The thing is i use to have a group of girlfriends who i was cool with.I met my husband 5yrs ago and before i got married everything was perfect with everyone.January 5th i got married and since then all my friends disappeared.I'm still the same person before i got married,i haven't change .my husband takes care of me and my friends always tell me they wish they could find a man like mine.Can anyone tell me why they think my frinds are acting like this.Even my cousin who use to be my bestfriend don't talk to me anymore,she used to call me only when she wants to party......What should i do?help me plz...Thanks in advance
2007-05-09 14:39:32 · 8 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it's not like i don't call or try to hang out.Sometimes when i do call i get a negative vibes.My husband is very nice to everyone. he's away right now because of his job but he makes sure everthing is ok with me.
2007-05-09 15:01:57 · update #1
As for my cousin i should give u all more details about her.My husband and her boyfriend are good friends.when she heard i'm getting married she start staying away.Her boyfriend told my husband that she's asking when he's going to marry her At my wedding she didn't even take a picture with me.....
2007-05-09 15:10:18 · update #2
They deserve a wakin' for leaving you like that.
2007-05-09 14:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are all your friends single? For the ones who are, you are now in a seperate club. The married peoples' club.
Sometimes people realize that you have a life with your number one best friend, your husband. Spouses are to turn their attention more to each other, which puts other friends in a different light.
Now, if these are real friends, you should be able to talk honestly with them. Ask them what's up. Maybe your party status is seen as taken place by spousal responsibility. Maybe they feel they no longer have anything in common with you.
You won't know 'til you communicate.
2007-05-09 14:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually when you get married your focus is on your husband. Maybe your friends feel that you want to focus on that. The best thing to do is come out and ask them. Communication is always the best solution. For example, you could take first step and state a joke? "Yeh, even though I'm married you want to go hang out, get a drink and catch up!" When that works, you could tell them that you miss hanging out and just because you're married, you don't put your friends out of your life! Good Luck!
2007-05-09 15:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by tenistif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i see where your friends are coming from .. they probably feel that you have a family now & are to bizzy for them an are afraid of rejction... call them up and make plans for a girls day or night out .. like shopping nails hair dinner or a movie or maybe have them all come over for dinner and drinks at your house with thea boyfriends or something .. have a candle party do something to bring them all together
2007-05-09 14:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably figure you dont want to party anymore cause you have Mr right . Set up a girls night out and make a point to tell them all together you want to see them more often. Just cause you dont want to party doesnt mean you cant go to dinner or a movie or something
2007-05-09 14:49:05 · answer #5 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your husband is running them off, because he is jealous of your friends.
2007-05-09 14:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares..your friends won't be there forever OBVIOUSLY
your husband will if you really meant your vows
2007-05-15 09:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by Unbreakable Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should watch to see,maybe your husband is giving off some kind of vibe that makes them feel like they arent very welcome around u
2007-05-09 14:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by wahoowa6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋