How can I deal with this?

Question

My partner and I were having a few drinks last night, our neighbour popped in and started drinking with us. All was good, the kiddies were playing and the night was great until the neighbour tried to hit on me...I told my guy straight away so he confronted the neighbour...he (of course) denied it and called his wife out to hear my (outrageous) accusation. She said he's never done this before....earlier on in the evening he made some rude comment about a woman passing by...he was also touching my arm alot and trying to sing a love song to me...ugh! This morning I am soo embarrassed by the whole episode....now I want to hide but, we all live in the same building....I even help his wife with their newborn son....how can I get over the whole embarrassing event and why do I feel so awful for it? He should be the one in hiding, not me.

Have any other women (or men) ever had this happen and how did you deal with it? It's very uncomfortable for me. I want to move but we can't.

My guy was in the bathroom when the neighbour made a pass at me....when he came out, the neighbour left straight away....the jerk!

Answer 1

I would be proud of yourself.
You didn't just standby and ignore it.
You stood up to what you thought was right.

That man will not make that mistake with you again.

Answer 2

This is a kind of spiritual answer so you might not receive it. Aside from what drinking brings out in people, we communicate things to others with our spirit. Before I got saved, I used to have guys hitting on me all the time. Not because I was necessarily dressed a certain way, but I communicated an openness that men could see (even if I was dating someone). Once I got saved and married, I changed alot of things about myself and I dont have people come at me that way now. Im not saying its your fault per se, but we can unknowingly convey things that others read or MISread...and with the drinking obviously, something was misread (on top of the fact this husband is DEAD wrong for hitting on you anyway). I encourage you to go to face the situation by talking to the wife and husband and sharing that whatever happened, you'd like to put it behind you OR if you feel uncomfortable, convey that and decide to sever that relationship.

God bless

Answer 3

You have nothing to be embarrassed about.....all you did was call a spade a spade. He likely denied it to save face with his wife, and in turn she will likely shun you. Not because you did anything wrong, but because she may realize that her husband finds you attractive and she has to take her anger and disappointment out on someone. Explain to her that you just felt uncomfortable in the situation and didn't know how to react. Eventually it will all blow over, but don't hide or sweep it under the rug.....doing that will only put greater distance between you.

Answer 4

Have nothing more to do with these people. The wife will always take her husband's side. Maybe someday she will wake up to the fact that her husband is a jerk.

Answer 5

If moving is not an option then the best thing to do is to cut ties with these people. He's obviously a jerk and she is in denial. That's too much drama!

Answer 6

Chalk it up to experience, and carry on in your life. He's a jerk, she's a fool, and don't let it bother you. Alcohol could have played a part too....so, just forget the whole scenario!

Answer 7

It probably feels worst because you were drinking and everything seems a bit foggy. Dont worry just ignore them and dont have him over anymore. He shouldnt have been out drinking without his wife anyhow.

Answer 8

You didn't do anything wrong, you don't need to appoligize or hide out, look, his wife will make him appoligize to you soon so you can give him a piece of your mind then, why didn't your partner do more about it?