ok this shouldnt be news to anyone that i honestly hate my father. he was/is an alcoholic who almost put us on the street because he would spend all of our money in alcohol. before i continue the whole argument of alcoholism being a diseas and all that stuff doesnt work on me, i dont buy so please dont use it because when we didnt have the money he would suddenly be cured from the "disease"!!! well we left him and the country and i never heard from him and i honestly couldnt be happier! now someone told my mother that his right leg had to be cut off because of some reason i dont know. for soem reason i feel really bad for him, how is it possible for me to feel bad for someone i dispise so much and i know for a fact that i really hate this man. also dont tell me oh he's still my father that's why you always have to love your father, well guess waht he didnt love his family so i dont see any point of loving him...i jsut think it's odd that i feel bad for him. well i am a humanitarian. so
2007-05-09 14:14:18 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
what do you guys think???? i'm confused with this
2007-05-09 14:14:55 · update #1
I DID love him true, but i dont now, not anymore...i hate seeing people like that, so my reaction might be of a humanitarian one. beleive me, i cannot love that man
2007-05-09 14:22:01 · update #2
I think you have empathy for someone who is having to go through a bad time; but that does not mean you should go back to having a relationship with him. You are right; you are humanitarian. Nothing wrong with that.
2007-05-09 14:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by hopflower 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seem's you still have a connection to this person simply because there is that blood...It might not be love but the compasion is still there. It can even be a bigger thing where it simply is a person in pain...a human being that is not right with his life and you feel the pain. Out of sight is not always out of mind and some day you will have to face your issues with this man and your life will always push you back because of this man...so deal with it now and gets this guy out of your head.
2007-05-09 21:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Spades Of Columbia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel bad because he IS your Dad. No matter what, the "blood" connection is still there. You can still love him the person while you despise him very much for his actions. You don't always have to love the person, the thing is you just do. It is not something you can turn off.
2007-05-10 08:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by thequeenreigns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you were hurt very badly by your dad, and you have every reason to hate him, and maybe you really do, but another part of you is just a little girl who wants her daddy.
im so sorry you went through all of that stuff..xox
2007-05-09 21:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by dali333 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cannot hate someone you don't love
no matter how much it pisses you off, you still love him otherwise you would not have such a strong emotion as hate
2007-05-09 21:19:42 · answer #5 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋