once again i have relationship problems. I am madly in love with a boy i been going together with for 4 months, but my ole crush just told me that he had strong feelings for me. i dont like him anymore cause i was causing problems with his relationship and he said that he hated me. he likes me more than his girlfriend but i am in love with the boy i have now.. and i have a dude on the side hes my brother friend but he is in love wth me and always have. WHAT SHOULD I DO??
2007-05-09 17:17:48 · 13 answers · asked by Lilmama60 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well you do like to have a complicated love life!
Go with your heart. You are in love with your boyfriend so why would you even look elsewhere?
Go, enjoy being in love, treat your bf well and make sure he does the same for you. Forget these other intrusions because that is all they are. Bothersome.
2007-05-09 18:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gurl, i think you know the answer...dont trouble yourself thinking about the other guy/s that like you now...look at you....you have a bf now...what else can you ask for...see most relationships die due to these thoughts that are going through your mind...who cares if your old crush likes you...you have someone now and life goes on...that boy that has a crush on you now needs to move on...
but now that i think about it...you mention that you were causing problems to your old crush...maybe that old crush is just making up the fact that he has deep feelings for you to confuse you and cause problems in YOUR relationship with this new guy...dont let it get to you...
If you are really "madly in love" with this guy that you have as a bf...dont let it die out because of this...life goes on...i dont think it should matter who has a crush on you or which old crush likes you back...
well good luck to you!
2007-05-09 18:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by namehere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you already know what to do... you just want a second appinion huh?.. you said yourself that "i am madly in love" with your bf!! hello.. you in love with the guy you're with. so stay with him of course.. never take advantage of what you have.. its always better to keep what you know you have then to exchange it for a mystery box.. if you know what i mean..
you never now what will happen if you go with another guy and if you do you will ruin what you have now.. you lovehim stay with him.. your ex crush. is just that.. your EX crush ok.. plus he had the nerve to say he hated you.. thats harsh .. and im sure with a statement like that he surely doesnt love you more then the girl he is with.. or that would never came out his mouth.. he just might be getting bored with his girl. and want to change.. and because of the past he believes you still like him... and he thinks you are a sure thing.. so prove him wrong and tell him no.. that you dont like him anymore.. and that your in love already with a great man. cause he must be if you love him..
and this entire time you have had a great friend thats a boy and he thought he could be more then friends.. and has been trying to while you thought you jsut friends.. so wht you need to do is be sure to clarify with him that you two will only be friends.. and that you adore his friendship and love him as a brother.. and that you can never be more then friends.. he needs to know this so he can move on and try to get a girl that will actualy love him back... even after you tell him this he will still think he has a chance with you for a while.. but hopefully he will come to understand shortly...
goodluck and i hope it all works out for you.. dr icebreaker
2007-05-09 18:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for the girl, don't be jealous of her hanging out with her. She's obviously dating long distance for a reason and a lot of people have a hard time with that so it shows commitment for going through with it. You do have a right to be jealous but as annoying as it is to hear the main point of a relationship is trust and if you think she's fooling around with people or doing this just so you're jealous then you need to re think the relationship. At the same time I dated a guy who got mad at me everyone I hung out with my friends, guy or girl. Worse with guys though obviously. It angered me so much that he didn't trust me and would get mad and controlling over that, keep in mind that if she wanted to be with other guys she would. You can be jealous but if there is anything I would of wished my ex boyfriend would of done is understand that I'm friends with guys and jealousy won't solve anything
2016-05-19 04:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok let me get this straight, ur ex crush is into u now but u don't like him, but u with the man u love and are cheating on him with ur brothers friend who loves u??
LOL, u complicating ur own life dear, just look at the problems u causing for ur self when the solution should be the easiest thing in the world.
but if u still can get the clue, u should tell ur ex-crush u not interested, drop ur brothers friend before u hurt him, &stick to the man u love.
2007-05-09 18:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys always want what they can't have. I think that you really need to focus on your current relationship. If you open the door to this kind of drama, you will end up alone and unhappy. So I would say ignore them, let them feel whatever they want but don't encourage it. The one you are with hasn't done anything wrong, so I think he deserves all of your attention for now.
2007-05-09 17:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get ride of the "dude on the side." Seriously. Stay with the guy you like. Tell the ones you don't like to stop bothering you.
2007-05-09 18:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by pook 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up your mind which one you really care about. You can't treat people like that, and expect it not to blow up in your face. How would you feel if your boyfriend had someone on the side?
2007-05-09 18:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the one your with right now...you broke up with the other guy for a reason...just think of all the bad times you had with him ..and then you'll see the light!
Good Luck:)
2007-05-09 18:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by luv.is.pain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without reading other answers, I totally agree with Rhonda!
2007-05-09 18:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Destiny Wan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋