messages sent to some girl and over 550 recieved from that same girl on one month on his cell bill.... and the texts were all days of the week and all hours of the night and day... including midnight to 2am and then started back up first thing in the morning??? What would you thoughts be and what would you do?? He says it is helping her study (I don't buy it)...
2007-05-11 03:13:10 · 38 answers · asked by JC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's A LOT of text messages in one month! Actually, that would be a lot of text messages in a few months!! I totally do not believe it has anything to do with studying. It may have started out with studying and led to something else. I surely wouldn't put up with that from my husband. That is so disrespectful to you. Good luck.
2007-05-11 04:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by sassysusie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure the story with your particualr relationship. Has he ever given you reason not to trust him? I had the exact same problem last year and once I dug into the matter a little bit deeper, I found there was a real internet relationship going on between the two of them. I ended up divorcing my husband of 4 years over this problem because I could no longer trust him. I was crushed when I saw the cell bill and learned what was going on. I do not believe that a person will sit and text all day long to someone when nothing else is going on - good luck sweetheart, I hope your guy is telling the truth! Check his picture vidoe messages at well to see if he is sending these, you would be shocked at what people will send over the cell phone - I know I was.
2007-05-11 03:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by sadgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this will be a little long... As i went through your other questions and compared them to this question i noticed something.... You have a bad husband (not to be rude though) You said in your other messages that he has sent "flirty" text messages before and even had an affair one time (if its the same guy =) )
Point is is by now the behavior has gone to far and you know as well as I do and anyone else who has just a little bit of intelligence that he is not helping her "study" all day long. I mean between me and my fiancee we sent like 300 texts this month but over 500 is kinda ridiculous.
I know its hard to go through a divorce and breaking up and everything but girl he is playing you for a fool and not even showing remorse. remember fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me.
You need to really put your foot down and if he can't stop this on going problem you need to really consider breaking it off and finding someone who will treat you so much better and with so much more respect.
If he cares about you enough then if you tell him that talking to all these girls and flirting with them makes you feel uncomfortable then he would stop if he truly cared. Im starting to think he really feels the quote "once a cheater always a cheater".
Just do something about it before your feelings get really hurt because obviously you (and no one for that matter) deserves that kind of treatment and he doesn't deserve you.
I know you prob. really do love him to still be with him to go through everything you have gone through, but sometimes you just need to take care of yourself because if you wont then no one will. I wish you luck and I really do hope you can get some change out of him.
Good luck and God bless you
2007-05-11 08:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..if you are not 100% why don't you read his phone..he should keep the msgs..otherwise if he is erasing them...it must be for a reason..or call the cell company and ask for a copy of the statement, and see if they can provide you with all text msg...that might help you...now what you can do is confront him, tell him how you feel, if he would like for you to do that and then send her to hell, because he is a married man, he has a wife, ans she has to learn how to respect that, she shouldn't be writing so late..no even..not at all!...(that's what I did, because something similar was going on...but she was an old gf)...
Another thing you might do its...if you guys have the same phone switched without him knowing..and see what she writes...or just take the phone away from him...
2007-05-11 03:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and in my opinion it's cheating. He's having a virtual affair. Tell him he needs to put an end to it. If she's local, he could actually be cheating. Get that phone number and call her yourself. That's what I did and the girl didn't even know he was married so I didn't get mad at her. So calmly call her and find out what's going on for yourself. He'll say you're just being jealous but it's not that when it's that many texts you have every right.
2007-05-11 03:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by fourzenuff 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yikes, make sure he had unlimited text so I did not get stuck with the bill. and there is obviously something going on. my wife had a girl freind she talked to first thing in the morning and last before bed, she left me within 6 monthes of that starting. However..... there is a woman I know with a bad marriage and i talk to her all the time, but I am the best thing her husband has going for him. you should work on your trust issues. if things were really good between you you would have no reason to doupt and he would have no reason to cheat. if I had it to do over i would have totally forgot about what the girlfreind was doing and try to fix my situation it is the only thing I had power over. and I wasted my time complaining that she was spending so much times else where.
2007-05-11 03:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by mike510 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm guessing you found out about this by the phone bill and NOT by your husband. If it is as innocent as helping her study why didn't he tell you about it before???? Does he hide his phone when he is showering, or sleeping? Does he keep it on silent when he is with you? Try to get a hold of his phone sometime. If the messages are there read them, or does he clear them all off. . . If you can get a hold of his phone and the messages are deleted. Text the girl pretending to be him. . . see what she says. . . . If you want to find out the truth sometimes you have to be a little sneaky
2007-05-11 03:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's nearly twenty messages a day! Each!! Now I'm not one to be jealous. In fact I've been accused of tolerating too much and not seeing the obvious. But even I flinch at that level of communication. Unless you're getting messages like that from him, too, it seems suspect. And homework help? Please. You'd pick up the phone and call for homework help and you sure as hell wouldn't be doing homework from the minute you got up 'til you went to bed.
Hell, if the guy's gonna lie to you, the least he can do is show you the courtesy of a plausible lie!
2007-05-11 03:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
*WoW...umm...red flag is going up!!
~~So is "study" what they're calling it these days?!
.Is this a serious question?.
.Haha...where do I begin to tell you what I would think?.
~I say he's full of sh** and that he's cheating.
~No one helps someone "study" by sending 550 text messages. Especially not at 2 am either. And the first thing in the morning.
**I say you play Sherlock and start digging into this. Call the girl and say WTF?!.....I would. Let her know who you are.
.........good luck.
2007-05-11 03:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Shut your mouth when u tlk to me 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Truthfulyl I would not feel very comfortable. I do not know how to answer this question fully because you did not explain the context of the 550 texts.
2007-05-11 15:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by happytree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋