I am wondering about everyones opinion. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, and we both smoke. His family loves me and I love them too, but his parents don't know that we smoke. He said if his mother knew I smoked she would hate me. That doesn't sound right to me, I know people that don't smoke don't like it, but I've never picked my friends by who does and doesn't smoke. I think its ridiculous. We are going on vacation with them in 2 weeks and I'm not sure how I'm gonna take 4 days of not smoking. Am I making a big deal out of nothing??
2007-05-09 09:35:57 · 16 answers · asked by ThisNthat77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes I am an adult, I'm in my mid 20's. He said his mother's dad died from lung cancer and thats why she doesn't like it. I would never smoke around her but I don't see why she can't know.
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2007-05-09 09:42:41 · update #1
I am not sure how good their noses are, but chances are that if they are non-smokers and you both smoke, they can smell the smoke on you both and already know that you smoke. When I quit - even for a day, I can smell the smoke on other people.
If you are going on vacation with them, just try not to smoke around them. Go outside if you can - or take a walk around the hotel and have a cigarette then. You can still smoke and hopefully not offend them.
Good luck!!
2007-05-09 09:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
i can feel what you are talking about we all know that smoking is a bad thing but we can't just judge people with smoking if you hurt any one with smoking this one will gonna be you only not anybody else i think you should be your self don't afraid from any thing if they really loves you they can't hate you for such a thing and they will accept the way you are go on and be natural i am sure that you will spend a great vacation with them
2007-05-09 09:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by minney 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They might not like it but im sure they wont hate you. But to be honest chances are if you both have been smoking for a year and they are non smokers then trust me they already know. I told my parents after 4 years and they turned around and said "Yeh we knew from day one". Non-smokers can smell the slightest bit of smoke on you, even if you try and cover it.
2007-05-09 09:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by nickic2k 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-29 22:42:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Its hard to break a habbit. And his mom needs to work out some issues if she is making a big stink out of something little. Either try to cut down, or sneak some and hide while you smoke. Say your going to the bathroom and smoke. But sooner or later, youll have to tell her. Or shell find out some how, eventually.
2007-05-09 09:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation, but it's me that feels uncomfortable...I smoke and nobody else does in the b/f's family. So when we are around them, I am occupied enough to not think about smoking. As soon I am in my own environment the I have to smoke.
2007-05-09 10:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by akskdm3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just like you have the right to smoke, people who don't smoke have the right to dislike it when people smoke around them.
It isn't "rediculous" for smoking to be a factor when it comes to who you associate with. take into consideration people who have asthma, or a past history in their family of cancer, or heart conditions...why would they want to be around smokers?
If you are going to smoke, you have to be considerate of others who don't...you aren't born with a cigarette between your lips, it is an addiction you chose. If you rboyfriend expects you to respect how they feel...then you need to do it, or just not go on the vacation if you feel you can't go without nicotine.
2007-05-09 09:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i think that would be a slight overreaction on her part. you're right - you shouldn't judge people by whether or not they smoke. i don't smoke but i used to and i've dated a few smokers. maybe if you speak to her beforehand and explain that your boyfriend has told you her thoughts and that you really respect that but would it be ok if you don't do it in front of her. she'll probably appreciate you being honest and might turn out not to react like your bf said
2007-05-09 09:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by xangel123x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't mean it so literally. They'll probably be annoyed by your smoking, however I doubt they would "hate" you. You're an adult (right?) and you're intitled to smoke if you choose too, I don't think you (or your boyfriend for that matter) should be hiding anything from them.
2007-05-09 09:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No - his mother must have very strong views if he can't tell her that he smokes. So just find a hideaway where you can have a quick puff or take patches with you.
Good luck
2007-05-09 09:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋