Last night after I got off work I went home and told my husband I didnt feel the same way about him as he did me. Sunday we talked about trying one more time and this time he was really going to try. But I can barely kiss him and touch him, or let him touch me. I told him I wasnt happy and that I couldnt be with him anymore. He spent $500 last month on speakers for his car that he wants to get rid of and then I found a condom in the washer and he swears on our son that he didnt cheat on me. But today he calls me crying that he doesnt want us to get a divorce. I didnt want to hurt him but I had to get out. Now I feel like theres been a wait lifted off my shoulders but I also feel horible for what I did.
2007-05-09 06:58:35 · 19 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"...for better or for worse, 'till death do you part." Ring a bell, sweetie?
2007-05-09 07:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by Hugh Jardon 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You feel horrible because he cried on the phone asking you to stay. So you thought you are hurting him.
Shake it off! That was all his trick. He knows you are leaving, he just dont want you walk out of him & laugh your way out. He is punishing you for leaving him & plays psycho on you.
What was his explaination about the condom? Did you buy the reason?
If not, only you know if he is all guilty. Get a good grip on your self, make your decision and dont look back.
2007-05-09 14:29:12 · answer #2 · answered by MelissaMy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He swears that he did not cheat, but did he explain the condom? Kind of hard to explain that if the two of you do not use them, don't you think? I think you need to get that cleared up and when he finally admits that he has been screwing around, then you will feel justified and not horrible.
I found condoms in my ex wife's car and since we never used them, the only thing I wanted to know was the real reason for them. She tired lies saying they belonged to a friend..blah, blah, blah... but I have spend enough of my life reading peoples faces to know she was not telling me the truth. Finally she admitted to screwing my so-called best friend and told me she did not want to admit it because she knew I would divorce her. She was right, but I knew the answer anyhow and was going to divorce her regardless of her admission.
2007-05-09 14:21:31 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was cheating. No matter what a man says about swearing on a childs life is not true. My husband says the same thing. He told his sons mother that he 'swore on his sons life he wasn't drinking and driving his son around' he was lying out his a**!He was drinking all day on the river. It doesn't matter what he says. It matters what he does, and the fact that you found a condom in the washing machine should tell yourself that it's not worth it.
2007-05-09 14:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should feel that way! I mean it's obvious that he hasn't grown up yet. The only thing he is upset about is now he must pay child support. I mean he can get s3x anytime it seems. It just goes to show how deep the psyche is when you get a gut feeling and then proof is manifested. Now you know why you felt repelled by his touch.
2007-05-09 14:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO it sounds like he has been playing the field as well as you for a while .if he is to the point of crying to you that he doesn't want a divorce,sounds like you where looking for a way out of the marriage yourself and his cheating just gave you the way out.
2007-05-09 14:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by thumper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to divorce him then just do it, and stop beating around the busy. This relationship is doomed. You married a boy, not a man, and you have problems of maturity with him. Get on with your life, because five years from now the issues will be the same.
2007-05-09 14:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't feel horrible. Not all marriages end because both parties are no longer in love. The important thing is that you remain on good terms for your child. If you don't feel it anymore don't let him guilt you back into it. Stand your ground. Good luck.
2007-05-09 14:06:51 · answer #8 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you'd feel horrible. Just because you're the one who is doing the breaking up doesn't mean you have no feelings! From what you described you did the right thing even though it was very hard for you. I hope things get better for you.
2007-05-09 14:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel the weight off of your shoulders, because you know that you don't have to deal with his lies and crap anymore. You feel bad because he was still your husband, and you hate to hurt him. But you know what? It's all about you and your son, you have to do what is best for the both of you.
2007-05-09 14:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't bare the thought of him touching you, it's time to part ways. Loveless marriage is no fun for you or him. I was giving my guy extra hugs last night and he asked me why I was hugging him so much, ha ha. I just missed hugging him :)
2007-05-09 14:04:33 · answer #11 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋