He gets his and then its overwith and it only lasts usually about 2 minutes. i don't know how to talk to him about this and I don't wanna cheat, but there is this at work I'm attracted to who is having relationship problems and we vibe, I just don't want either one of us to get caught in a volitle situation.
2007-05-09 05:52:45 · 11 answers · asked by mlilmonica53 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had this problem once upon a time with a boyfriend and it wasn't until I started talking to him about sex, while we were having sex, that it changed for the better. Without getting too graphic I would for example take his hand and put it on various places on my body and told him to touch me here, or kiss me here. Sometimes they just have to be shown the way. If you can't be open and communicate about sex between you two then things will remain the same. If you love your boyfriend and want to stay in the relationship then you have to work this out.
2007-05-09 06:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many resources out there which can help educate the 'inexperienced' with the joys of, and proper techniques for love making. This certainly sounds like a lack of experience on both your parts. Communication is always key to achieving satisfaction. If you are too afraid to speak up, go get a copy of (for example) "The Joy of Sex." Sit down with him and read it through. It deals with the very situation you describe and..umm...even gives the solutions. It might surprise you to find out how much fun it can be while you work through the various...errr....chapters.
Honestly, we men are NOT mind readers, but if we are really into our lady, we will certainly listen and try to please her as much as we are pleased. 2 minutes isn't making love...it's ...umm...well, a wet dream.
2007-05-09 06:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are fishing for a an excuse to cheat.
If you are complaining about who you are with and in the same breath start talking about some other guy I would end the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing.
2007-05-09 06:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow......this boy is completely uneducated about women and doesn't care if YOU don't tell him!
girl tell him.....does he give you any foreplay?
does he even kiss you?
does he touch you other than instant intercourse to which he proceeds to his orgasm?
it's very easy to talk to him about this actually.....and you will do it if it means salvaging your relationship....and if you have come to the point of not even being attracted to your boyfriend then break it off
a relationship will Never survive with poor sexual chemistry
2007-05-09 06:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell you husband he is not satisfying you. If you don't tell him he will never know. I told my husband that i didnt enjoy it because it was too fast and wow, what a difference the next night!
2007-05-09 06:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are going to make some rules about your sex life and number one is that you must have a O before he does.. if he wont's this relationship to last. Good luck.
2007-05-09 06:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and tell him. Or get a battery operated boyfriend! Either way, try incorporating more foreplay, not so much intercourse.
2007-05-09 06:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by kgamboa2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to tell him the problem. You all need to find a way for you to be satisfied before he gets his.
2007-05-09 05:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by demetria_nyree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take charge. When you're being "intimate," tell him what you want. Why do women lay back and take it?
2007-05-09 06:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not a mind reader and he can't begin to resolve the issue IF U DO NOT TALK TO HIM
2007-05-09 06:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋