I usually get a card, gift or something, but not this year. After staying together for 4 years of marriage (and 2 before that) I think that's pretty special, but I guess she doesn't. She said she just forgot and was too busy. She takes care of our 1 year old, and works like 2 nights a week part time as a waitress, and sometimes once or twice during the day doing plant care for her friends. I work 40 hours or more every week, and had the time to get her a card, present and planned a fun evening going out to dinner and the drive-in movie. Is she sick of me (although she tells me she loves me and misses me all the time, calls everyday, etc)? Is she seeing someone else? I thought the women were supposed to make a big deal out of the anniversary, and the men forget. WTF is wrong here? She's angry a lot too, and I feel like a got to kiss her *** all the time. Any advice, please. Is this a sign, or am I exaggerating?
2007-05-09 13:19:25 · 14 answers · asked by way_NE14a69? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may have some issues with you that are being left unresolved. I would just address this issue as to why she's acting like such a b*tch. Do not kiss her ***! That's telling her that it is ok to treat you this way and you do not deserve this. Eventually you will get sick of it and leave. Please address this issue before she bursts, don't brush this under the rug. You're not freaking out. She treats you like crap and I think you deserve some answers. Email me if you need someone to talk to. Good luck!
2007-05-09 13:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by SillierKimmy! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No these are signs that your relationship needs a little work. Is it possible that she's angry with you for something specific? Have you asked her why she seems to get mad so often? Do you listen to her answer, or is it something different each time? It's easy to fall into a rut and not even realize it....you should let her know that her forgetting the anniversary really hurt your feelings. See how she responds. If she poo poos you, then ask her, "what, a man isn't allowed to have feelings?" You might also want to get Dr. Laura's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and her other book, Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage. Good Luck
2007-05-09 13:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife can be a jerk like that. I have always tried to make birthdays and anniversarys special. On our last anniversary I had to run her to the store to get a card for a co-worker that found a new job, but for our anniversary, not a card or anything. Somehow in her mind I wasn't supposed to be insulted by this.
2007-05-09 13:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by theanswerman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You understood it wrong, my friend. It is a big deal if you miss sending the card or presents. It is no big fxxxx deal if you receive nothing from your wife. You have to wine and dine her and that's about it.
And it's like this. After a while, just "same thing as before" presents and cards don't cut it. Their own insecurity about life, emotional needs, and so called unhappiness all kick in just to drive you nuts.
2007-05-09 13:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Not a good thing that she avoided the anniversary. I am sure she still loves you, but maybe the romance is gone. She obviously doesn't feel the same way you do. If she wanted to do something for you then she would have made time. I would talk to her about it and she is she can be honest and really talk to you. Good luck!
2007-05-09 13:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally! The woman forgot ................. I knew they were human!
Dude, what are you doing? Why can't you just be happy with remembering the anniversary and she forgot? You are one of few men to ever pull this off. I have forwarded this triump to a couple of my buddys and we've decided to make "anyoneforasixnine" The hubby club official holiday.
The only thing I see wrong with this is ........ just like us, you don't know how to handle the excitement!
2007-05-09 13:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, the least you can do is give her the benefit of the doubt. Just move along and see how things continue.
It's obvious in your attitude that you feel you work much harder than she does, revisit that way of thinking, a housewife handles a lot of stuff and in your job you just move along thru the day.
2007-05-09 13:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe she is feeling trapped and doesnt want to hurt you or it could be that she really did forger. If it was me I know I wouldnt forget so maybe you need some marriage counceling
2007-05-09 13:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like girl is resenting something, As far as forgetting your anniversary nobodies perfect she may have honestly forgot.
2007-05-09 13:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Hidden in the crowd 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her a break, it sounds like she needs it. She has a lot going with her family, job, etc. She needs more from you than for you to gripe and complain. Perhaps this is an issue? You two need a break together.
2007-05-09 13:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋