Have you ever known anyone who has cheated on someone, but never did it again?

Question

Is the saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" really true? My boyfriend recently cheated on me. We broke up, but we eventually got back together. He tells me all the time what a mistake he made. Is it possible that he won't do it again? and put my name on his msn name. Have you ever known anyone who cheated once, but never again? Please give me some serious answers.

Answer 1

yes i do know someone, i cheated once because he did first so it was a payback,but i never did it before and didnt do it since then.then i got rid of him.after i told him what i did and asked him how it felt.i didnt do it before and didnt do it since then.

Answer 2

I don't think that this sort of question can be a strict yes or no type question since the variables involved are just too great.

If you're asking if it's possible for a person to cheat once, but never again after that...the answer would have to be yes since there are so many people out there that even if the odds of something like that happening are minutely small, it's still possible.

However, according to many psychology texts, a person who submits to a particular type of behaviour is likely to engage in similar activities again given the same circumstances are present.

So, what you really want to know is whether or not YOUR bf will cheat on you again. In order to answer that question, you really need to understand the reasons and events that led up to his situation.

The first thing you need to know is why. Were you, or was he unhappy with parts of the relationship? Is there something missing? Are both of you satisfied with the relationship as a whole both mentally and physically? A negative answer to any of those questions requires further investigation.

Next question you need to ask is how the situation was found out. Did he admit the affair on his own without coercion or was he found out? If he admitted to the affair on his own and was feeling guilty or upset by the events, maybe he's telling the truth to you after all. Also, time is a factor. If he told you right after it happened, or soon after he's probably being truthful. Also, how often did it happen? Once? Or was it ongoing?

I think that for a lot of men, their ideas of what constitutes cheating is probably different from that of most women. For some men, a physical interaction may not even be considered cheating on their part. I have known men who have slept with prostitutes but claim that their love for their partners was not diminished in any way. They did not consider what they did cheating since they felt that it was purely a physical action.

In the end, it doesn't really matter if he is telling the truth or not but whether or not you can fully trust him. Without the trust and proper communication it won't matter if he is telling the truth.

I also think that you're asking questions for validation. You want someone to tell you what you want to hear. It seems that you are in doubt but don't want to lose your bf. So, it seems that you still see him in a positive light. Therefore, you're looking for someone to tell you that he won't cheat on you again. But, only YOU can make that decision. Don't ignore the warning signs. Now that you've been alerted, you'll know.

Answer 3

Sad to say, but my answer is a resounding NO! History ha a way of repeating itself, and some men and women should never get married until they have worked out with a professional why they cannot commit to one person. There is too much heartache in getting into a marriage when you know that the first chance you have , you are going to stray for whatever reason. This applies to either sex.

Answer 4

There are some people that cheat and realize they made a big mistake. They are truly sorry and they won't risk the chance of losing the one they love again.

Answer 5

No, most cheaters are repeat offenders, they will end up cheating on whoever they are with....

Answer 6

no
once you cheat- you Always cheat

Answer 7

no.