I have been friends with 2 people for years and the first time i needed to count on them...they fu@ked me. They really let me down. I have always been there for them.
It would be easy to end the frienship cause i moved away about six months ago and all i would need to do is stop emailing and not pick up the phone.
What do you think?
2007-05-09 15:05:53 · 14 answers · asked by The Brown Bomber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
More about the situatation: after i moved away I needed them to take care of two things for me. One thing for each friend. pretty simple things. It would have taken about a 4 hour total time ( hour for one friend and 2 for the other) and they had more then 3 months to do it.
I have done many things for them, and have always been there...even last minute. I saw why they could not do these things except "never got around to it."
FOUR HOUR TOTAL TIME OVER 3 MONTHES, SO IT COULD HAVE BEEN DONE ON A FRIDAY AFTERNOON...
2007-05-09 15:18:22 · update #1
If they were shitty friends then lose them...there dead weight
2007-05-09 15:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there ! Friend is an person who not only share all your money and happiness but also your pain and sorrow.in time of need if they do not belong to this category then they were not your friends, so why worry . Friendship is something which should be cherished and not taken for granted or back stabbed.Its some thing like love ,sharing- bearing up with each others tantrums and moods.Generally friends are for life like a husband for a women and a wife for a man. Yet you can take some one new as a friend as you are in a new place ,but be care full not to make the same mistake ,you cannot buy friends ,it comes naturally by sharing everything except wives/husbands.
2007-05-09 22:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by shivaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't enjoy talking to them, then don't.
In general I think you should stop being friends with someone when you begin to wish you could avoid their company on a day to day basis.
If you really don't enjoy talking to them anymore then slowly stop responding to emails and don't pick up the phone as much and eventually your friendship with them will dwindle away and they won't blame you. They'll probably assume that you have two new best friends where ever you moved.
And I sorry to say, if you haven't seen eachother for six months, I doubt if any of you will miss the friendship that much.
2007-05-09 22:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by spleens2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing why they didn't help you, there is no way to answer.
Did you consider, they may have had an issue that was so much higher in priority than your own problem? I'd say you should have a conversation with them before jumping to conclusions.
Strange and unexpected things do happen and you don't always know what they are. You can always end a friendship, but once you do, it is so hard to gain it back.
2007-05-09 22:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're on here asking this question, then I believe you already know the answer! If they treated you this way before, then they probably aren't true friends. For me, a true friend is someone who would be there for you in a second..if you needed them. I don't have any real friends like that. I don't think I ever did. So dont waste your time fooling with people you dont trust, and you are questioning. You are better off with out them:)
2007-05-09 22:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be an easy way out, i know how u feel n i feel the same way at times, but to end the friendship has never crossed my mind, if u truly want them to stick around, u sure would never leave them behind. I understand u want to get out of it now, but u might regret it later, if i were u i would confront ur friends about how u feel n who knows they might actually rectify their behavior a bit. If u truly want to be friends n want it to work out, then u sure would do everything in ur power to keep it that way. Best of luck to ya.
2007-05-09 22:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lovemylifefriendsfamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're too shy to tell them the truth (which you should do, but its easier said then done) then say the long distance thing is rough for you and you're really busy with extra school activities. But even if they were rude to you , still e-mail them once in a while because its not fair to them for you to just abbanden them even though they did something obviously bad to you.
2007-05-09 22:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Wowza Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel my bff and i had a really good friend at the beginning of the year then after christmas she started acting all werid and hanging out with really mean ppl. Then since she didnt have anyone to hang with before the dance she called and wanted to hand out with me and my friends after she had igonored me for like 3 months! We told her no, that she should probaly hang out with her new friends. Then she sent me acouple of emails but I kept igonoring them. Then she started igorning me and acting like she aboustly hated me and that we had never been bffs ever. I dont know if it was the right thing to do, but I like the way it all played out. My mom didnt think i should keep igorning her emails but I didnt want to email her because I had nothing nice to say to her. So if you things to turn out the way they did with me, try this. I know it sounds like it turned out bad but my other BFF even wrote a essay on this saying how it made us meet new people and we are having more fun now. Good luck! :)
2007-05-09 22:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by I ♥♥♥mcdreamy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, people are far to selfish to even claim friendship in truth! This is a misused word if ever there was one. I took stock of who I called friends upon the occasion of my divorce, and let go of most. Sometimes, we hang on to that which does not serve us, because of failure to invite more and better in most cases. If a relation is not active, it is not a relation. Don't fall into the snare of insecurity, and see it as friendship, because true friendship will initiate interest in that which is of importance to you. All the best to you and your "new" friends.
2007-05-09 22:13:30 · answer #9 · answered by duccees 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, all you need to do is stop emailing and not pick up the phone. I hope that you are starting to make new friends in your new neighborhood. I also hope that you are choosy in who will be your friends, so something like this does not reoccur.
2007-05-09 22:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Terri C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe friends are forever. Sometimes friends aren't there for you when you want them to. But it all depends on what it is.
You can test their committment to you by not calling them or emailing them until one of them contacts you. If none of them calls or emails you, just move on.
2007-05-09 22:12:12 · answer #11 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋