For those men who have been married for a long time, and are happy..?

Question

You men out there, who have been married for 5+ AND are still happy with your companion. I have a question for you.

What qualities/personality traits in her keeps you happily loving her, even years and years later, despite the occasional dis-agreement or argument? I'm so curious to know.

*5+ years*

Answer 1

I have been married almost 8yrs and have been with my wife for almost 10yrs. I think just being able to talk about anything and understanding each other is a must. I believe keeping the relationship alive by doing stuff we did when we first met also helps like going dancing and just hanging out with family.

Having someone that you completely trust and love and know they would never do anything to hurt you for example cheat on you.
I have a beautiful sexy wife, that is caring, supportive, and
loving, she doesn't mind doing things for me and I for her. We live life as best friends and that is how marriage really works well. We do not have any kids and are not having kids.

I think when you find the person you get up just to see the smile on their face or just to smell the perfume on there body
it is a reminder of the love you have for this person. I myself just love my wife more and more each day and she states the same about me to her.

I believe communication is key and well we both have a strong belief in God and Prayer that has helped in our marriage alot. I also must say be creative in the bedroom and keep it exciting the worst is when you have the same old lovemaking routine time and time again. I would also say that do not sex a priority in marriage if you do it will fail. Since as you age the male and female have different hormone changes and can change the quantity of lovemaking in the marriage. Find other things you enjoy doing as a couple like going out for a nice dinner, watching a good movie together, relaxing in a hot tub with some wine and good music in the background.

I have always known that you have ups and downs in any relationship and it is normal like many people say marriage is like a rollercoaster just go with the flow.

Never fight about the small stuff like money is just money it come's and go's.

Stay honest and express your feelings regularly.

Answer 2

I'm married for over 15 years and happy most of the time. Traits that keep me loving her:

1. Easy going positive attitude with good sense of humor.
2. Compatibility- we have some vision of life and morals
3.Very loving nature -
4. Understanding , I have had some difficult issues to deal with and she has been there no matter what
5.Keeps fit ( I do too)
6. Dependable,honest and faithful.

Answer 3

My wife of 20 years and I were friends/co-workers for more than two years before we started to date. She might be described as a bit old fashioned, but I never minded. She didn't nag and complain about every little thing. We had a deep respect for one another, and we loved each other with all our hearts.

She always said that the secret to a good relationship was to give 80% and to only expect 20%. The key is for both people to give more than they expect in return. The person that said marriage was 50/50 was trying to sell a newly published book!

She passed away due to cancer in September 2006. I could have baled out on her when she was first diagnosed three years before, but I loved her and I cared about her too much for that sort of selfish behavior.

I hope this helps cure your curiosity. Good luck.

Answer 4

My marriage is surviving because we treat it as a partnership rather than a marriage. Quite often there are disagreements that occur, but either of us are so quick to make fun of the other ones anger that it turns into a big joke before it ever get serious. For instance, when she starts to aggravate me and I tell her about it, She replies "that's my best quality, are you saying my best isn't good enough for you?" I have to laugh. I know many people will say that companionship, trust and honesty are number one in their love life .............. But to me laughter is stronger than love, without it even love can get boring.

Answer 5

Have been married over 20yrs, and am still happy
as ever, why, because she is always there for me,
she always supports me, she communicates with
me, she goes where I go, she does little things to
let me know that I am her man, she is always faith-
ful to me, and she always picks me up when I am
down, and you know what last but not least I am
the same to her that is why we both are still happ-
ily married after 20yrs .

Answer 6

WELL IM WRITING THIS FOR MY HUSBAND AS HE TELL ME TO THE WOMAN I AM MARRIED TO O HAS BEEN A GREAT WIFE AND MOTHER AND THE MOST WONDERFUL LOVER AND OF COURSE WE R BEST FRIENDS SHE LOVES LIFE AND LOVES TO LAUGH SHE OPEN AND HONEST AND KIND TO OTHER TO A FAULT AND I AM GLAD GOD TOLD ME TO MARRY HER THE FIRST TIME I LAYED EYES ON HER WE HAVE BEEN VER HAPPY AND VERY MUCH IN LOVE FOR 29YRS THIS MONTH SHE IS ALWAYS TRYING TO MAKE MY LIFE EASIER AND NEVER SAY NO WHEN THE LIGHTS ARE OUT I AM A HAPPY FELLOW !!

Answer 7

10 + years.. For me she shows an interest in my intersests. She makes me feel loved and important. She writes love letters and places them in my lunch car ect. Little things and you know what it took a while but I started to reciprocate.

Answer 8

My happiness has nothing to do with her.
I'm happy because I choose to be happy.
I will share my happiness with her, but she is not my happiness.

Like wise I am not responsible for her happiness either.
She is happy or sad by her own choosing.

I don't blame her when I'm not happy and she does not blame me when she is not happy.

Answer 9

she's hot as hell.....yummy!!!