I have stayed at home for almost a year now with my son. I am pregnant again and this second child is due in September. I'm considering putting my son in day care a couple of days a week just so I can have some time for myself. Does this sound selfish? I don't mean to be, but I need a break.
2007-05-09 12:10:26 · 14 answers · asked by Amanda A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
No you don't sound selfish at all. It's healthy for you and your son to have a break. Actually, I was thinking of doing the same thing. Because I'm not lucky enough to have family around like some do. I have only been away from my son 3 times and just for a few hours and he's 8mo old. And you need a break sometimes, it gets hard when you eat,sleep and breath them 24 hrs a day 7 days a week. I know that's what it's like being a parent but there is nothing wrong with being away from them to have a break. I don't know if I would do a daycare center but I'm definately going to look around and do some research. I say go for it and I'm glad you asked the question as I'm thinking of this also.
I mean, what are we supposed to do with no family or friends? Pretty weird with all the thumbs down, it's probably someone that doesn't have a kid. And what's 2-4hrs once or twice in a week because I don't think I would consider doing it every week, it would just be nice to know that I have someone if I need them and it would be better then putting them in full time daycare 8hrs a day five days a week. Atleast they are being raised by their parents like they are supposed to. There is nothing wrong with having a break from your child!
2007-05-09 13:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by KDB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not selfish at all...and you need time to take care of yourself and the new baby. An extra incentive is that while you are bonding with your new baby, your son will be interacting with other kids his age and developing his social skills. A bit of advice...if/when you do put your son in daycare, give it some time and realize it'll be an adjustment for both of you...he may cry when you leave (for more than just the first day), but by the time you pick him up each day he'll be playing with other kids. You'll also miss him but try to resist the urge to "pop in" periodically after the first week or so just because it makes it difficult for him to transition when he has to choose between his new class and friends and his mommy. Good luck and congrats :)
2007-05-09 14:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not selfish at all! Plus, your son will enjoy the interaction with all the other kids!
Jsut remember, that at this age, he may have some trouble adjusting. Go with him the first few times and stay a while. Talk to the teachers about what they think is the best way to transition him in. Most kids start at like 3-4 months, and don't even realize what's happening, and just get used to it over about 3 days or so. But, when they are older, it might be harder for them, at first. But he will love it!!! You need some time to yourself!
2007-05-09 12:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by purplebinky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-30 23:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not sound selfish at all. however, I would look into mothers morning out or perhaps some one you know that is also a stay at home mom that babysits. Day care centers are really not a good place for young children. I worked in some and they were supposed to be great day cares and it is so sad! I would not do it! If anyone is thinking of putting their children in day care they would change their minds if they ever worked in one!
2007-05-09 12:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is not selfish at all...in fact it is very selfless! Think about it... not only are you going to get some alone time to focus on yourself and your pregnancy, it gives him the opportunity to interract with other kids. This way he learns to socialize and will adapt to having a new baby in the house too!
Three days ago, I started my 4 month old in day care Mon-Thurs, Noon to Six, so i can work. It not only does it allow me to have peace of mind that trained proffessionals are caring for him, it also lets me have my mind on my job 100%, where before when I would let family and friends watch him, I would constantly get phone calls with questions about him.
2007-05-09 13:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am in the same boat. I am almost done, though and havent put my almost 2 year old in day care yet, but I have been tempted. I wouldnt blame you my hubby works from before we get up until an hour or two before she goes to bed. It is hard somedays because I really want to clean uninterruped or just rest, but have her demanding things from me....I know it's my job Im the mom, but pregnancy can be really hard some days......but you never know when those days are gonna be, days she is in daycare or with you! go for it if you want, but just remember when the baby comes you cant just ship the older one off to make it easier....then they wont get a chance to adjust to the change, or feel may like they are being replaced....so I am choosing to tough it out (and save $$). good luck
2007-05-09 12:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by adrixia 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I felt guilty too, when I started college and had to put my daughter in daycare when she was 2. It ended up being the best thing for her and she loved it! They had all sorts of arts and crafts, water play, a huge jungle gym, finger painting and all sorts of fun stuff that I couldn't provide her at home, and plus she had "friends". Socially, she really grew and thoroughly enjoyed the time she spent learning and discovering and in fact only cried when I came to pick her UP!! It broke my heart, but also made me feel really good that she was getting a lot out of the experience. If you choose a good facility your child will have opportunities to grow in ways that he can't at home and will prove to be a good experience for him and provide you with some relief too!
2007-05-09 13:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know you need relaxation and peace sometimes. But, honestly, I could not stay at home and put my child in daycare. I would feel so guilty.
Now, if you got a part-time job and put your son in daycare while you're at work, that would be entirely different.
2007-05-09 12:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by onerockinmamato2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not selfish. A rested mom is a better mom. Leave him with someone you trust once in a while and get some rest. Pregnancy is not easy.
2007-05-09 13:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by af 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋