ive been dishonest in my past relation but i was never really in love. that i realise now when in my current relation where i love my boyfriend a lot. from day 1 i had confided everything abt myself including all my mistakes and i trusted some1 4 the 1st time. he hurts me a lot at times, ke knows that, but i still love him a lot and dont want to be without him. my past mistake makes him really insecure abt me. he says he loves me a lot and wants me just to himself, but for my past he cannot trust me and makes me feel rotten abt myself every now and then. but i accept everything he says, and keep getting hurt as i love him a lot. hes trust too has been broken on a few occassions in his past relations, so i realise it is difficult for him to believe in me. but i guess trust is the basis of any relationship. i love him a lot and i dont want to lose him and he too wants the same thing. but when the insecurities creep in, he just pushes me away from him and lets me suffer. what should we do
2007-05-09 06:50:59 · 3 answers · asked by suzie24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, if I were you I would consider the length of our relationship. I would also, think about the reason I was unfaithful to my prevuos partner... then I wouldn't tolerate him treating me any less than i should be treated...if you treat him with respect he should do the same... do not feel guilty for something you haven't done in this relationship...HE shouldn't condemn you for something you haven't done to him, HE IS NO GOD...finally stop being such a wuss!!! This kind of submissive behavior only leads for him to think he can do this to any woman!...tAdn FIANLLY KEEP YOUR TRAP SHUT! Men do not need to know EVERYTHING!!! The PAST IS PAST!!! you can't change it so why dwell lon it. CHEEEEZ!!!
2007-05-16 06:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Hermosa bori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did the right thing by being honest up front. In time he'll see that you're really in love and not going to hurt him and maybe then you'll get that bond. Hang in there and just give all this time.
2007-05-15 13:42:13 · answer #2 · answered by good ole girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust can not be developed without honesty. Pure honesty, like what your saying here needs to be said to him. Talk about your insecurities, talk about lack of trust, TALK!!!! But at the most primative be brutally honest! Honesty well make or break it.....
2007-05-15 04:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋