I am married and having an affair with a guy for three years. We are back and forth and I want to leave my husband for him but it will take time. In the meantime, he wants still to see me but in the meantime, I found out that he's put a profile on online dating sites. Does he really want to be with me in the future or am I just getting played?
2007-05-09 14:30:50 · 25 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You`re getting played. He`s looking to replace you.
2007-05-09 14:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
firstly, affairs such as the one you are having always end in a hurtful manner.... either to you or your husband , your marriage or all. secondly, this guy you are seeing on the side sounds like he is not all that serious with you (he may really like you, but not enough to make commitments). Mostly, a man who have affairs with married women are just out there for some good time without true commitment. If you take a step back and look at your own situation, everything will be clearer to you.
2007-05-09 14:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by tintedsky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would youask at all if you know for a fact that he has a profile on a dating site - of course he is palying you.
Stay with your husband if you love him, you married him for a reason. Mend your relationship with him.
I hope you and your husband don't have children, they didn't ask to go through this
EDIT: I just noticed that you were pregnant, did you have the baby. Why are you having an affair with someone when you are pregnant, don't you care about her and how this will affect her?
Also, maybe that's why the guy is trying to find someone else, you just had a baby with your husband (hopefully it's your husband's). He doesn't want to deal with a married women who JUST had a baby.
2007-05-09 14:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely you are, The real problem is that he might think that you're gonna do the same thing to him. He might want a relationship with you but it will never get serious based on the fact that you've been having an affair for 3 years with him. He doesn't trust you.
2007-05-09 14:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by drixn5078 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really have to ask that question?! IF he's made himself available on an on line dating site, you're wasting your time. Is your marriage that bad that you can't do something to try to "repair" it IF this other person wasn't in the picture? If so, stick w/the one you're with. This other one is just playing around & you're honestly going to be the one who gets hurt. IF he's doing this now, do you really want to be with a person you can't trust?! Can you imagine how your life would be then? You're the one who w/be left out in the cold - alone. Call it quite before you do something you'll regret!
2007-05-09 14:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a CHEATER. big time. You are not only getting played by your side dish lover, but you are also playing your husband & your marriage at the same time. You are sick. Why did you even get married in the first place? Didn't your vows mean anything to you? S L U T. You will get what you deserve in the end.
2007-05-09 14:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Men love it when they can get into another man's woman booty and watch them go home.Most woman will give up everything to be with the other man.They do not see that if he is with you then who is he with when you are at home?Most people spend so much of their time destroying the relationship and they do not see that everything they need they already have at home.Then they are bitter at the world and it is no one's fault but their own.If everyone spent as much time trying to be together as they do destroying something,most would find life just great.
2007-05-09 15:55:35 · answer #7 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. From what little informations you give, it looks like he's not really serious about you. Probably figures you might do to him what you're doing to your husband, so what's the point.
Why don't you work on your marriage instead of messing around?
2007-05-09 15:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has found the right person he wants to spend the rest of his life with, why does he need a profile on the site then? talk to him about it, and tell him to remove it, if your the one for him, then he does'nt need to look for anyone else!! if he does'nt have it removed, then move on,as he is only looking to use you,while he sees other women. if you don't want to be with your husband anymore then leave, as it's not going to be good for either of you or your kids if you have them!!
2007-05-09 14:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it taking so long to leave your husband? Either end the affair or end your marriage.....He is keeping his options open since you have not shown a full commitment to him. You are playing both these guys and in my opinion don't deserve either one...........
2007-05-09 14:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋