Anybody who can answer this one, I am very interested , since I have always been single.
When you are married, do you still find yourself very attracted to other members of the opposite sex? How so?
How do you cope with this?
Is it possible to be in love with more than one of the opposite sex and still be happily married?
I mean, I could not and would not want to be limited to only one person ever I think.
2007-05-11 02:30:34 · 22 answers · asked by ? 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
IN A HAPPY MARRIAGE, IS IT POSSIBLE TO FIND THAT ONE WHO FITS YOUR PERSONALITY LIKE A LOCK AND KEY?
ARE THEN "LOCKED UP"?
2007-05-11 02:34:57 · update #1
never get married...
2007-05-11 02:33:58 · answer #1 · answered by Doodie 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Unless a person has no sight, it is still nice to look at attractive people from the opposite sex, however, I am no longer attracted to them. Since i met and fell in love with my hubby 24 years ago, I've never felt as though I was in love with any other member of the opposite sex, other than friendship.
My husband and I are total opposites, but he really does hold the key to my heart. And I can honestly say, I would never want to be with anyone else but him in my life. I was so very blessed the day I met him, and he has brought me more happiness than I could have ever hoped for.
There's nothing wrong with being single, either! You might meet that special someone one day, and if not...just keep having a great time! In the meantime, have a wonderful weekend! Annie
2007-05-11 09:44:08 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well of course you are still attracted to members of the opposite sex. Nobody puts blinkers on you as you walk back up the aisle from saying your vows.
Once you are married the opposite sex become a spectator sport instead of a contact sport if you know what I mean. You have to control your feelings and remember the vows you took on your wedding day.
It is strictly look but don't touch. maybe if you found the right person you would be quite happy being limited to them, though saying that if you were very in love with them you would not feel that it is a limitation!
2007-05-11 09:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jolly Jo Jo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't speak for everyone, but for myself, I have frequently been attracted to men other than my husband. Even here on Y!A I will find myself thinking about different people I have come to "know" and wish I knew better.
I sometimes have to pray about this issue, personally, because it is a weak point in my character and I have to guard against it.
How to cope? Be very clear in your mind what your intentions are. Don't lie to yourself. Don't lie to other people about your availablity.
I don't think (myself) that I could be "in love" with more than one person, married or not. I am not sure about other people. I have known people who genuinely thought they were, and I could see their point of view, though still feel that God had something higher in mind for marriage.
As long as you feel you would not want to be "limited" I would not recommend marriage. I think there are a good many people (especially men, unfortunately) who marry just because they think they "should" and then are unfaithful, tearing the whole fabric of society and family.
All the best.
2007-05-11 09:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does not eliminate those feelings.
If you are thinking you will still be attracted to, and in love with, more people of the opposite sex, then I recommend you never marry.
2007-05-11 09:35:38 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think for a marriage to be successful you have to marry your soul mate, it's no use going into the process with the view that you can change a person, although people do change. It takes a lot of hard work as well, because sometimes you have to be tolerant.
Of course other people still catch your eye, it's the not acting on it that's important.
You will want to be limited to one person one day, you just haven't met her yet.
2007-05-11 09:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by Oldgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do find yourself attracted to other people, but usually you love your spouse so much that the idea of lying to them or hurting them prevents you from acting on those feelings. Obviously this is not always the case, hence all the cheating and divorce. But if you love and respect somebody it can be quite easy. When you find the RIGHT person, you'll know and others will be insignificant.
2007-05-11 09:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since I started dating my husband, I haven't even been interested in LOOKING at the opposite sex, let along being attracted to them. If you are truly, deeply in love, and are really committed, I don't think your heart allows you to love anyone else, or be attracted to anyone else. Sure, you can find people attractive, but that is so entirely different from being attracted TO them!
2007-05-11 09:34:55 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone one is different. but i think you will always find different members of the opposite sex attractive. the way me and my husband deal with it is by never ignoring each other and keeping yourself looking attractive for your partner. when we are out together he will point to people he finds attractive and i will either agree or not. but we have a laugh about it!
2007-05-11 09:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by ainysmom2001 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tried marriage, and although I was attracted to others during that time I never acted on it. However once I got divorced I made the decision not to do it again, so now if I am attracted to someone, and they are to me I don't have any feelings of guilt, and I am free to act on my attraction!
2007-05-11 10:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Ellie L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is I'm not eligable to answer this because I'm not married but do know lots that are and they are very happy well I think they are, it works for some and not for others .x
2007-05-11 09:43:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋