I am married and have a daugher.lately i've been quarelling with my husband about stupid things i.e works, pc n his family problem. he pushed me the last time we're quarelling n i just cant take it anymore. i want to stay away from him but im thinking about my daughter n im afraid of living alone.but i just cant look at his face anymore afraid that i'll hate him more or i'll be soft with him.i cant even talk to him nicely again like before.i m just to frustrated with him.should i pretend like its a normal thing in marriege or should i leave him?
2007-05-11 03:44:09 · 14 answers · asked by bumblebee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
LEAVE LEAVE LEAVE!!!! Think about your daughter, its better she grow up in a peaceful home than a tense one.
Think of yourself, it always starts with just a push.
dont walk RUN!
2007-05-11 03:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by mom~of~7 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You said you were bugging him about stupid things. Don't do that! He shouldn't have pushed you but you must have drove him to feel like he needed to shut you up somehow and he did it the wrong way. If you allow him to push you it could turn into much worse. For your daughter's sake, don't bug him about petty things. Don't nag and make sure he understands that pushing you is not acceptable. You will learn to love him again. You made a commitment so stick with it unless he ends up beating you or hitting your daughter, then you must call the police and leave. But for now it's safe to say you can work it out. Get counseling. It sounds like maybe your insecurities are causing you to be afraid of him more than what he did. Good luck!
2007-05-11 10:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by fourzenuff 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you had a medical checkup to see if you have something wrong? You admitted yourself you were arguing about stupid things. Think about it? If he works and supports you then he can't be a green eyed monster or something; try and meet him half way and think things through. Be a part of the solution and not the problem.
2007-05-11 11:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking of your daughter, do you want her to live with parents that fight like this? Do you want her to think its normal for a man to push a woman around or maybe worse? Do you want your relationships and how you handle them to be her future model for her own relationships? People learn by example, even kids. Either get marriage counseling to work things out or get out. Good luck .
2007-05-11 10:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your relationship doesn't sound very healthy. You daughter would be better off with you guys seperated because she is seeing and hearing you argue with your husband, and thats not good for her. Even if you don't fight in front of her she can still feel the tension between you and your husband no matter how old she is. I think both of you would be alot better off seperated. Just from what you have written.
2007-05-11 10:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by ga_miss_thang777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this was just an argument, I would say talk to him and work things out. But you said that he pushed you, which could lead to him hitting you. That is not acceptable, so for your sake and your daughter's sake I think you should leave him. Think of your daughter, if he will push you and possibly hit you what makes you think he will stop at you?
2007-05-11 10:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by Tony S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should go see a marriage counselor. Also maybe seperating would help. Fighting does so much damage to your child. She will never forget those fights and that mommy and daddy were always angery. So get it fixed soon before any long term damage is done. good luck sweetie, marriage isn't easy that's for sure.
2007-05-11 10:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by cat_tails_77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think, can you be happy with him 10 years on ?
Only yu can answer that, if not then cut yr losses and get out now, but if you feel you still love him then make every effort to make things work, start by talking to him, else get professional help.
Good luck
2007-05-11 10:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by aunt_webby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you acting this way because he pushed you while you were arguing? Just lay down the law and let him know that it is not acceptable to ever lay his hands on you in this way. Did he ever apologize for doing that? And if he did, was he sincere??? Its definetly not normal but everyone makes mistakes, just make sure this is one he isn't going to repeat.
2007-05-11 10:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by pcchocoholic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Breaking a relationship is very easy,but the consequenses are seriousely bad.Every relationship has problems.Dont leave your husband.You'll be more frustated than now.Just ignore him and avoid arguements.
2007-05-11 10:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋