i met this guy derek a couple years ago and right away i fell in love with him and the closer we got, the harder i fell. finally, we were best friends. it sucked, though, because i met him when he was going out with this girl for 2 months, and it was really hard to see them together or hear him talk about her (their problems, etc. hardly anything good). after a while, we started hanging out everyday and cuddling on the couch and in bed and watch movies and have tickle fights. he told me he loved me and he would ask his gf why she couldnt be more like me, which was kinda awkward. 2 years of doing this, they finally broke up because he didnt like her anymore and everyday i was debating whether to tell him or not and risk losing the best friend id ever had. a couple weeks later, he told me he was in love with me and i was so happy and told him i loved him so much. we didnt talk about it until 2 days later when he had a girlfriend. whats going on?
2007-05-09 11:05:48 · 14 answers · asked by maleenoodlesoup 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
after he told me i started crying and told him i couldnt even be his friend anymore and he started crying, saying how much i meant to him and i was his best friend and stuff, but i said there was no way. after 2 days, i realized i couldnt be without him in my life, so a month after it all happened, we hung out and he took me to meet his girlfriend and she was passive-agressively all over him and he looked a little uncomfortable. i want so much for things to go back to normal, but she's taking up so much of his time.
2007-05-09 11:14:45 · update #1
two day old girlfriend or not, if he loves you he should be with you. no excuses. demand he break the new girl off or hes gonna lose you, forever. If he really loves you it wont be that much to ask, especially since you have been waiting so long already.If he doesn't, he is stringing you along, which means he is trying to have his cake and eat it too.
It is gonna hurt but stay away. If he can't officially go out with you, there is a reason.
2007-05-09 11:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by kimberly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What!!!! Your in love with a guy for two years while he is dating someone else ... YET you still cuddle with him on your coach and in your bed. Then he tells you he loves you AND then says he will ask his gf to be more like you. Then he breaks up with his gf and then tells you he loves you, you love him. Then you don't talk to him for 2 days later AND he has another gf!
Just read your additional comments about meeting his gf. OH MY GOSH!
Did I read this right? IF so, then either you are made for him OR you are a fool. OR he is a fool! Or you need HELP as you are not emotional stable.
Just read what you wrote and if you think you wasted 2 years of your life ... then I think you have an answer.
What the heck is going on in this world?????
2007-05-09 18:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a good friend right? You can talk to a good friend about anything. It may be uncomfortable, but sit down with him and have a heart to heart. Tell him you love being his friend but you would like to love him in a more intimate way, not necessarily sex-as a couple. Simply tell him your confused. You two should lay all your cards on the table. Since you are such good friends, if he decides to keep it a friendship then you can move on and give your love to another and still have your friend. If you stay friends, maybe you two will later on find that you two were meant to be all along.
2007-05-09 18:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Ask me n e thing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so he had a gf then he told you that he loved you while he got a new gf? I hope I followed that right. Well for some guys they go through a stage of finding what they really want. I went through it in 9th grade. I had like 5 girlfriends and I would wonder why I couldn't just stay with one. Just talk to him about it, he might be going through his stage that I went through. Hope this helped
2007-05-09 18:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by jamesy_8904 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't understand that you meant in a relationship type way. He might of thought you meant as a best friend. You should spell it out for him. Tell him that you think you guys should be together and that you can make him happier than the girl he's seeing now. If that doesn't work, at least you can stop worrying about it.....
2007-05-09 18:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by theroguerook 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's going on is that he's been USING YOU. He knows he can play around with you and still have a girlfriend. He doesn't love you - he loves being able to have two girls at once. If he really cared about you, he'd be with you, and just you, not have any other girls on the side, and he wouldn't keep you as the girl on the side.
Tell him he can't have his cake and eat it too - he either needs to be your boyfriend, or your friend (with NO benefits). Tell him you want to be his girl, not the girl he cheats on - or with.
2007-05-09 18:11:44 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really "loved" you, he would be with you. I am not sure if he is unable to commit to you (maybe he is concerned about losing YOU) or if the timing always seem to be alittle off. Either way, don't wait on him to find hapiness. Be his friend but look for someone that will give you the type of love you deserve.
2007-05-09 18:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by Matt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you on the side, like mashed potatoes, they're good but who eats them without the steak, on the other hand, you should find you a steak mmmmm steeak, i think it was the great philosopher rev horton heat that said eat steak eat steak it's a big ole steer,,, if tales are true then he will realize what he's missing out on, if the fool figuires this out he'll make his move, but if i were you i wouldn't give him desert until you go out together in public where your mutual acquantances are there to see
2007-05-09 18:13:04 · answer #8 · answered by rockabillly motha****** 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he did not love you its his mouth that talks and no love through action, welll that's not real love. send him to hell and kiss him farewell. there are other tasty fish in the sea
2007-05-09 18:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by tritran5555(poetri) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously it's one sided.
2007-05-09 18:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋