Why is it that NO ONE believes that two teenagers can really be in love?? What because we don't have any "experience" in the world? What is it? There is a reason high school sweethearts exist. Maybe it's beacause when most people were teenagers they were morons and dated people that were horrible for them them tainting the idea of young love being real for them. Why be so bitter??
2007-05-11 01:53:05 · 13 answers · asked by SayAnything 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
yea, i understand the changing and growth factor. but what really annoys me is that no one, because it is so rare, believes that it can happen at all.
im not making definite plans for the future. im taking things a day at a time. but everyone seems to keep putting an expiration date on my relationship with my boyfriend and its like I dont know what going to happen and you dont so dont assume we are going to crash and burn just because we are 18 years old.
also alot of people take into account that all teenagers are stupid and not capable of mature emotions. some are. it depends on the person.
2007-05-11 02:08:28 · update #1
It's not that adults don't believe in young love, it's just that for some of us our teenage love didn't last forever.
I dated the same guy from the time I was in the sixth grade and we stayed together until our senior year. I truly thought he was my forever love. But the thing about teenage love is, while your experancing it, you are also growing up and changing. I wanted to be with him so bad. I thought he was the greatest catch in school. Football player, pitcher for the baseball team, wrestler. He was our schools top jock, and as a young teenage girl that impressed me. (sounds kinda shallow don't it) Anyway, we grew apart. To me he acted like abig kid, and I wanted someone who could grow up.
Today we are both married to other people, and it was truly for the best. When I see him, it makes me smile, and he will always hold a very special place in my heart, but the love I feel for him today is more like a brother/sister kinda thing. I know being young and in the moment , you truly believe that you have the greatest love of all time, and you may in fact have that. But just keep in mind that when you grow you are expanding in all areas of your life, sometimes we out grow our young loves. It does not take away from the happiness they brought us, it just makes us value the next one even more.
Last but not least, I don't want you to think that everyone is against young love lasting. I know many couples who have been together since high school. My parents are one of them. They have been together for 37 years.
God Bless and Good luck.
2007-05-11 02:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Cresha B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone doubts that teenagers can experience love, but the it is very rare for that love to last forever. Teens will often talk about getting married to their significant other, when in reality, that almost never happens. It is a time where your hormones are rushing through your body, you are changing as a person and it's a time for experimentation.
It's easy to say "this is different", but in reality most older people went through the exact same thing. After turning 16 I was with someone for 3 years. I thought he was everything. I truly did love him. Eventually though, we were just so different and we had grown so far apart that it wasn't go to last. I think many other teens have similar experiences.
It is fine to love someone at your age, but you really shouldn't take things so seriously. Just take it as it comes and try not to make too many plans for the future in terms of your relationship. It may very well work out for you, but chances are it won't. Once you get into your 20's, you'll see what I mean.
Good luck.
2007-05-11 02:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by Bipolar Bear 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The reason that most adults don't believe in teenage love is because we've been there and done that, and we know that very few will be with their teenage love ten years down the track.
Its not that we don't remember how intense the feelings are, and how the one person felt like our whole world, we do. But they are fond memories of something that passed. And real love, true love, is the lasting kind.
For most, teenage love is just a learning experience. How to be in a relationship, what works, and what didn't. Its a growing thing. Not unimportant in itself, just not all there is, even if it feels that way at the time.
2007-05-11 02:10:56 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but I do beleove that most teenagers don't really experience love. Love is a very mature emotion and it takes a lot of time and life excperience to differentiate that from "really like" or "really horny" for someone. I dated my HS sweetheart for 6 years and as we grew into adulthood we BOTH changed into far different people than we were as teenagers. I look back on this experience and say, "Hey we had a good thing for awhile but boy am I glad we aren't married." And I am positive she says the same thing. But if you had asked us as teenagers we would have sworn it was meant to be for life. As a teen, you have many years of serious CHANGE ahead of you. You will finish school (hopefully) move out of your parents' house (hopefully), get a job, go to college or whatever. You may travel. You will likely meet MANY new people. Your view of the world around you WILL change. Probably several times. I think two adults who met each other as teens is the coolest and most romantic thing in the world, but I also think it's damn rare. And it;s rare for all of the above reasons. There are many wonderful people out there. As you grow and change you will want to date some of these people and explore who you might want as a mate for life. Good luck!
2007-05-11 02:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by baldisbeautiful 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
fairly... love has no age. for sure i imagine that genuine teenage love is unusual, no longer the kind the position the kids are basically lovey dovey and tender feely each and every of the time, yet genuine love. the kind the position the couple would not ought to make out in darkish hallways or maybe contact one yet another because they have a particular connection, that maximum individuals don't realize. Hormones can get contained in the way, yet each and every now and then there are a boy and a lady who're mature previous their years. call me naive, yet i opt to believe that some people locate their soulmate early in life. although if the few little ones who're fairly in love advance aside through the years (which no longer not likely, because teens change plenty), they nevertheless were in love.
2016-10-18 07:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by svendsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason a lot of people think it's not real is because when you are a teenager you are not mature enough to know the difference between love and infatuation. you can't have a real relationship when you are a teenager. dating is so much different when you are older. i don't think that they are really trying taint the idea of young love but they just don't take it as seriously. it's puppy love. you can't really grasp all the aspects of love when you are in high school. seeing someone a couple days after school and then on the weekends isn't the same as having an adult relationship. a lot of people think they are in love when they are not.
2007-05-11 02:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Exactly. Why be so bitter. We all believe in teenage love. It's the whole "there'll never be anyone else, this is who I'm going to marry" most of us caution against. Why? Because we lived it too. Been there done that. Why don't teenagers accept the life experiences of adults? You don't have to do it, just pay head to it. There is value in what we say and it's for a reason that you do not yet see.
2007-05-11 01:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a matter of being bitter. We've been there and know the results, and how love feels when one is older. Teenagers are still children and are preparing for adulthood. No need to rush.
Yes, there are many people who are married to their teenage sweetheart and the marriages have lasted, which is wonderful.
2007-05-11 02:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
because its puppy love, and 9/10 it never really lasts that's where the old flame comes in or high school sweet heart. teenagers want to see what its like with different people (sex) the curiosity kicks in at that age. and boredom of being with only 1 person drives them to finding something new.
well i do hope it lasts with your boyfriends but whats starts early ive found to be rare to last but my parents met when she was 18 he 24 and still together 25 years later. any thing is possible. but alot end up in affairs. best of luck to you.
2007-05-11 02:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by dragontears 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teenagers do experience "love", but as adults we know and understand that just as we felt the power of love when we were teens. We also know that in a few years teens will then be adults and view their teen love as a lesser form of love than that of an adult.
I have no bitterness toward my teen love experiences, they helped me learn and grow.
2007-05-11 02:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋