child protective services?

Question

ok i dont know what to do but i need answers fast ok there is this lady i know that has just had her baby yesterday and she has had her other child removed from her by cps due to her not being able to care for her and now she just had her other one she has nothing for this baby she has asked me if i could buy her a car seat and if the hospital will give her formula to take home cause she has no money till the 1st and her wic appointment isnt till the 29th what should i do and also if i make a report willl it matter and will cps actually check into it and when cause i called 5 times already i started calling on monday and still no call back

Answer 1

call cps and go out and buy the poor baby some formula, people always say don;t punish the baby for the parents mistakes, well this is one of those situations, get that kid some food!

Answer 2

You are not going to want to hear my answer, but I am giving it anyway.

The woman asked if you could buy her a carseat. This, to me sounds like you are friends close enough for her to ask. She was worried about the hospital sending formula home so she could get by until her wic appointment or the first, wichever comes first. This shows that she is looking for the best she can give to her child.
Why couldn't you be a good human and suggest she look into the services of the community? There are places that will supply things free of charge either on loan or to keep. You could have sympathized and said "no, i don't have the money for a carseat, but I am sure that you could call the chamber of commerce and see if they have any listings for places that would."
I find your attitude dispicable and your intentions less than noble. Do you honestly think a baby is better off in foster care? I have been in the system and let me tell you, they are only in it for the monthly checks and the ability to look good at their churches.
This woman may well be a wonderful mother if she is given half a chance. Do you even know the real reason why her first was taken? If she is merely an aquaintance rather than a friend, the kid's father may have faught and won custody for all you know.
I know of nobody who will take a child from the mother just because she does not have money. That is absurd.
Also, you will not get a call back from cps because it is not your business. You reported it, now mind your own business and your life.

Tell me, would a bad mother be on wic? obviously she cares enough to see something that helps with the nutrition and immunizations that wic provides.
Or is the real kicker here that you do not like the woman because she is poor?


I am proud to announce to the world that all of my kids are/were on wic for the first five years of life. I am also proud to announce that where I live, there is a place called the Hannah House that you can go to for any needs you may have for a baby/toddler: diapers, formula, blankets....

I am horrified to imagine what this poor woman is going through with people like you as friends/aquaintances and would probably keel over at a look at her enemies.

Answer 3

Being poor does not make you a bad parent.

If she was neglecting/abusing/harming her child CPS can remove the baby. But, if it is a simple matter of money, CPS can NOT take the baby away. WIC, welfare, foodstamps, etc....so there is much much more to the story on the first baby.

The second baby, certainly social services know about it, since she had to have her medical care provided by medicade.

If you think she is abusive, neglectful etc, the CPS should get involved, otherwise this is a case of a poor mother, trying to get the means to support her child, and needs a little lead time. The hospital will give her formula. the hospital will also (typically) give the poor a car seat.

I have adopted a baby through CPS. CPS is for the abused, neglected, abandoned, and situations where death can occur.

You have a social service issue. Contact social services, get a social worker, and inform them of the situation. It is their job to keep families together.

Now, throw away all this advice is CPS took the baby because she was abusive. Are you sure CPS toook the baby due to finances, or did the mom temporarilly place the baby in foster care?

Contact your church.....they will help with newborn situationsl...

Answer 4

I you have not contacted CPS, maybe you should. Some reports get screened out and some are investigated. CPS will not contact you and inform you of the outcome: although you made the report, you are not the custodial parent. Only the custodial parent can request information. The hospital should provide her with a car seat. CPS has legally 5 days to investigate a negligent report and 24 hours for a sexual abuse report. This particular case sounds like a screen-out. I hope this information is helpful.

Answer 5

the wic office has carseats to rent if she qualifys. also, the wic will give her emergency formula to last till her appointment. if they wont give her any formula, them please buy some for the baby. after all he/she does need to eat. (im not trying to sound rude) keep a close eye on her and the baby, and keep making those calls to the cps. maby even a food bank or a church could help her with formula. as for the car seat, she should have bought one before the baby was even born.

Answer 6

If CPS took her other child from her, I promise you the would have been told that she had another baby, and they will probably investigate.

I have to say, your lack of compassion for this woman saddens me. I know you want to protect this baby, but this mother needs help. Think if it was you, would you want people to try and have your baby taken away? Help her, point her to agencies that can provide her with diapers and formula. Take her to good will, maybe she can find a car seat there. This woman is asking for help, she doesn't sound like she's being neglectful.

Instead of reporting her, maybe you should call and say 'hey this woman needs help, you people need to go and help her!!!'

Answer 7

1. If CPS took her first child, they will most likely take her second if they become aware of it (they did this with someone I know).
2. MAKE A REPORT. Keep trying and don't give up, because it is in the best interest of the child. If they won't call you back, then call your local police station if you feel the child is in danger (not riding in a car seat, not being fed/changed, etc).

I would not buy her a car seat, but would do everything I would to ensure the safety of her child.

Answer 8

Instead of reporting her and judging her shouldn't her neighbors (include yourself here) try and gather up what she needs and help her out? If all she is guilty of is not having what the baby needs aren't there any churches that have used clothing etc. that can tide her over? The goal should be to keep mother and child together and provide some food etc. to make that possible.

Answer 9

why don't you go knock on her door and tell her that you think the baby will better off with protective services,i bet she won't bother you no more she trusted you to ask you for help i don't think we should judge we should help those who are not as fortune as we are instead of knocking them down besides every body is ready to lash out at her when none of us knows why her child got taken we should know the facts before any one downs her.i feel a child should be with it's family unless the child is being beaten and mistreated money can't buy love

Answer 10

Sounds like she may still be in the hospital. The hospital may typically employ someone in social services. See if you can get in contact with them ASAP - they probably have a tight relationship with cps. Plus you can always say you tried the hospital social worker about the formula.