We have 1 older son each from our previuos marriages, they are ages 8 and 9. I am now 35 weeks pregnant with a little girl, she will be our first "together". I am totally happy with our little family and have no desire to have any more children. All of the sudden he told me he wants another soon after I have our daughter. I have told him my thoughts on it and even tried to sugar coat it and say" maybe in a few years" even though I know I don't plan on having anymore. What am I to do at this point? I plan on getting on birth control but I am afraid he will try to sabatoge my birth control b/c this is something he wants badly? HELP?
2007-05-09 06:10:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i'm not saying he would sabatoge my birth control, but the thought of what if he did has crossed my mind
2007-05-09 06:20:07 · update #1
i think alot may have to do with his older child living in another state and he doesn't get him often as he would like!
2007-05-09 06:22:03 · update #2
He might change his mind after the baby is born. Then he will see how hard it would be to take care of a newborn.
2007-05-09 06:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you all are not married so if he feels that he wants another baby....he may not stay. But that shouldn't influence you into putting yourself and your body through something so daunting as in having a baby. And you should consider getting birth control that he can not mess with...like an IUD..it will last 5 years and he can't get to it.
You could just opt to have your tubes ties if you have to have a csection..but you still need to use a form of bc..you can get pregnant with your tubes tied...they may not stay that way!
Will he be mad...most likely, but it is your body. just try your best to tell him how you feel. If he still doesn't agree then do what you have to do for you!
Good luck and Congrats!!
2007-05-09 06:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Docslady01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would just put a stop to the conversation right now, at least for about 5 or 6 months. There is no need to worry about another baby at this moment. There is so much good stuff to focus on with the current arrival, both before and after the baby arrives. Tell him that your body needs a chance to rest in between pregnancies and right now you would just rather focus on the new baby. As far as him tampering with your bc, that is a big trust issue. You could always try to keep it hidden, but it would be better if he would listen to you now, and respect your need for some time.
2007-05-09 06:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Siciliene 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well me and my bf have a son who will turn 3 on this saturday... i am 24 weeks going to be 25 tomorrow..
well ... he is already talking about having another one aswell..
he thinks i should have one about a month after i give birth to this one.....
so maybe he is just so excited about a baby being around and he dont want to lose the baby stages so he wants another one?..
maybe sit down and talk about it and tell him you would like more ( if u really do ) but would lik to wait awhile...
just simply tell him what you feel...
good luck hun!
2007-05-09 06:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by lilmommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would reconsider even staying in this relationship. He should respect your wishes and desires, and someone who would sabotage your medication is not the loving, caring, supportive partner a woman needs! Perhaps it's just baby fever and will disappear. I would be assertive and tell him that at the moment, 3 children are enough. You should be honest and not lead him on with the thought of another child when you're sure you don't want another one. That will hurt his feelings later on. Ask him why he wants another so badly and then talk it out. If he still doesn't understand and you're afraid of him messing around with your medication, I say RUN AWAY! What would he do if you did something to make him angry???
2007-05-09 06:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by keonli 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
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2016-10-30 23:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by fernande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you both go to counseling that would help. If not try to really tell him that you are done having kids. I'm 23 weeks and my husband mentioned getting pregnant again when I was still in my first trimester, I think guys just dont get it sometimes. Good Luck!
2007-05-09 06:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by ELW 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get an IUD so he can't mess with the pill, and talk to hem about this. Don tmake any final determinations yet, you may decide you want another in a few years. But definalty get this resolved before the wedding!
2007-05-09 06:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by parental unit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make the birth look like outta this world i mean squeezin the hell outta his hand requestin crazy stuff 2 eat durin an important part of the game..... trust me he will think twice... my mom did that and thats why i am an only child ...lol. ALso let him know afterwards so he dont throw away the condems ... i love you, us our children and what we share but its physically and mentally draining for me ... lets just wait and see what happens ..thats why we are married b/c if any suprises come we can take care of them.
2007-05-09 06:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by sexxisha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont lie about " mabye some day" my ex did that to me.t hat will caseu a lot of animosity towards you later on. just wait til u have the baby once u body is reswted you might change ur mind, if not then u need to be honest with him about what you want & need. good luck
2007-05-09 06:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by lady26 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋