i feel she is using me but when others are in her life she dont, want?

Question

to know me and it makes me feel inferior in a way, i am only good enough when she is not friends with them and she is critical, moans at my grandson alot, i dont, want her round anymore, she seems stuck up, she is going to come round soon when needy i will say i am busy do you think i am in the right sick of being a pushover

Answer 1

Anyone who cannot decide if they wish to be a friend to you and alternates between being friendly with you and avoiding you when other people are around, whom they may feel are more desirable than you, is not worth your time.
You are correct in feeling as though that person is using you because if the person you are describing was sincere in his or her feelings toward you, that person would be consistent and unchanging.

Answer 2

You already know the answer, yes your being used, sounds a lot like someone i used to know, those kind of people end up very lonely because they're very self centered and thats not a nice way to be, is she a friend or a partner? she can't go around moaning at your grandson demeaning him. Sounds like you've made your mind up, say your piece to her but don't fall for the sympathy vote because it will go back to normal very soon, good luck with this.

Answer 3

if you don't want to see her anymore tell her ,and why, life to short she is self centre and you are a fool sorry for putting up with that , tell her no more ,see how she likes beaning on the receiving end of beaning pushed a round. good luck silver fox

Answer 4

I have a mate like that... always wants to see me when she is alone / down has a problem / needs somthing. Never there when I need her... if her life is going well dont see or here from her... never returns my calls etc.... I just dont bother with her any more dont need people like that bothering me.... Dont sound like she is a friend really.... so just forget about her and move on with your life.

Answer 5

Most of the relations crash due to lack of understanding/especially problems.An open and free talk may solve the problems.Try that before taking final decision.