2007-05-09 19:58:05 · 67 answers · asked by Livinrawguy 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take the time necessary to get to know someone VERY well before taking the plunge! Base your marriage upon many shared values and interests. Be the kind of person who will attract a quality person into your life. To get a good partner, BE a good partner. Always put the other person first. Let her know that you value her by showing, through your actions that she is the most wonderful creature you have ever known. Give of yourself, your time, your attention, your kind words. Be thoughtful, loving and sweet. Strive to be there for her, LISTEN to her!!! Validate her worth by your actions, by your devotion, by your attention. Give yourself to her, and her alone, cleave unto her and none else, let no one into your heart, make her the ONLY one. Give, give, give, and give some more! Say you are sorry when you do something thoughtless. Be very quick to forgive when she makes a mistake. Care for her, adore her, thank her when she helps you, NOTICE the little things that she does for you and thank her daily. Bring her a flower and a box of chocolates once in a while. Adore her and love her. Tell her how amazing she is. Tell her how your heart goes thump-thump when you see her. NEVER stop courting her. Do the dishes, sweep the floor, vacuum the carpet, scrub the toilet. Sit down to pee so the toilet stays cleaner and put the lid down. Remember anniversaries and Birthdays and Holidays. Tend the kids for her and give her lots of days off. Never complain. Never raise your voice in anger.
Do these things consistently and you will be loved and honored beyond your widest dreams! Your marriage will be Heavenly!
2007-05-09 20:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Alvin York 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION!!!!! Sorry for the all caps thing, which kinda bugs me, but it had to be that way. Having just gone through a marriage and a divorce, I can tell you that there were a lot of other things that were fine, but it couldn't be done without the communication.
Trust, honesty and all that are very important, but when it comes down to it, if there ain't no communication, there ain't no relationship!
Someone said they were surprised that love hadn't been mentioned yet. I can see what they mean, but love just doesn't fix everything. You can absolutely, completely love someone and still not be able to make it work. There are so many other factors.
Okay, I will stop now before I really get into too much detail. I could go on about this subject for hours!!!
2007-05-09 20:26:14 · answer #2 · answered by animal lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have been married for 2 years and i think the most important aspect in a marriage is trust, honesty and communication. My husband is away alot as he is a interstate truck driver. We have a 4 yr old boy and a 2 yr old girl. They miss their daddy very much and i do too. We don't have much time together but when we do we do alot of family time.
2007-05-09 23:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Bec P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is truly not a more important aspect of any relationship than trust/honesty. Without this simple gesture a relationship can never really amount to anything. For a relationship to work, trust in needed, It allows you to let your spouse roam free knowing nothing will happen while at the same time it keeps you in line because you know that you will be truthful, you wouldn't do something simply for the fact of knowing it would hurt your other half when you admit it.
2007-05-09 20:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by d_z_burger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important aspect of marriage is
respect. Why? If you don't respect your spouse how can you be honest, how will you trust, how loyal will you be? You see in the grand scheme of it all you have got to start with respect as a foundation in which to build the trust,honesty,loyalty,friendship.and anything else you can think of . This is an inward thing. If you are with some one and you don't respect them than you are in a false relationship, so are you honest and trustworthy? When you are with some one you respect you will be honest and true.
So be some one you can respect and the rest will follow.
2007-05-09 20:38:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust. You can throw everything else out the window if you dont have Trust. I've only been married 2 and a half years but my wife and I know we can trust one another. My Parents, 51 years so far, my maternal Grandparents 1 week to the day shy of 71 years of marriage 53 years for my paternal Grandparents. These marriages cut short by death. I was 34 before I got married for the first time and I know I will spend the rest of my life with the woman I am married to now. Because of trust and mutual respect for one another. My Wife is my best friend! I love her and she loves me! When either one of us has something to talk about that might be threatening, we talk about it with one another. Trust is the key!
2007-05-09 20:28:22 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important aspect of marraige is understanding. Now a days dominating character doing nothing but leeds to break the relationship. so a husband & wife needs to leave and share the things as a friend. because only half an hour they are husbent and wife ruther than 23 and half hours in a day they are friends only.
2007-05-09 20:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Pritam D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOVE is the most important aspect of marriage.
How does one support a longterm marriage?,
Cash and Compassion.
How do you keep your partner happy?
LISTENING to them.
FIX their problems.
SHOW them you care in your reactions.
How do you do all that?
KINDNESS.
How long is the longest marriage?
100yrs of commitment.
What is the shortest marriage?
5seconds.
Why do people stay married so long?
FASCINATION.
Why do people don't stay married too long?
HATE.
Nevertheless,
a person is thoroughly fascinated by the
positive thoughts, looks, actions and behaviors
of their mate.
Their lack of understanding makes them
want to know everything about them.
A curiousity.
what makes them function or tick.
What makes them happy and sad.
And how to solve all that problems,
yet still be the person to share
their good and bad sides and
still share their lives with that
person for many years.
Its called CODEPENDENCY.
Some people like it and count on it,
other people cannot stand it.
it depends if you LIKE to put others
needs ahead of your own.
Be aware that it has a snowball AVALANCHE
effect, because the one you have a child
with will be the one that suffers because they
will put their new family needs ahead of their
own needs and suffer depression.
It may be small depression or large,
it depends on the strength of the
woman coping with this feeling.
laters,
Ric.
2007-05-09 20:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question to answer, since it's entirely dependent on what is most important to you. Instead, I will describe a situation from my childhood that made me decide what was most important for me:
When I was about 13 years old, I noticed that my father never had any male friends over and always stayed home, watching the TV or tinkering on the family car.
I asked him "Dad, do you have any friends?" I saw he wasn't exactly prepared for a question like that, but he responded honestly with "My wife is my best friend."
Ever since, I've been primarily looking for candidness and camaraderie in a relationship -- just as I would with a "guy" friend. Sex is secondary and makes a darned good "spice" for life.
2007-05-09 20:20:59 · answer #9 · answered by Jayce 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love. Then you have to define love. Here is a definition I recommend. All other aspects of marriage stem from this base.
"Love is not affectionate feeling, but a steady wish for the loved person's ultimate good as far as it can be obtained." C S Lewis
2007-05-09 20:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋