So what is your definition of violence can you explain that to me?

Question

how do you keep from being violent or having others think that you are a violent person? what is your strategy? what is dangerous, what does that mean to you?

"Hitting people. If you don't want others to think you're violent, stop hitting people."

I don't hit people are you saying everyone or are you saying "you" as in like me or someone else? I don't hit people, I don't know you so how could you say this about me, I have never hit you?

Let me ask this, can we hit people by the false words we use about them? Can we foist our perceptions on others when we should just walk away? Can we needlessly judge others because we don't like how they handle things?

"I am sure people will be insulted, or hurt by other people's thoughts. That happens everyday these days too."

Yeah, Amp just hurt my feelings, but I don't know if she was actually directing it at me? Maybe she was just saying people should stop hitting each other, but there is a difference in perceptions in many cases, and violence is a harsh word! Sports players hit one another all the time do we tell them to stop playing sports?

Look how many sports injuries we have every year and look how many parents will tell their kids to get on little league teams, it does not make sense to me, so I am asking what is "real" violence?

"But I think if it was in the open then maybe the bad feeling between people in disagreement will not be able to develop."

It can not be in the open anymore or you will be labeled for it, you can not hardly talk to anyone anymore without some kind of misunderstanding or fear arising over nothing most of the time, our country was not like this when it started out.

"People will be able to walk away more easily I think, and I think will not even feel the need to step away as much as they do these days."

Sometimes people are not allowed to just walk away and sometimes people don't ignore they do their best to make trouble intentionally even where none should be.

"maybe I am just being naive.."

No not naive, smart intelligent, kind and with wisdom.

"Showing great anger or force in a way that can and would intimidate other people."

Women traditionally have been taught to be meek and mild and not show feelings of any kind unless it was to cry or be scared. Feelings really don't hurt anyone, like you said one can always walk away or ignore another person. Without great emotion, there would be no great love or intellect or creativity either, that is true. Great emotions of any kind are proper and not always there, it depends on how you dare to explain yourself and what that looks like to others, misperceptions happen all the time.

"You keep from being violent by controlling your emotions, and giving them the right outlet."

Who is to define this outlet, this place to have a reaction, if it is not hurting you then you can ignore it, people need to remember that to ignore things is sometimes better, I don't always ignore some things either, I don't think it is possible to ignore everything that is not what I am saying.

"Dangerous means you can harm people around you (mentally or physically)- or harm yourself."

No dangerous is entirely different it can be the job that you have, or the sport that you play or your form of entertainment.

Being harmful is a perception, if one does not want the truth to be told they can cover that up by saying what the person saying is "dangerous", but that is not freedom of speech. You can destroy someone in this way, you can destroy their personality, and you can also destroy their credibility by what you say about them, but that is not really dangerous it can be harmful in a different kind of way that is why we sometimes have civil lawsuits for slander and such.

"As the quote from the cosmologist goes bad people have always done evil and good people have always done good but to get good people to do bad requires religion."

It was recently pointed out to me that there really are no "totally" good or bad people, that is not a good way to look at people. This person was not read up on this either, they said that people are not good or bad that sometimes any person can do a good thing or a bad thing and if we say that person is a good person then they do a bad thing then it blows our perception and if we say that person is a bad person and they do a good thing how do we explain that?

So perhaps by not calling people good or bad, or violent or non violent, we can say certain behaviors are a bad thing we believe and hopefully others will agree with us at points., But like Amp said, maybe it is not hitting people, but there are all kinds of ways of hitting people in life and sometimes we don't even realize that we are hitting them.

Answer 1

Hitting people.
If you don't want others to think you're violent, stop hitting people.

Answer 2

being violent I mean acting in extreme, in a way that may harm others.

Showing great anger or force in a way that can and would intimidate other people.

You keep from being violent by controlling your emotions, and giving them the right outlet.

Dangerous means you can harm people around you (mentally or physically)- or harm yourself.


if this question is also related to a previous question asked here - about "will there be less violence if there were no lies and if people could read mind" here is my answer to that:

I figure, and of course this is completely assumptions and theory, that if people were developed enough to be able to share thoughts in the manner you suggested then they would not feel overcome by emotion because there would be a constant outlet of their emotions, and thus their emotions will not grow to extreme.

I am sure people will be insulted, or hurt by other people's thoughts.
That happens everyday these days too.
But I think if it was in the open then maybe the bad feeling between people in disagreement will not be able to develop.

People will be able to walk away more easily I think, and I think will not even feel the need to step away as much as they do these days.

maybe I am just being naive... :)

Answer 3

violence sometimes comes from fear translated into evil out of ignorance and then it becomes a cycle as bitter criticisms enter the next persons mind incessantly it builds in the next mind till it reaches a threshold only to be released in one form or another . if it comes out in violence the cycles continues or the person resorts to passive aggression like alcohol or tobacco and they end the cycle by suffering consequences . The source is under the table and subliminal and usually goes undiscovered with impunity but the victims are often pushed to victimize others as in war or lesser areas . And then they blame the next person for their passive aggression as well . How Do you cure the criminal mind when the root cause is religious zealotry .As the quote from the cosmologist goes bad people have always done evil and good people have always done good but to get good people to do bad requires religion.If you have enough understanding in basic psychology you might turn it around provided you have an extremely stable and supported base and you are not targeted by too many at once . Minor annoyances and petty irritations tend to escalate unless the laws of nature deter it it grows .the method of dealing with stress is a science and the knowledge is not readily available to the degree needed to defeat the effects.I suffer the cut if I could have the ideal I would win without getting my hands dirty or suffering it but I can't as of yet. good luck to all and peace out.

Answer 4

same as love and hate and right and wrong and crazy and laws...who is really to say