ok so i have never had a boyfriend and never made any new friends in highschool. well im going to college and i want to change. my aunt wants to introduce me to this guy she thinks i would like and i am scared of rejection and becoming close. any tips on how to overcome this?
2007-05-09 13:35:15 · 17 answers · asked by babeecakes510 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Honey, rejection is inevitable. And it's a darn good thing! 'Cause if it turned out he smelled or burped or scratched his b-lls in public, you'd be appalled if he fell instantly in love with you. Trust me, when the right guy comes along, you won't be rejected. In the meantime, a little rejection now and then helps you grow up.
As for becoming too close...it's impossible to get TOO close until you at least shake hands. So shake his hand already! I'll bet you don't get too close anyway. ; )
Have fun!
2007-05-09 13:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by katbyrd41 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hardly know the guy, in spite of what you "think" you know. Yeah, go ahead and tell him what you look like or send a full length picture...if people are going to use the 'net for dating purposes they are fools if they don't represent themselves accurately. If they guy is kewl with your size, then what would it hurt to go and meet in a public place, grab a bite to eat and chat for a while. I mean, you won't REALLY know if you like each other until you've spent a fair amount of time face-to-face...you simply cannot get to know someone sufficiently online/phone for real emotions to develop because there's too much you can't know about that person. Be honest and then go for it (safely!) In the future, represent yourself 100% honestly and fully in the future before pursuing someone or you're just setting yourself up to have regrets and hurt feelings.
2016-05-19 03:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by marlo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you're not alone in this either. I know what you're going through. I don't have a boyfriend either, but i'm not THAT afraid of rejection.
You can try to overcome rejection by just having one date with the guy. It's not like you know him that much to get attached to the point where you should care if you were rejected. You never know. In fact, YOU might be the one to reject HIM.
You should just give it a try. The only way to get rid of your fear is to face it.
I wish you the best of luck tho.
2007-05-09 13:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, stop thinking romance and start thinking how can you be a friend to this guy and just enjoy being with him. Don't have massive expectations for dream dates and long passionate marriage. You're meeting a guy for the first time, your goal should be, how can you carry on a decent conversation? Work on that.
2007-05-09 13:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is this: I finally did it one day and he asked me out...have regretted it ever since...wouldn't do it again for anything...what a looser he turned out to be...wait for him to approach you..you are worth it...don't make yourself seem desperate. He took me as desperate because I approached him, even though all along he was asking about me too...I jumped the gun and wouldn't do it again. You will have a boyfriend when and how it was meant to be..relax...what's the hurry? You will find him in the place you expect the least! That's how I found the bf I have now. Just fell into my lap, and that makes it so much more fun to be around him...makes us think it was meant to be.
2007-05-09 13:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by buggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always say no and not meet him.
Being setup isn't too fun.
But at the same time, if you meet him in a safe environment, there isn't much to lose either. Just talk to the guy and see what he is like. The odds are that you won't really like him at all but its not bad to just check it out anyhow. :)
Good Luck!
2007-05-09 13:40:47 · answer #6 · answered by SF_Ken 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet in a public place where you feel comfortable and do not over do the drinking. Relax and take deep breaths and let the conversation flow naturally. Deep breaths always calm the inner nerves.
2007-05-09 13:40:51 · answer #7 · answered by straitfireman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look ms thang,
this is a very common thing in leaving high school and going to college, but just be yourself and continue to keep everything in perspective and never let your morals be compromised by anyone and let your hair down but just remember to put it back up when your finished ....
2007-05-09 13:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by beecharmed_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, if hes gonna like you it going to be for who you are. Act as though you are going ot meet some of the friends you have known for ever! Be confidant, dont worry aboutwhat other people think! You can do it!
2007-05-09 13:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by shawnie072003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well i pretty much fear the same thing. all i can say is just force yourself to say something, even hello, not matter how bad you have to force yourself. And as the conversation gets going it'll be easier to talk and, hopefully, you'll realize hes a nice guy and all that. At least thats what i do...although I don't talk as much as I should.
2007-05-09 13:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋