i am very sensual person and i do not want to cheat on him is this normal? i even got into Adult chats to keep me satified, i know that may be cheating too, i do not know what to do.
2007-05-09 11:20:21 · 34 answers · asked by Soledad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Something is definitely a miss. Usually when something like this happens it means something is missing. talk to him, there may be something he doesn't get out of it that he would like to so he avoids it.
2007-05-09 11:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Craig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has there always been a mismatch? If not, then maybe as he has gotten older, his testosterone count is diminishing. Maybe, he is just more tired (with more energy needed for work, leaves less for home).
If you were mismatched from the start, then you guys must not have discussed this before you got married. If so, did one of you think the other would change?
Either way, don't cheat on him. It makes you look bad and will definitely end your marriage. If that is what you want, then get the divorce first. You will feel better about yourself in the long run.
If you think it will help, try counseling. It all depends on how much both of you want to make it work. Maybe you can come to a compromise that you both can live with (you satisfy yourself more, he ups his game, or he can satisfy you with toys.)
2007-05-09 11:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world. Thats life in this marriage thing. The problem is your man spent too much time with you and he is bored and u are not. You have to get creative in there or you are just out of luck. You gotta start being a bad girl, or a cleaning lady,introduce toys or whatever. But dont cheat. That aint cool. If its over its over. You cant have all the stuff and the di_k on the side. Sorry, u have to take the hit and take some losses. Freedom is sweet and life is too short to be miserable, especially in the bed room. People fight and die for freedom everyday. What are u scared of, losing some stuff. Big deal. Im planning my big escape soon too. I aint living in a dead sexual relationship no more. Cheating is for losers, if you aint woman enough to stand on your own 2 feet and fight for the life u want, no man is going to ever really want you anyway. Sorry baby for being so straightforward but you're sitting at the big kids tabe now. Good Luck and do the right thing
2007-05-09 11:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stay the heck out of adult chat rooms for sexual pleasure. Do you realize what the heck you are doing getting pleasure from a computer monitor? I'd respect you more if you bought "Play Girl" magazines and had some toys for private pleasure.
Talk to your husband and try and find out what is happening with him. Maybe he needs a good physical and have some blood work done.
2007-05-09 11:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got some serious issues if all you are worrying about is sex. Marriage is not about sex at all, it is about love & communication & if you can't see that then go get some help. If you cheat on him you will only make matters worse & then he'll really stay away from you. This may sound harsh to you but its what you need -- sex isn't everything. God is the only thing that's gonna save you now!!
2007-05-09 12:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by elway07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure what you mean by look for him but really you guys need some professional guidance becuase at the moment your husband has missed the whole aspect of marriage and what some of the activities and respect that are spouses need.
2007-05-09 11:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if there is some medical problem with him. If not, maybe the marriage isn't working out. If divorce is out of the question for you, then by all means cheat on him. Just not with anyone he knows.
2007-05-09 11:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a problem maybe he needs Viagra. even with limp problem you still try it just want stay up.i cant see a normal relationship going over a week without masturbating on both parts. i always tell my girlfriend if you need to masturbate just let me know i have no problem doing that. how do you not love sex i will go crazy without masturbating several times a week. if you or my wife or girlfriend it is my duty to make sure you or satisfied regularly. try counseling or maybe he has somebody else
2007-05-09 11:34:42 · answer #8 · answered by mccormick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUESTION WAS HE LIKE THIS B/F U GOT MARRIED? IF NOT ASK HIM WHY THINGS ARE DIFFERNT AND HOW U TWO CAN FIND A COMPROMISE AND YES IF YOU ARE IN ADULT CHAT RM I WOULD THINK U R CHEATING BUT TELL HIM ABOUT YOUR DESIRES AND NEEDS THE BIBLE TELL US IOUR BODYS DONT BELONG TO OURSELFS BUT TO OUR SPOUSE TELL HIM TO READ IN THE BIBLE IN ICORTHIANS 7:3-5 IT WILL EXPLAIN THIS ISSUE GOD BLESS HOPE FOR THE BEST
2007-05-09 11:32:10 · answer #9 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking when he's free and stay up late with him and try to make a better relationship,but if it doesn't work and he doesn't care,get divorced. And then look for a man without a ring(that's good looking)and get to know if he's interested,then get to know everything about him. : )
2007-05-09 11:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by girllova03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋