My husband wants a divorce says he can't let go of what happened to him in his first marriage (she cheated on him) and I would be better off. He has kept a tally of my mistakes and I am tired of it too but deep down inside I still love him. What should I do?
2007-05-11 00:32:41 · 14 answers · asked by Jennifer G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he has something else on his mind what I would be asking is if he felt this why did he marry you to begin with and if he is not in this with you get out now you deserve to be happy not looking over your shoulder wondering and worrying if you do something small he may leave you
2007-05-11 00:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't good husband material unless he gets some counseling to straighten his head out. He's a mess. He should be keeping a tally of his mistakes, not yours.
2007-05-11 00:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counselling, or just counselling for him, would be helpful.
Suggest it, even try to find a counsellor for your marriage, before giving up. Tell him you'll go, too.
Keeping a 'tally' is wrong for anybody.
My guess, he's letting his fear of abandonment / fear of his partner cheating get the better of him.
I wish you the best.
2007-05-11 01:08:31 · answer #3 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and realy talk to him about this make him see that you love him and that you are not like his exwife.and that all women do not cheat on their husbands.He has been hurt very badly once and is scared that it will happen again.so he is cutting of his nose to despite his face .TRY and get him to go with you to see a marrage guidance councilor as this may help him come to terms with what his first wife did to him and in so doing will help to save your marrage. he is not being very fair to you.and he dose need help even if you both do eventualy break up as he will never be able to have a meaningful relationship with anyone untill he deals with his problems of his first marrage break up
2007-05-11 00:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by joan_tipton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out .You r w/ a man who does not accept you for you and cannot love despite mistakes you have made .He refuses to accept that maybe he was part of the problem & instead of dealing w/ the situation his devotion lyes w/ his pride . it is himself he cares about not you,.........!!!!!!! You will never be in love w/ him again b/c he keeps making mistakes and excuses for being a bad husband. He chooses to blame you instead of seeing the pitfalls of the relationship and fixing the problem.
2007-05-11 00:51:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He's keeping tallies on the wrong person.
2007-05-11 01:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for counselling. It sounds like there is love there. He needs to let go of his fears. My first husband cheated on me but I still trust my new husband.
If you fight to save your marriage, he might be impressed by your sincerity and believe you.
2007-05-11 00:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
omg i think you married my hubby! no... i think i married your hubby! sorry... anyways... you will probably always love him, but until he can learn to let go of his past he cant build a future with anyone. let him go. and id like to know how things work out for you since this is the same boat i am in as well, good luck!
2007-05-11 00:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by Heady S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the first one to file for a divorce on grounds of alienation of affection and next time understand what your getting into.
2007-05-11 00:37:36 · answer #9 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
He is being honest with you.Let him go and move on..
2007-05-11 00:42:22 · answer #10 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋