Through all your experiences, what is the ONE WISDOM you learned that most people dont understand or relate to

Question

There are nuggets of wisdom everywhere, yet most people never stop to consider another point of view. Its the individualistic thinkers that hold the key to alot of problems , Yet the 'group think' that limits us. Can you share the one thing you learned that has- gone against the traditional view of something and is true to you. Why won't people listen or try to understand it?

Answer 1

Ummm... it's hard to pick just one. I'll give you three.

-Life is to be lived, not whizzed through. Enjoy every second. Don't work that 55-hour a week job. Don't stay in a fight longer than you have to. Don't worry. Don't get too concerned with stuff like the kind of car you drive or what you look like. Enjoy the world, and yourself, and your family. Savor it.

-Forget other people. Stop judging them, stop envying them, stop worrying what they think of you. Just live.

-You are who you are. Be honest w/ yourself. Love yourself. KNOW yourself. And know your views on life, etc. Don't be a sheep. Think for yourself.

Answer 2

well I have a little theory on this stuff, I've not really looked into whether this is really something that is already well established and taken seriously or dismissed, but anyway... I've got a strong suspicion that we aren't ever truly in control of what we do. It seems on the face of it, that we, in our conscious mind, have the free will to make any decision, but I think this might not be the case. I think it just seems like we do. The way I see it, all you have to go on when making a decision is the information fed to the brain by the senses, information which the brain has been downloading since birth (and before?) , and information it never has any choice but to accept. (That's not strictly true, it does filter a lot out of what gets presented to our conscious mind, but that's happening in the background and not something we have any say over). Then think about the thoughts you have. As far as I can tell, every thought you have either comes from some "present" sensory input, or is the natural consequence of the thought that came before it - but if you traced that sequence of thoughts back far enough, you would eventually find that it started from some initial sensory input - whether that was itself experienced in what was at that time the "present", or from a memory which is just a record of past sensory input. All of this is experience is generated by information being constantly fed to the brain, from an external world which it has no control over. What then about decision making? What happens when presented with a choice? I don't think that the brain just pulls decisions out of thin air. I think that the brain makes what seems to it the "best" choice based on the information it has available, whether consciously or subconsciously. and that the past experiences can lead to the formation of sort of algorithms it can then use as a point of reference in the future - not to mention the instinctive algorithms already in place which have presumably been developed during our evolution. Algorithms that can be updated when new information becomes available. As an example, imagine if you had somehow deprived a baby of all sensory input/memories, but then suddenly gave it some perfect 50/50 choice to make. How would it ever reach a decision to go left or right? The reality is of course that we are never faced with such an impossible situation, because there is always something tipping the balance one way or another. There's surely some information the brain can draw on, however minor, whether that is an immediate thing like, say, more muscle fatigue on one side of your body, or a distant childhood memory. It has even been shown that thinking the same thoughts repeatedly can allow the brain to become accustomed to that particular sequence of neurons firing, thus making the thoughts more likely to be repeated in the future. Then you also take account of how much of our behaviour is driven by chemical cues, whether that is scents, hormones, endorphins, things we ingest or whatever. That's all going on behind the scenes and we never even notice. It leaves me with the feeling that we are not really anything more than observers, just bouncing from experience to experience, being faced with decisions but not really choosing which choices we are faced with, and then not making that choice "by ourselves" out of the blue. After all, what does any logic rely on? It starts out with a few basic axioms, a few principles that are assumed to be true. Surely the only thing the brain has in the way of axioms is just external information, it learns its own logic through the experiences it is exposed to. Also, can you think of a time when you've ever came up with a truly new idea? Or, was that idea really just a different combination of other previously known-about things? What inspired that combination? Something you saw or heard that set you off down a particular line of thoughts that your brain follows through to their natural conclusion, based on the algorithms it has been forced to develop through unavoidable experiences forced upon it since birth? Perhaps I'm repeating myself now, or perhaps I haven't been clear enough. I could add a lot more in terms of specific examples but this has already gotten far too long, lol. I hope you understand me though, I've been wondering about this a fair bit recently and haven't been able to think of something that can't be reconciled with this, and it's 4 AM here, lol.

Answer 3

Being fearful of admitting you have a mental problem that can be treated. For many years, this was such a taboo thing, no one would even seek treatment for it ...and...if they did, they were put away in a horrible place. I hope that this changes more in the future as we discover that a mental illness is just as treatable as a physical illness and stop putting "labels" on people who have sought help. I watched my mother go through terrible anxiety and fear of enjoying anything. She needed help and I did not have the knowledge to see this because I was a young child.

We need to educate the public more about mental health.

Since this was under psychology and I have studied this myself, I become furious when people cannot accept others with mental disorders.

Answer 4

Great question!
It is the skill of listening, talking less and doing more.....And taking the time to learn and do what is important in life.
Love. Not lust, but love. Faith and Hope are supported by love. So it starts with love. Most people do not believe or even trust themselves. Once you love yourself in a wholesome way, then you spread out to others and keep the fire burning.....for life.

For most of us, it is about self. We always think of how we can get personal gain from any activity and how we will be perceived by others. There has to be a short term gain for us to invest in an activity, no matter how small. For example, for someone to stop and help a dirty old man, we expect payment or we must be related to him.
For one to be nice to people, it may be because one expects them to buy their services or products or may be they are relations.

At the end of the day, we have robbed ourselves of something important. You cant quite quantify it, but you are slipping into a realm of dissatisfaction.
So we end up bending to the norms that our community will accept because we do not want to be left out in the cold.
Marrying someone outside the social class, culture, etc may make one's family unhappy unless some special/good event ( by the unacceptable person) occurs. That will make them accept the person because he/she is shining in 'good' light.

People will not listen or understand because they have told themselves that life goes by their norm and it is easier to 'be that way' than to embrace positive change. It is not a simple task to love without conditions. We all expect something in return because of selfishness. It all begins in the head. One has to tell themselves that they can do it. We argue the same way, love the same way because we are afraid we will be rejected if we do it a different way.

I hope it makes sense. Good luck if this is for an essay and please do post more questions like this, helps us to think and that brings improvement in our lives.

Answer 5

One doesn't seem to learn this until they are told they have a terminal illness but it is a lesson I WISH people would learn and REMEMBER every day of their lives.... Life is a gift. Cherish each day like it is your last because there may not be a tomorrow.... but if there IS, it deserves to be treated as a gift... Treat your children and your families as a gift because they COULD all be taken away from you some day.... Find beauty in EVERYONE you meet, there is not enough time in LIFE to argue over petty things or to try to change someone's beliefs, let them believe what they want or NEED to believe---no one is right and no one is wrong---and NO one finds out about heaven or hell or even God until they die---NOT FOR SURE ANYWAY....Life is too short and too precious to waste time on hating someone... don't hate someone for what they think or FEEL, dislike them for what they DO (if it is something bad anyway).... Tim McGraw said it best in his song "LIVE LIKE YOU WERE DYING".... you will NEVER know what that feels like until you are told you ARE DYING...thing is---we ALL die... some just to it earlier then they are SUPPOSED to. ... Live your life the best way you know how, and let others live THEIRS that way as well.... That is the lesson, the wisdom I have gained from MY experience....

Answer 6

Respect for ALL life. That includes your mother, your dog or even the spider in your shower that you'd just assume smash out of existance. To think that your life is more important than any other life is wrong. To think that you have the right to play 'God' and make the CHOICE to end something's life-in the example of a roach crossing your kitchen floor-why does the roach deserve to die? Just pick him up and put him outside. Sure, it may take 30 more seconds than it would to wipe him off the bottom of your shoe-but it's worth it. This seems to be something that many people don't understand or agree with. It's a sad realization.

Answer 7

For me, that there is an underlying Guidance System for the good of everyone--IF we can trust life! Jung calls it Archetypes--a kind of benevalent Mind Force interacting with Matter. I think he also calls that Synchonicity, too. Examples in my life are many. Just one really "tells it all". (Sorry this is so long, but...).

My husband, little girl and I were traveling in our camping bus in the early '70's. We had just gone through Oklahoma City and my husband said, "The gas tank is almost empty." I said we'll have to turn around and go back, because no towns are on the map for another 100 miles. He became irrational and grumbled that he wouldn't pay those high prices!! I said to myself, "OK, Lord, it's all up to YOU!" Predictably, the bus chugged up a hill on the last drop of gas--and there was one small ramp leading down to a small GAS STATION!! (No other buildings, roads, etc.) The attendent came out and said, "Thank goodness you're
here! This kid has been hitch-hiking and was told by the Highway Patrol he needed to be gone by sundown or they'd have to take him to the jail for his own protection. It seemed that "the Good Ole Boys" had a sport of rounding up all the "Hippies" in the evening and beating them up! We said we'd give him a ride. It turned out to be a blessing for us, too. One of our little cats had given birth to kittens (we had no idea she was old enough--as she was just a kitten herself that had been abandoned on the road!!). She had no milk for the babies and we had stopped at vets along the way and were told there was nothing that could be done. We found out that they just wouldn't take anything that we could fashion--it just wasn't a mama's nipple and milk!! The babies were dying and we were devastated. The young man was so good with/for us! He was very philosophical and comforting and helped us bury the tiny ones as they died! We finally arrived at our destination in Kansas, and we let him off at a main cross-roads going to his destination. We were all greatful for the experience.

Answer 8

I believe the biggest quote ive ever read that had the most wisdom would be from Benjamin Franklin; "I can mess up 1000 times but then im 1000 times closer to the right way".

Answer 9

The fact people close to us whom die, affect us anyway, whether we want them to or not. The remains of their spiritual lives stay with us, and affect our lives we are here to live on Earth to our own best abilities.
Churches don't help, at least not the local ones. The priests say "It was an awful incident." HELLO, why can't they pray for the person, and help her to the other side, or does she think her spiritual life doesn't end until mine does.
Things happen to my son with name specifics she mentioned generations ago. I find myself in offices, staring at the carpet because I know if I look into their partners eyes I will see one of my sister's former lovers, and it will affect my business.
In our home city, sometimes I hope some of her less professional friends never recognize me, as my husband is gone. He was the same Zodiac sign, and of all people, I think he maintained a strong hold over her, although he did die suddenly. My son, I keep his Zodiac, and the most I will ever tell him is it was a small town thing, and I (we) don't want it to overshadow your life. I don't want to contact the "other side", as we want different things. I've loved others whom have passed on, although she brings me back to my childhood, obliterating all the newer loves.
I really want to move to the West Coast, because spiritually I am and can be my own person. I can't outlive all her friends, and don't do some things she did, and have to take great care with some things she did attain, so as not to disturb life there.
It is beyond comprehension, sometimes I pray. Sometimes I practice things from my Puerto Rican mother-in-law for comfort. Sometimes I just remain patriotic, although I wish it were on the Pacific.
I see friends of hers, and people she told me about, and where they are today, and they got there partly by using her.
I've tried biofeedback, gold only, joined groups, until religion is just a vehicle to another angle at the life in the living.
Prison and such life isn't for me, nor is the concept of helping reform people overly vicious.
Family is a priority, and she is part of it. Sometimes, when I imagine a partner, I think of the day which will come where she will invade our lives, and I will want to move on.
She was exceptionally beautiful, gifted in a fashion way, and liked the life and death equivalent, and coming back to live in a different body and life, to live again. Advancement wasn't one of their more higher motives. Surviving to another family, and having their family survive over another was. Also, tracing their roots back to a country, with all the wars and prejudices.
I think it is least understood by the police, and they and the church need to stop trying to control life they have no right to.
It was best described in 1994, by the new Los Angeles police chief. "We need to stop. We are going on because of politics, which won't be here in a few years, although the things we are doing will already be done, and cannot be undone. We need to stop, and I will lead to the best of my ability" He stopped intelligently where he ethically and ethnically could. He also kept his job. Their department remained trouble free for quite some time.
Here they aren't even decent enough to respect our children. Their lives as they are, ignorant of any higher being, they
think they are free game. They think they will somehow advance, and they won't. I wish to move on from New England, and never come back. I wish my children successful lives outside the United States of America.

Answer 10

The christian philosophy which simply says "turn the other cheek", or from "LUKE 17:3-Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him".

We all have felt that it is impossible to forgive someone who has deeply wronged us, but God says we must forgive others no matter what they have done!

And to give more, to expect less is easy to speak!