I am a generally good person but every now and then I have done a few things I am not so proud of. In my heart I know that I mean no harm to anybody but when these things happen I sink into a depression and self loathing mode. I have never intentionally hurt anybody. for instance one day I looked at a couple of pornographic images at work and I just about let myself go because of it. If I feel bad about this kind of thing does that just mean that I have a conscious. I have stopped and I have vowed to myself not to let it happen again. I mean my job could have been at stake and I have a great job. Also sometimes I feel negative feeling for the one I love. She is really trying her best and i do love her very much. Couldn't stand to lose her. does this mean I am a bad person or have I just had a few moments of weakness? I want to live a long and fruitful life but when I feel this way I feel like I don't deserve to live at all. any advice...?
2007-05-11 03:26:48 · 15 answers · asked by J G 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
To me, humility is one of the clearest indicators of a person's character. I think that "guilt" or "conscience" or "the conviction of the Holy Spirirt" can be a great gift, inspiring us to learn and grow.
What is hard for many, is having a moral compass of "right" or "wrong" but not to have any guide for it. To me, the only way I can live in safety is to be under the care of a loving God as I understand him.
All of those things you describe: interest in pornography, negative feelings about loved ones, vowing to change and being unable to do so, etc. are common to Man, and anyone who tells you differently is either a liar or is in extreme denial about their own nature.
I am sure to be flamed for it, but your honest question really resonated with me, so I urge you to turn to the One who created you.
"Taste and see that the Lord is good." (Ps. 46)
2007-05-11 03:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone does things that they regret. I have done several. Making mistakes is a human error, it doesnt mean your a bad person. After all, everyone does things they know they shouldnt. My advice to you, is before you act on these negative impulses, think about the consequences. Think about what it would be like to loose your job, think about life without your significant other. Thinking about consequences before acting can really help. does your girl now how your feeling? maybe you could try talking it over with her. I really think that you need to try talking to some one and vent a little bit. I used to have hopeless feelings to... I still do sometimes, but I got help. If you ever need anyone to talk to, u can chat w/ me anytime. if all comes to worst, maybe try seeking a counselor?? And from what I've heard you are a good person, a good man who has just made some little mistakes. You deserve to live a good and happy life, and I know you can work things out!.
2007-05-11 03:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
J.G. it sounds like you are repentant of what you did. It also sounds as if you may have some self sabotaging or self destructive behaviors and thoughts. That is worrisome. I am certain you are a good person. You recognize it in yourself and recognize that you may have a problem. I am strongly advocating for you to seek counseling. The reason is that there seems to be an all or nothingness about your attitude toward yourself. You can become very healthy, mentally and emotionally, if you nip this in the bud. If you don't you may end up with more serious problems in the future. We care. Get some counseling. Good luck. Nana
2007-05-11 03:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres a sprint stable and undesirable in definitely everyone. no person's completely perfect, and melancholy isn't the thank you to help this occasion. you're able to not experience undesirable, you're human. I recommend in case you probably did not have some flaws you would be a robotic! And no person desires thus far a robotic! have faith me, if my fiance and that i on no account had a conflict of words i may be in finished melancholy. i understand i'm not perfect so i don't choose to be with every physique who thinks that the two they are or I could be! And from a girl's view i think of she loves you for the guy you're. there are circumstances whilst issues get a sprint attempting and tricky yet according to possibility you and your lover could talk it over. after all i'm effective once you adult males have been given jointly she did not think of you have been perfect then did she? nicely stable success!
2016-10-04 21:47:48 · answer #4 · answered by carol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
porno is my area lol. I watch it on a regular basis I find it entertaining and I get ideas from it that I can try out. My b/f is not an avid watcher and I have to hide the fact that I still am. He's really good looking a wonderful guy but its all a fanasty everyone has them. Don't be down on yourself but I would stop with the porn at work that's a no no. Hope this helped.
2007-05-11 03:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mosh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is what I say "Nobodies a bad person they just make bad decisions". I did that before and I haven't done it for two years. So just sit you girlfriend down and tell her what you did but you stop. Just say I was surfing the web and I got board and I looked at porn. Don't worry if she really loves you then she will understand. And if you still feel bad after that go and pray to God and tell him you made a really bad choice. And he will forgive you.
Good Luck!!!
2007-05-11 03:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by So... Kiss Me! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. You sound like you are human. We all have things we have done and are not proud of. The important thing is that you learn from it and move on. Don't dwell on it because it will become an obsession and you can't move on to the next stage.
2007-05-11 03:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A Good, Up-right, Honest Person Can always Stumble, and do Bad Things. NO ONE IS PERFECT. YOU are Human......."The SPIRIT IS WILLING BUT THE FLESH IS WEAK" Is the way GOD puts It. Just get control of your negative thoughts.......Yes, That is Your Conscience talking to You, and you want to Listen to It. Let Your conscience Be YOUR Guide........It Won't Lie To YOU!! Remember, you are just Human, like we are!! "WORK ON LIKING YOURSELF"! "GOD LOVES YOU!" (trust me )
2007-05-11 06:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly normal. As much as I love my husband with all my heart, somtimes I just don't want to be around him, ya know? And yea, you have a concious, or you wouldn't even be wondering these things! Lighten up on yourself. You are fine!
2007-05-11 03:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All the time hon...all the time. The good that we wish to do is taken over by the bad we do. And the bad that we do not want to do, takes over the good that we want to do. All basically "good" people have this dillema.
2007-05-11 03:31:25 · answer #10 · answered by Belinda O 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋