I have been with him for 3 Years and he is facing 4 or more years in prison. I am 29. We have a baby together. is it wasting my life.. who even knows if he will change when he gets back out?! I have been faithful but its only been a few months... 4 years is a long time!
2007-05-09 13:16:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My husband is in prison. It really depends on how much you can handle. This is your life.
For me, it depends on what crime my husband has committed. If he was a murderer, rapist, child molester, I would not be with him. He has been sentenced for 7 years and it's normal to have some doubts and second thoughts.
It costs a lot of money, time and energy to have a loved on in prison. My husband has been sentenced for 7 years. We hope he is eligible for parole, but we always say "Plan for the Worse and Hope for the best."
Because of the communication he and I have and the fact that we are friends before anything else, has helped us through this. My husband has been locked up for a year and half and he Might be home after October. But we aren't counting on it.
There are support groups and emailing lists available for people who have loved ones in prison. if you need tips, or just want to chat with others, I will be happy to provide you with the information.
You are not alone. We are often the forgotten in society and many times looked down upon. But I know my husband and I can get through this. It is a struggle, but there are worse things out there.
2007-05-09 13:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have waited for him for 4.8 years already. Another 3 years is not much longer. You still have kids even at the age of 35. If you really love him, you'll be strong to wait for him. But if having a child is the only problem that keeping you from waiting for him, do you have the guts to make it out with someone else just to bear a child you want? If yes, then do so but it should be with your boyfriend's permission. You can also live a life with the man you really love without a child. You can also adopt.
2016-03-19 02:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to do some deep soul searching and how much are you willing to sacrifice for this man, yes four or more years is a long time to be without someone, and you are young yet and have a lot of living to do.... and you have a child that will be growing up without a father, is it fair to the baby? I would talk to this man and make the decision, but honestly if someone really loves you and cares and being in that predicament they should not punish you as well by asking you to wait no matter how hard it would be to let go.....
2007-05-09 13:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't wait for him. You've mentioned that you didn't approve of his behavior. He decided to break the law and go to prison instead of being with you and his baby. 4 years is a long time. Break it off for now. When the time comes, he will come to you because you have his child. At that time it will be difficult to face him. He may expect your support. Tell him to straighten out his life for his child and when that is accomplished to apply for visitation. He needs to grow up. Your relationship exists regardless, only you can decide if he is the right person for you to marry and to be a caregiver for your child.
2007-05-09 13:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should leave him. Although it may have been a small crime, your man obviously did not think of his family when he chose to make an illegal mistake. I think that it shows that he is not loyal or trustworthy. Don't allow your baby to be exposed to the prison life- you may try to teach her the right way but you live the life you see happening. This does not mean that you should never speak to your husband- let him know that you are trying to do the best thing for your baby!
2007-05-09 13:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if he gave his heart to you and told you he loved you,you should wait.But of you still have feelings for him then I think you should wait.If he cheated on you,stole money from you,or hurt you yuorhild in any way then don't it.Leavs him in the dust.But you need to do what's best for your child.And take care of him and/or her.
2007-05-09 13:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on what he is in prison for, but in most cases I would say move on with your life. You and your child deserve better than a criminal.
2007-05-09 13:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why is he going to jail that long?
its a long time, rethink the relationship
2007-05-09 13:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are wasting your time so get on with your life
2007-05-09 13:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by mommie_29801 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋