My boyfreind wants us to try a 3some with another female. I think I would be embarrassed but I am not totally against it. I am curious but am afraid that I might get jeoulous or act stupid (im not usually jeolous). He said he had them with his ex and one of her freinds. I dont look at my friends like that so how or who do you hook up with for this kind of thing and how do you handle all the mixed feelings about it?
2007-05-09 05:58:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
One great rule of thumb when looking to "open" a relationship is if you feel uncomfortable, don't do it. If you are curious but shy, try going to a nightclub that caters to an open bi-sexual lifestyle. Your odds of jealousy are much higher if you hook up with one of your friends. If it is with a more anonymous person, you won't have to deal with the uncomfortable "morning after" because they can just go away where as if you do it with one of your friends, you will always have that between you.Before you do anything it would be a good idea to set up specific rules to follow i.e.no kissing on the mouth, no pet names etc. This may help you feel a little more at ease. Good luck!
2007-05-09 06:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by SloanMercy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think 3 somes are a bad idea...but, if you're curious in trying it, I would suggest doing it with someone NEITHER of you have any relationship with, friends or otherwise. Try hooking up with a stranger online through a swingers website or pick up someone at a swingers club. The reason for this is so that it will stay purely experimental, and that there's no chance of any kind of jealousy or anything like that, or any cheating going on behind your steady boyfriend or girlfriend's back. Of course you wanna get to know a LITTLE about the person, like if they're drug and disease free and all that. Of course ALWAYS play safe (we all know people can lie) but beyond that, I would actually suggest not even exchanging personal information with the person, like contact information. This keeps it experimental, and no way of calling up the person later for a little "one on one" action.
Again...I think 3somes are a bad idea. It's like playing with fire. I think it's best left in fantasy land.
2007-05-09 13:12:13 · answer #2 · answered by I_color_outside_the_lines 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Threesomes CAN be a good thing, but only if you are both 100% secure!!! If you have any doubts at all in your mind, I would reconsider. You have to know for sure that you would be ok with seeing your b.f. have sex with someone else. If you think you'd be jealous, you probably would, and it would probably haunt you later.
My husband and I had a threesome last year, and everything turned out fine, but I enjoy seeing him with someone else. I'm not the slightest bit jealous.
I would just really think long and hard about it if you're already having mixed feelings about it.
Good luck!
2007-05-09 14:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably BSing you about having them with his ex. Where are his ex and friends now? You could ask one of them if he is BSing you and if not perhaps one of them might want to join you. Its been a fantasy of mine for 4 decades or so. I suggested it to my wife around 1975 and she couldn't do it. We haven't made love since then and I wish I were dead 3 out of 7 days a week. But that isn't what you wanted to know. I actually don't know what to tell you. But feeling jealousy in a situation like this, when you really care about the guy, is normal.
2007-05-09 13:16:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shouldn't this be posted under the Relationship (Dating) section? I'm not sure why it is posted in the GBLT section.
(Just asking. I think you posted in the wrong place.)
2007-05-09 13:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is he wants an excuse to be able to have sex with another woman.
2007-05-09 13:38:28 · answer #6 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋