Ex girl is confusing my feeling & I want to see if any femals/males has had similar problems & how u delt with

Question

When we first split she said that it was a break that she needed, then later i learned that she liked another guy. she said that with me she lost the love and the butterflies, and their were moments too that i did not feel them, but i was happy with her and my feelings were always strong. now it has been 1 month that we split and she is telling me that she likes this guy, but in the same time she says that she feels that if we get back together that our love for one another is going to be everlasting. the thing that confuses me is that there are moments that makes me feel that she is falling for me again and then their are moments that the only reason that she is hanging out with me is just because she has nobody else. The other guy is 10 years older, has a daughter, lives with the ex girl, my ex she is 21 and goes to college and is a strong women that is lost right now. i want to know what should i do, i love, i miss her, i dont know if i should just ignor her, be there, or what? Help

the detail about the new guy seem mean. but the thing is that i love her very much and that i really do miss her, but i understand that she needs time, and only time will say what is going to happen to us, it is hard to even get into my car because of all the good memories that we have, work the same thing, iv worked there for three years now and i only took her 3 times but everywhere that i took her at i just remember her. i know that i should not think about her, but my heart just start pumping the feeling and memerios all over my body. she really came in the right time in my life, i was very depressed and felt very lonely even thought i had many friends, when she came into my life she is a girl that has caught my attention and till this day i cant figure out why did i feel for her and i only saw her for 10 min total and i invited her to my prom, back in high school, and ever sence i was in love. and yeah the first love is hard to forget but why are their many strong feelings 4 her??

Answer 1

Seriously, would u be willing to always have to think about "what if she falls for someone else?" I think.. if she can leave u for a guy once, she will leave you a second time. She's not worth your time and i think you should just keep those memories in your heart and move on.

Imagine if you continued your relationship with her for another 5-10 years. If she suddenly runs away with another guy, you will be devastated. Dont give her a chance to do that. Just walk away. Time will heal the wounds even if scars still exist.

I think she's still relatively young and pretty fickle. Hope you make the right choice. You should look for a love that you can trust. You cant survive on love alone forever. For your information.. if you have only been with her for 1-2 years, some hormones in your body causes the feeling of "love". after 2 years your hormones return to normal level. Just give yourself some time to get over her.

Answer 2

She's obviously going to play both of you as long as she can. I don't know, maybe she likes the attention, maybe she's needs to feel important and having two guys that want her fulfills that need. But while she's fulfilling her wants she's forgeting your feelings. It hurts knowing the one you love more then anything is telling some guy all the sweet things she tells you. My advice is to try to get to know other girls. You've given your ex time to figure stuff out, which is a whole month more than most would have. If your ex gets mad about you going out on dates with other girls to explore your feelings too, then thats a huge double-standard and the girl really isn't worth it and my thoughts about why she's doing this are correct. If she says something like, "Ok, we'll both take a break, date other people to see what happens and maybe get back together someday after we're both sure of this relationship." then thats great and very possibly might work out in the future. Otherwise lose her, because if she knows she can walk all over you like this she'll always do it. Come on dude, don't you know you deserve better than that?

Answer 3

i had a similar situation...i wasn't dating someone else, but i did have feelings for someone new and wasn't sure what to do with my "ex" at the time. but it only took me a few weeks to decide what to do. she's doing this because simply put, she wants to keep you around for when she's lonely and feeling unwanted. even if you guys end up getting back together, that seed is already planted in her head and it's doubtful that it will work out in the long run. please, DON'T be the guy that continues to be there for someone who doesn't deserve it!

Answer 4

She just wants you to be in the background if the guy dumps her. Ofcourse she'll flirt with you and give you false hope!! dont fall for it. Move on please. i know it hurts, believe me, i do, but you just have to. And the thing about the butterflies... YOu only get that in the beginning of a relationship when you're IN LOVE, after that, they gona, come once in a while and the you have true love..

Answer 5

She is seeing someone else. Don't you realize that she is just keeping you on the side in case this relationship does not work? Tell her that she needs to make a decision once and for all. If she wants to be with him, tell her not to contact you any more. You deserve to find happiness for yourself instead of just waiting for her to figure out if she wants you. Don't be her fool. Move on.

Answer 6

i just read the the first few lines.. had a similar situation once.. she aint worth any attention bro.. walk away.. she is using u as a back up..

Answer 7

Another man comes along and she's chasing after him. She's not worth keeping around.

Answer 8

she doesnt know what she wants she is confused she doesnt exactly want you out of her life but she not ready for committment.

Answer 9

simply forget her

Answer 10

Leave her alone.