I want a boyfriend, but im still a pre-op transsexual. I have been on some online dating and have been talking to a nice guy for a while, he doesnt know though, and im worried that with things moving along as time moves on, that i will have to tell him and it will make him leave. Should i tell them before they get to know me, or at least before they meet me, or after they have met me, (i dont intend to be jumping in anyone's bed soon so i wont be found out in that way), so they can get to know me and i them before the bad news comes out.
2007-05-09 08:33:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
talk about it right from the start this is a huge turning point in your life and you should start out as you mean to go on - honest and open. talk to him, help him to understand and he will get to know you for who you really are.
2007-05-09 08:43:47 · answer #1 · answered by The Grumpy Dalek 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although I've not encountered your particular circumstances:
My instinct is to be upfront about these sorts of things very quickly; that way if they've got some problem with it, you both save a lot of time and trouble.
2007-05-09 08:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Lobster 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why have you labelled yourself as bad news? if you think the news may have an adverse effect on the guy your talking about, then you should tell him now,before you even meet,and anyone else in your life,you must be honest if you want honesty in return.
2007-05-12 07:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by paul49177 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing to do is be carefull and let a friend intro you to someone he knows otherwise you will find yourself in a terrible mess. have you tried attending a church on sunday on a regular basis? have you friends that know others looking for similar things? frankly my dear i do not envy your position just be carefull and pray you will find a way but be prepared to wait rome was not built in a day good luck and be faithful
2007-05-09 15:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to be very honest about something like this, as early as possible, as the longer you leave it the harder it will be,
and don't look at it as telling someone bad news, if that is how you feel then your gonna find to convince ther people that it is not a bad thing, head up and be proud, you was not happy and you done something about it, well done x
2007-05-09 21:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It takes courage for people do go on line dating, these people need to know the truth, its unfair to expect anyone to accept you the way you are if you are not truthfull at the beginning.
2007-05-12 10:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a relationship with a tranny pre op and I think he/she is so hot. I like to go down town and have to brush a certain two friends away. I also like a roman helmet from my girl/man
2007-05-11 09:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Frank the Frowner : ( 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should tell him
if he cant except you for who you are then shame on him
dont worry youll find someone
and anyone who judges you well shame on um
cause you are who you are
and you should stay that way
coz thats how you like it
xxxx
2007-05-12 21:44:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys will hate you for tricking them into liking you. I think honesty at the earliest apropriate moment is the only option.
2007-05-09 21:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him
as he is putting alot of
trust in you simply by being
in a relationship with you
they may never be a right time to tell him
but i would suggest that if he loves
you or grows to love you
he must be told
and......
if he dumps you im always available
2007-05-10 09:50:31 · answer #10 · answered by dregj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋