How long wife can stay without sex?

Question

We got married 20 yrs back. Relations have not always been smooth. We had fights, no sex for month or so...but ultimately we pulled on together till recently.
Now since last 5 months we are not on talking terms...but i guess both of us want to be together...but just waiting for the other partner to break the ice.
My question to all married females is that if both partners love each other...HOW LONG CAN THE WIFE STAY WITHOUT SEX?. pl. give an honest answer......AND also suggest that if YOU were the wife in such case WHAT WOULD U EXPECT FROM YOUR HUSBAND to break the ice.....and also what steps you would take (if u were in her place to break the ice)

Thnaks for your effors....

Answer 1

In this situation, it sounds like there's a serious case of pride- in both your hearts.

If this marriage is to survive, you both MUST swallow your pride, admit that somewhere you each have made some mistakes and that holding a grudge is wrong.

There are those who say marriage is 50/50... I disagree. Marriage is 100/100. You both promised to give yourself to the other, holding NOTHING back. So give yourself to your spouse. Give up your pride, your ego, your "He offended me, so he's going to have to be the one who gives..." Marriage was never meant to be a competition- it's a partnership, but if neither agrees to the yoking (think of a yoke of oxen), then it won't work.

Sex is only part of what marriage is about. Marriage is more about commitment, trust and knowing that your spouse has your back. Both of you need to pull your heads out of your aces, apologize and start putting the other person first.

My suggestion to the husband-- send your wife flowers. Put a note in it that says that you're sorry for being a pig-headed idiot, that from now on, you're going to work on becoming the husband she needs you to be... then follow through!!

My suggestion to the wife-- as soon as you can arrange it, be home before he gets off work. Have the house clean, dinner ready (or at least almost ready). Tell him that you're sorry for being a pig-headed idiot, that from now on, you're going to work on becoming the wife he needs you to be... then follow through!!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Ha sure got a lot of inputs on this one. .
Married 36 yrs. Been their.Am woman.
Sex starts in the female head first. Then the body . Guys work the other way .
Nothing you say will change that.
The little things you do through out the day will determine the bed time mood.
Bring up the laundry or do a load or 2 do the dishes help out.Be attentive but not touchy. That shows effort and caring it will take time but things will change. And if you act like you don't want it . hahahah she'll go for it women always want what they cant have , ahahhahahahah .
Good Luck.

Answer 4

Without the information on why you are not on speaking terms, I can't tell you too much, except MOST women want to be chased. I BELIEVE that she would want you to break the ice. To give a better answer I would need more info. Are you living together? And many more questions. I personally would not wait for 5 months to have sex, but I also would not cheat and I would have been talking to you to either about fixing the problems or seperation/divorce way before now.
To break the ice...start the relationship over...no matter the circumstances. Start with no history behind you. This would work for either of you to break the ice.
Ask her out on a date as if it were a first date. Just remember...doing this...most men are on probation through the 4th date and everything will be judged.
Trying to work through this is all you can do. TRY! Actions speak louder than words!

I wish you the best of luck and no matter the outcome I hope that it works out for the best.
You may email me at [e-mail] IF you would like to give me more details so that I might be more helpful in a specific answer.

Answer 5

Annie's answer is spot on. Read it a few times and understand what she's saying.

I've been married for many years. Women can go without it for ages, so you could be waiting for a long time. If she's waited 5 mths, then you need to seriously think about what you did to get her so worked up - what were the fights about - was it a reoccurring theme? Does the same old topic come up every time you get angry with her? How about you resolve it once and for all, learn to communicate properly, listen to her, find out what she needs in the relationship, it's not always about you and your desires. There are two people involved and they're both not happy. Now that you've got our advice, start talking to her. Start by making her a cup of coffee and tell her you're cooking dinner tomorrow night.

Answer 6

Annie is right. I have been married for 20 years. The thing is that you can't just do things only when you aren't on talking terms. You need to do a little something once a month if it isn't but a letter saying how much you love her. Women can go forever without sex expecially when they are mad. So take Annies advice and add what i said then you will get back on track and stay there. They don't make mirrages like ours anymore.

Answer 7

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How long wife can stay without sex?
We got married 20 yrs back. Relations have not always been smooth. We had fights, no sex for month or so...but ultimately we pulled on together till recently.
Now since last 5 months we are not on talking terms...but i guess both of us want to be together...but just waiting for the other partner...

Answer 8

First and main thing: honey, we females will never understand men. I have been through the same thing as you. No sex for weeks or months. He blamed me, says I was the one who didn't want it. He initiated sex for the first years of our relationship (we have been together for 4) and now it was my turn. We always fought about money and his mother (whom lives with us), we have a 2 year old who still keeps me up some nights, I work full time, he owns his own business and doesn't get home until late and I leave early. There is a whole list of excuses from him. But in the end it makes you feel unwanted, unattractive to him anymore, etc. Am I right? Talk to him. If he won't listen in while sitting in the living room in the evening. Catch him when you go to bed. I personally think they get to a point in there life when they think us women need to show them that we are still attracted to them. I finally took things into my own hands. I rolled right over on him, started the foreplay and so forth, in the end he couldn't say no. :) Try that. If he is like any other man out there after fondling, etc. he won't be able to say no. Even get right on top. Usually throws them off but what the hell we only live once.

Answer 9

Dear Sunil,

Whether the problem lies with the wife or the husband,marriage without sex would be like the computer without any Internet access.

Its also not a question of how much u love each other. If you're married,I believe,both parties are obliged to one another.If your marriage is important,have the initiative to make it work.Don't just sit around and wait for your wife to make the move because from the sound of it,I guess she has major ego problem.Be patient in facing her antics,for as long as it takes.

Take her on a surprise holiday for your second honeymoon!pamper her with lotsa sweet words,hugs and kisses and love notes.Pretend that time has taken you both back to 20yrs ago when love was all that matters.

Where sex is concerned,you might wana try this ya...For a day,you be the housewife.Cook,wash and clean instead of her doing it..When all your chores done,get her to sit down at the veranda or patio or anywhere quiet and serene, with you.Tell her whats been bugging you.Tell her how much you've missed her.Tell her how much you've missed making love to her and tell her how much you love her.If you can,shed some tears.When a man is in tears cos of the woman he loves,it can't get anymore touching.Romance is like the appetiser,followed by love making and it ends with sweet whispering on bed.If you do end up in bed,take your time to please her and not just 'gorge' on her like a meal you havent ahd for many years.

Do remember dat communication is very vital.There are married couples who have sex practically every nite but their marriage still ends in sham as they have no communication and SEX isn't everything.God bless you and your wife.

Answer 10

Personally I think that youre not even married youre room mates. I would suggest a temporrary separation until both of you can communicate like adults. In a marrage there can not be Lack of Communication. And i'm seeing a lot of that in youre's take some real time off from eachother see if living apart is accuatlly a good thing. Living in the same house and not talking is childish and not helping the situation at all.