Ok, I came home last week after my first year of university let out and it took me a few days to unpack. My mom was helping me one day and apparently when I wasn't looking, tucked a few notes a fellow female friend had written me while I was staying in dorms. A few days afterward, she was really moody and irritable, which she sometimes gets, but this was worse... I was totally astounded when she asked me straight out, if I was gay.
I did a double take and then frowned, knowing she must have read something or maybe heard something from someone (we live in a small town [under 10,000 ppl]). And I totally denied it, flat out. But it made me feel like crap because I know I did and still do have feelings for her and other females in general (but I like males as well, as I am bisexual). I denied being gay... but it still made me feel horrible. She added that if I was my dad would 'blow his head off'.. :(
Now, knowing how my family would react, should I totally fess up or keep quiet?
2007-05-09 10:21:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if your folks are that bigoted, keep quiet for as long as you are under their roof. Unfortunately, some parents choose bigotry over loving thier own children.
If you need to live with them for summers and breaks, and rely on them for funds, etc., why risk being tossed aout on the street? I really suggest you take a very pragmatic approach here, rather than undermine your basic survival needs.
Once you have graduated and are self-supporting, they will no longer have power over you and you can tell them whatever you want.
2007-05-09 10:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say for everyones sake be wise. I think you should tell them because it is just going to hurt you more if you keep lying to yourself - I know from a decade of experience. At the same time though make sure you have somewhere to go in the event of it being bad (which it sounds like it could be). Are you able to stay at uni all the time or with a friend. When I told my parents I moved out 3 months after and I think just having that space made our relationship better.
2007-05-09 19:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you go to school that starts it's First Week this early in May? Most don't start Summer Sessions until the end of May...and that's ONLY if they do a staggered start Summer Session.
2007-05-09 17:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was outed to my parents and thrown out of their house as a teenager. It wasn't easy or pleasant.
As much as I hate the damn closet, I'd advise you to keep quiet while you still need to live under their roof.
2007-05-09 17:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by FTW 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you still live at home so I think you be quite until you get a job and can support yourself and tell the truth, everybody liar nowadays, as long as the liar did not hurt anyone, I think it is OK to a have a little white liar.
2007-05-09 17:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out yourself but then leave and then well just tell them it is my sexuality not yours. I am bi too and need a girfriend so. E-mail me at elston_shawna@yahoo.com
2007-05-09 17:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Shawna E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋