should any staff at a public school be able to get rite in to a childs face and yell at them?

Question

last year the pricipale keep getting in my sons face and yelling at him. when i asked him about it he said that it was tuff love. now this year i got told that the teacher is doing it to him. is this for them to do this to my son. and alits doing is making my son mad and to swear at the so he gets in to touble? what can i do about this evey thing i have done is not helping him it just makes things worse.

Answer 1

In my school district, a teacher may use reasonable means to insure discipline in the classroom. Any major problems are handled by the vice principal and the guidance office. Principals and vice principals have more discretion than does a teacher.

I would suggest that you have a conference with the principal or vice principal. Schools are not baby-sitting services, they are educational institutions. Approach with a positive attitude. Your son may have caused the problems. A school administration must maintain order in the classroom in order to deliver educational services to all students.

If your son has an IEP (Individual Educational Program), your child has more rights under Federal law, and will receive special treatment as regards to disciplinary matters. I am making citations at the bottom of this posting.

If you feel that you are getting nowhere speaking with the principal of the school, ask for a meeting with the school's guidance counselor. Your son's disciplinary problems may be caused by a medical problem or may simply be a behavioral problem. It is best to get these matters resolved for the benefit of the child in his later life.

Answer 2

Kids today have absolutely no sense of ownership for their problems. They know what the schools can and can't do.

I don't know your son but I have a 13 year old who thinks he knows everything and acts out in school. Are the teachers just supposed to say "ok son, sit back down and we will discuss this like adults?"

If they are yelling at your son, what was he doing? I imagine he wasn't sitting there being attentive in class and just taking notes. Yelling isn't an answer. If he says that he didn't hear them, take him to get his hearing tested. Then at least you will know it isn't that and can work on it from there.

Call the school, speak to the Principal then go over his head to the Superintendent.

Answer 3

Well a principal usually doesn't know as much as the teachers do. Sometimes that makes it easier for them to yell at them and sometimes less. How old is the child? What is the child doing to deserve such punishment? It becomes a person to person situation. Some kids need that sort of engagement, but most don't. That sort of display only teaches a child to deal with difficult situations with anger and aggression. A positive authority figure and role model would deal calmly with the situation punishing the child in a way that he will not want to misbehave again. They're going to have to learn what makes him tick and what will disappoint him in ways of punishment. That’s a bit of physiology, as far as legality, it’s legal if the aggressor is not verbal abusing, threatening with force, or cursing the child. However, you can request that they don’t deal with him in that way. If they continue then you’ll have to relocate or transfer your child in some way.

Answer 4

Any child able to motivate professionals to get in their face and yell at them is lacking respect for authority and the self-respect and self-discipline that should have been taught to them before the age of 3 - your son may need some tough love boot camp type training for an extended period of 6 weeks or more to have his behavior modified to a mode that won't get him into trouble for the rest of his life.

Of course, if he's a star athlete with professional scouts looking to recruit him, all his behavior defects might be overlooked.

Answer 5

Not a good practice by the teacher and principal. Even if your son is acting like the spawn of Satan. Adults need to set better examples. I would write a letter to the school board if you do not have the courage to confront the principal. You can always find a child advocate. often for free, that will help you straighten out this situation.

Answer 6

Sure, why not? If they are doing it for good reason, such as your son is not behaving, then what else can they do? If it's not justified, then no, they should mind their own businesses, but I would say 9/10 it probably is justified. You have to realize that the teacher and principle would probably prefer to not have to yell at your son, and that some behavior of his is causing them to. Eliminate that behavior, and you'll eliminate the yelling, it's as simple as that.

Answer 7

I doubt that you son is doing nothing and a teacher or principle is yelling in his face. What would you suggest that the teacher do if your son is acting up in class. Be sure to reinforce respect in your son. Respect for himself and respect of others. If you want to get respect you need to give it. If my child is acting up so bad that the teacher gets to the point of frustration to scream and/or yell in my childs face. First I would be talking to my child..

Answer 8

This should never happen to a child at school, at home or anywhere else.

Can you send your child to a different school for a fresh start. The teacher will not change if she has the backing of the principal.

Answer 9

Perhaps you haven't taught your son how to respect others.
He's not being yelled at because his teacher loves yelling at kids. Absolutely it's the teachers right to correct your sons behavior. She/he has dozens of other kids to try and teach and doesn't need yours distracting the others by acting up.
If I were your kids teacher and he swore at me, it would be the last day he spent in my class.

Answer 10

He must be doing something wrong if they're getting in his face. How about parenting your child and putting the blame where it belongs..not on the school.