how to influence ppl to agree with what i say?

Answer 1

i dunno....i used to be in the ISO and although i agreed with things in their paper, i found the language to be too much like propoganda and slander....soooo, with that said, i think the best way to achieve your goal is to simply behave and live what you expect others to do and/or agree with....also, bring up beliefs and ideas in a very non confronting way, just add them to your discussion casually.....i am saying this because i have a few instances where this has worked for me....i got a friend to stop hitting her child, i got my brother into socialist ideas, i helped another friend get active in the liberation of her people when she thought she never would be partcipating....i also say this, because i learned it from a friend who, thankfully, changed myh life and perspectives simply by being open and living what she expected....all the way....i looked at my life and wondered, wow, how did i change soo much, and realized, the impact she had on my life....you can do it too

Answer 2

"Influence" is a difficult thing to prove as we each maintain a set of beliefs as a result of our experiences in life.

Influence begins by expressing respect for the other's position before countering it, or implying or outright suggesting that the person is wrong. Influence also includes being open to the possibility that the person seeking to influence others may also be mistaken, left out evidence, or in some other way come to an erroneous conclusion.

Rather than focus on influence (this is debatable) as no one has influence over what I think or believe, but rather the ability to persuade someone.

Influence or persuasion begins by changing one's approach that there is a conflict. The approach that often works is by demonstrating to the other person how the new idea, theory, etc. is beneficial to them in some way.

Influence and persuasion also is problematic if the influencer attempts to do so publicly. Embarrassing someone rarely ever works.

I find it acceptable that others can disagree with what I say. I don't need to be right and I'm open to the possibility that I can be wrong.

Influencing someone is not based on what you have to say, but how it relates to what is important to the person being influenced.

Answer 3

Influence can be very hard. First you have to approach the subject as your audience would approach it. For instance you would not go to a pro life convention and yell, "Baby killing is a crime!"

The key to influence is to state your opinion the best you can without sounding like your telling the other person they are wrong. Do your best to get into a discussion, but if ones mind is closed they will reject every attempt. There is a saying

"A man forced to be convinced against his will, is of the same opinion still."

This sums it up rather nicely.

Answer 4

I am not sure what to say because this is one of the hardest things that I have had to try to deal with figuring out how to make all people happy and accepting of what I am trying to do and for the reasons that I am trying to do it. They don't understand they look at themself and they don't see the big picture and if you try to show it to them they don't like that. So yeah it would be real nice to know how to influence all people to agree with me, but if I can reach one or two and make them understand then perhaps they can reach one or two more too.

Answer 5

Present a convincing, sound, and intelligent argument, but do not bully people into agreeing with you. Be respectful of others even if they choose not to agree with you. Don't patronize anyone.

Answer 6

Bribery is the fastest and most effective.
Tell them what they want to hear is good.
Being intimidating is very crude but effective.
Speaking your truth will get people who are of like mind to agree with your statements.
What are you trying to do please everybody?
Only some of the time does this work.

Answer 7

Don't try to get people to agree with you. Present basic truths that you believe in, and they may accept them as truths for themself or not. There is nothing more you can do.

Answer 8

Read Carnegie, the bottom line is "How do you make people do what you want them to do? You make them WANT to do what you want them to do."

Dale Carnegie
- How to Win Friends and Influence People

Answer 9

In my case, especially with our three year old, it means my taking the opposite stand. Works like a charm, naaa! It never works. lol

Answer 10

The key is to make them believe that they are the ones who said it.