I am in love with the father of my baby. We arnt together and he says that he doesnt like me like that. But I have two problems....I dont know if i love him cause of the baby or cause i honesty love him...and what to do when he has sex with ohther girls...it really hurts i mean he is 17 and is sleeping with 14 year olds.....we live together and o dont know what to do...some advise please.....
2007-05-09 12:39:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Move On Girl!!!!
Showing your baby that you have a great self confidence level and a good sense of independence is one of the best things you can do for baby. It is unfortunate that you had to have a baby with someone who is like that! Baby's daddy is still a child himself (as you are too I'm sure). That is really rough. Your baby will have the utmost admiration for you when he/she grows up knowing his/her mom is a brave, independent woman who has worked hard to raise them. Show your boyfriend that you deserve better and you are out to get it. Don't have to lose contact with him since he is baby's daddy - I'm sure he'll want to be a part. Be sure to take boyfriend to court though and seek that child support!!!! Don't let him get away that easy! You both knew what could happen if you didn't use protection and if he's old enough to continue with the sex, then he's going to be man enough to take responsibility!!
Again - Lose the creep!! Go home and ask Mom and Dad for their support until you are able to get on your feet steady enough to do this alone. Tell Mom and Dad that you are not asking for a handout or for them to raise baby but that you are in a pinch and need some temporary help!
Good Luck Girlfriend!!
2007-05-09 12:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by momto3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is going to tell you to leave him...and it's easier said than done! Trust me, my babys father and I (I'm 5 months preg) aren't together. He decided he wanted to be selfish and continue sleeping around and ect. Finally I had enough and left. It's so hard going through my pregnancy alone...but in the end...I know it's for the best. It's made me such a stronger person...and it'll make you the same. Think about it...you are living with this guy (why are you?) and he is sleeping w/ young girls....you really want that figure around your child? He's still a child.....deep down you know better hun....
please message me if you'd like..I know it's so hard to get through when you feel alone!
2007-05-09 13:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by oOoLaLaiTzSina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, if he is sleeping with other people then he obviously doesn't feel the same about you as you do about him. Have you thought about getting your own place so you don' t have to see this behavior? Do you have anyone that can support you through these times? Just go with your gut and think about you and your baby. You both deserve to be happy and if you are in a situation that hurts it is not good for either of you.
2007-05-09 12:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like to me you guys are still really young. A baby should help to mature you...First and foremost you should worry about your baby, it needs you more than anything. You see men mature A LOT slower than women, and if he doesn't realize his responsibilities and duties now he will regret it. I promise you. Worry about you and the baby and let him be stupid I know it hurts to do this but a real man would stand by you and the kid and do what is right as a man. Remember he's just a boy who hasn't realized yet.
2007-05-09 12:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your first sentence was right on.....BOY.....that he is.....if he's sleeping around and says he doens't want to be with you, then let him go. You're making things harder on yourself by thinking there is a relationship right now.
It is hard, but it will be better for you and the baby to let go now. You never know, he may smarten up and see what he's missing, then again, being that young......it will take alot of growing up. reconsider living together. You're just been through something very traumatic on your body and mind and it's not making it easier being so close to him.
2007-05-09 12:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by canadian_grlz_rock 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE THE BASTURD(misspelled on purpose) ALONE!!! You don't love him. You hate the idea of being alone and raising your child without him. Stop living together. Either kick him out, or stay in a shelter with your baby until you can find something better, or move back with your family. Don't deny him fatherhood, cuz your child needs him. But only if his attitude is not detrimental to the baby's developement. I believe that you will be better off without him, only because he said he don't like you "like that". Why would you want to bless him with your goods anymore, anyway. if it's "like that?"
I really like stosh's answer too.(THUMB'S UP, chica!)
2007-05-09 12:49:43 · answer #6 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he says he doesn't love you and he's sleeping around.. then I would come to the conclusion that he doesn't want to be with you anymore. You are truly a good woman, because I would have never stood for that. If my man was sleeping around he would be regret it in a heartbeat because i would make his life miserable. No one deserves to be put through what you have been going through. Take your kid, and leave or make him leave and begin a much happier life being a good mother to your child.
2007-05-09 12:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by nsu_demon_fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, trouble-free, that'd be "sure, babies DO pee. Now placed a wipe over it in the previous it ruins the carpeting!" (he cracks the hell up while our son pees throughout the time of diaper differences) "slumbering babies one 0 one. do not poke them in the face" and "Diaper changing. It would not reason cancer. have not have been given any concern" He has yet to alter a diaper. that's probably a powerful element, in view that he'd maximum extremely do all of it incorrect
2016-10-15 05:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him quick. He is 17, and is just getting his experience. If he is sleeping around, he doesn't care about you, and God only knows what he is bring home to you, when you have sex. Move out, and then take him into court to pay for the baby. You have to protect yourself, and the child.
2007-05-09 12:50:14 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Kick his *** to the curb! Your baby doesn't need that. Your in love with the thought of the happy normal family...I was too...for awhile. now i'm happy with just me and my daughter. Don't let him ruin that for you or her. If he sleeping with the neighborhood...get rid of him. And why did he sleep with you if he doesn't like you like that? He sounds like an idiot
2007-05-09 12:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋