my best friend is seeing someone who is constantly taking advantage of him. they drive his car. answer his phone, read his txt msgs. answer his aim. whats the deal? and if i say something than he will just get mad at me. and i dont wanna come off as jealous cause im not. im just concerned. (keep in mind were all gay). whenever we hang out, i feel like the 3rd wheel. And jokes and stuff are always being said about me. i dont know what to do. So should i just stop talking to them and let them handle the situation and grow from it? or should i play like nothing bothers me?
2007-05-09 09:37:34 · 19 answers · asked by j m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If he feels like that you are just gonna have to let him learn his own way if what you are thinking is true then sooner or later your friend will find out. He might get hurt but he will just have to live and learn.
2007-05-09 09:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by SaChiE 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, when a friend is in the throes of passion, they don't always notice that someone is taking advantage of them. If your friend is making jokes about you with his bf, then he doesn't sound like a good friend. If you really feel that this is a bad relationship, you want your friend to know you'll still be there when they need you. Try to do things with your friend when the bf is not around. If all else fails, you can always just tell your friend that you can't be around him in this situation, and that you will be there when he needs you. Make sure he knows you're not cutting him out of your life, and you still care for him, but that it hurts too much for you to be around him under these circumstances.
Good luck.
2007-05-09 09:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by mrthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya understand, even as i turned right into a gymnastics coach I had a lot of those similar subject matters. each and each and every of the girls concept i turned right into a pervert. yet, I wasn't. i became merely helping them. even as i'm showing someone the thanks to do a the front pike you in hassle-free words finally end up in a "sixty 9" position. I wasn't arroused by it or some thing. It merely appeared undesirable. per chance it really is interior of an similar spot your coach is in? regrettably, even as between the girls requested me to "pummel her on the pommel horse", i could not refuse. She were given it on digital camera and printed it on Youtube. Ended my coaching career and began my hatred for Kerri Strug. She requested for it, how became I in the incorrect? So, in case you imagine your coach is more often than not a pervert. Come onto him, or maybe as he drops his pants you're taking a %together with your digital camera telephone and pass operating...
2016-11-26 22:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by stabile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sucks when you hate your best friends current mate. Nothing you can say or do will come out right, so keep your head down, smile, and when the sh*t hits the fan, be there for your friend. Playmates come and go but real friends are golden.
2007-05-09 09:51:57 · answer #4 · answered by fairbetsy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never said anything at all - you are welcome to bring it up to your friend - ONCE - then drop it - his life his choices - just like you make your own choices.
I am not one of these people that drop friends though - I say stick around and wait for the fall out and when that happens be there for your friend. Remind him KINDLY that you saw this coming and next time around he is more likely to listen to your advice.
2007-05-09 10:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them handle the situation. Your friend WILL end up realizing he's being taken advantage of. BUT, still be friends, you'll need each other.
2007-05-09 09:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Luck 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like they're taking advantage of YOU being such a patient friend. Give them both some space. If your friend isn't respecting you, obviously he thinks he can handle the situation himself. But be supportive if he comes crying to you.
2007-05-09 09:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If it bothers you that much, then walk away from the relationship. People will not change until they are ready to. All you can do is provide them with your honest opinion of what is happening and try to help them see what impact it has. If that person doesn't want to see it, then there really isn't much you can do. Just be there to talk with them when/if they come back around.
2007-05-09 09:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by troythom 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A century ago, when I was a kid, we had a saying, M.Y.O.B. Let your friend live his life the way he wants to and you do the same. Otherwise you are going to forfeit a friend
2007-05-09 13:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ray T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both! you should play like nothing bothers you, but at the same time let them deal with this problem. No reason for you to worry about it.
2007-05-09 09:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Jill knows best 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋