i have given up everything i was going to school had to quite he was causing to many prolbems i had to quite my job and look for another one. i have a lawyer but i still feel like i Losing to him and I tired of giving in to him. He comes and goes as he pleases and yet I feel like I am a prisioner in my parents home any advice?
2007-05-09 04:49:05 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Going through one now and we have been trying since last December and still not much closer than when we started. The process is long and drawn out and I feel like you, I'm so feed up with the way the Mother gets her way that it has caused so much stress in my life. They can get a lawyer and keep this going forever, my lawyer says we have to work it out before going before the judge, now this is just for visitation, so I can only imagine what your going through.
2007-05-09 04:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok ignore the other comments your not having a pitty party. It seems to me you all are living in seperate houses? If he is causing this many problems your lawyer needs to know. Go get a restraining order against him!! What you both need to understand is that what happens here and now will effect your children or child, GREATLY!! If it means that you loose the house and the car and whatever else oh well!! The first concern should and will always be the children involved that should be the only thing that matters. A house you can replace a car can be replaced and so on. Move into your own apt. come and go as you please. Go back to school and don't let him know what school it is. Messy divorces are never easy but if you keep playing his game he will win. Go on with your life and he will eventually get tired of messing with it all when he see's he has no effect on you any more. Keep your chin up it does get better I promise.
2007-05-09 05:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by Angelgirl 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A good lawyer will put in place stipulations on what he can and cannot do. He is manipulating the whole situation and is still in control. You need to speak to your lawyer about your freedom, what need to be done for your children, support, protection from him and his harrassment and for you to be able to go to school, work and not have to live in fear of him, retaliation or harrassment. If all else fails move to a location that he won't know where you are and come back only for the divorce decision, but you lawyer should be able to counsel you on most of these items. He should not be gaining this much ground over you.
2007-05-09 04:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should just quit and give into him. Life isn't fair at all. I lost everything in my divorce thinking the same way. I lost my house, credit, children,money,friends, and just about everything in my home. And to top it off she was the one that cheated but i gave in. I got screwed and let me tell ya i see it everytime i get a paycheck. I went to having the white picked fence and the golden retirever and 2.5 kids nice cars to living in a 1 br apartment, used car, no money, and no real dating life. I refused to live like that anymore. So i started looking for someone for support. Find a counselor now. They really help!!! Trust me. They will be days when you will need to vent! They are the best ones.
2007-05-09 05:01:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the two of you are living in your parents house, your parent's can keep him from coming to their house, well this is IL law. Your parents house, they can keep him off. They can give you permission to keep him off. When it's time to switch, you can make the suggestion you guys switch at the police station. If I could afford the gas, then that is what I do. but even in winter I don't have anyone to stay home with my little boy. Pack the guys stuff and with your parents there, if they agree to it, tell him he has to get out.
In IL. The mother almost always gets the child, but if there is no physical or emotional abuse, make a reasonable visitation and make sure you work with each other on the visitation.
2007-05-09 05:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question led us to believe this was a question about custody and divorce. But what is really about is that you are whining about your ex and his poor treatment of you.
If you dont like your parents home that they offered to you in your time of need then get an apartment.
At your next job tell them about how he ruined your other job maybe your boss will get an injunction keeping him out of that business.
Talk with your lawyer about a restraining order to keep your ex from harassing you.
Get some help with that whine- soon it will become a habit!
2007-05-09 04:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Things like custody issues should be settle in a court room in front of a judge..I would be cautious about signing any in a lawyer office without receiving a copy. Tell him to take this matter to court.
2016-03-19 02:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, know that you have the power to control your destiny. File for divorce, and the child support will help you financially. Know that you can get a great job without a degree...you just have to set your mind that you CAN do it. Get out of the situation you are in by changing it. Be a strong woman, and you can provide a great life for your son while giving him a great role model in how powerful women can be!
2007-05-09 04:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Life isn't fair, get used to it. You have to fix our own situation, no one is going to come along and join your pity party and save you. Pull yourself up, get a new job, start supporting yourself and quit feeling sorry for yourself.
2007-05-09 04:53:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
custody will be the first attempt that i would take care of then the divorce. the childs safety is more important than a divorce.
2007-05-09 04:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by mama2_nana 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋