle. That being said, if the both of you are comfortable with just living together, then I do not see any problem. After all, above legality, it is the understanding between two persons that keeps them together..

Answer 6

Living together was never part of God's divine plan. Marriage and the rights afforded therein are given for a husband and wife. Living together is nothing more than fornication no matter what the law of the land says or what people say (Matt. 19:6ff). Living together is a form of half-way committment. The marriage is the thing that makes God happy because its His plan.

Those who forsake the plan of God will be lost if they die in that sin (I Cor. 6:9ff). It is a proven fact, studies have been done, that show that living together before marriage brings the chances of the marriage working out for less than 7 years.

The world has made a mockery of marriage and therefore we have people living in fornication and adultery with no regard to their soul or their appointment with the judgment.

Answer 7

Nope, u aren't married and aren't considered married in the eyes of the law. By the way, u might want to get a job, being fully reliable on anyone (besides ur parents) to take care of u isn't a good thing. If he boots u out, what would u do? Something u might want to consider. U always want 2 b independant on some level-that's sexy. Dont be surprised one day if he tell u it's over and moves in w/ a woman who works and helps him out w/ bill and such.

Answer 8

I dont consider living together married because if you are happy where u are then dont worry about other peoples points and views. Im happy with my boyfriend for 2 years and im not consedering us married yet. And also if you are not ready for that in the laws eyes you are both commoninlaw after 6 months. Love Emma

Answer 9

Marriage is a divine institution. It provides for intimate relationship between husband and wife along with a feeling of security because there is a climate of love and because of personal commitment has been made by each mate.

Getting legally married plays an important part in having a marriage that is accepted as being "honorable."

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Answer 10

I've never understood the concept of "just" living together. You don't have to be married to be in a long-term, committed relationship. But you can't be just dating and living together, especailly while he supports you financially. In Canada and some states, you will be considered the equivalent to married after a specified period of time (e.g.18 months). Check the law in your area. You may be "married" already.

Answer 11

Many people take living together more seriously than you seem to.

Since, you really don't take this situation too seriously please do not allow children to be born out of this. It would not be fair, or easy on any of you.

Also, think about being prepared to earn a living. Sooner or later you are bound to need it. I hope it won't be while you are doing a solo act with dependant children. It is just a good plan all around to be prepared to do this. It will make you a stronger person, as well.