What can I do to Relax When I get Embarrassed????

Question

I can get embarrassed pretty easily, I can get embarrassed over the tiniest thing! Sometimes I'm horrible at math in my class and my teacher asks me a easy question and I get so stressed out and I don't know the answer, I get really embarrassed. I can also get embarrassed speaking in front of people or when I have a solo in singing. How can I get over being so embarrassed? My face also turns red too. Is there something that can calm my stress or keep me from getting so embarrssed all the time?

Answer 1

Yes. Practice this in front of the mirror at home. Learn how to breathe deeply all the way down into your diaphragm. Practice with your hand on your stomach. Then learn to hide that look so you're not gasping for air. A woman can turn her head many ways and directions when she is embarrassed and most of us get that way. It takes practice and don't give up until you can do it.

Also, remember that no one knows how nervous you are if you don't tell them. That's the key. Everyone usually has their mind on themselves, it's true, and it is not as easily noticed as you might believe. Good luck! You can do it! It's girl thing. @8-)

Answer 2

Focus more on what they are asking or saying. Speaking in front of people is the number 1 reason people get nervous. Don't think you are alone there. Say a little prayer before you are around them or keep something that means a lot to you and gives you strength and hold this in your hand. Take in some deep breaths and slowly let the air out. This will relax you.
Good Luck

Answer 3

Try imagining them naked and going to the loo. People seem a lot less scary when you have an mental image of them in that situation. Therfore you should feel less embarrassed!

Answer 4

Well, Doggie, I would suggest thinking of an inside joke you share with someone, or a joke you heard told by someone else, remind yourself of it, and it will probably make you laugh. You'll be so caught up in trying to to laugh out loud, that you'll forget to be embarrassed! It works for me.

Answer 5

I used to work at the "Laughlin Mall" in Laughlin Nevada, in which they had a vitamin store, and at this same vitamin store, I was looking for something to calm my nerves as well because I used to get "Severe Anxiety Attacks" in my early "20s & 30s" so I was desperate at this point, being that I was getting them for a good decade & a 1/2 thus far! It seems to me the vitamin gal, told me to check out a vitamin that started with an "M" and for the life of me I cant think of it right now!! I bought it, but little did I know people who suffer from anxiety as bad as I did, needed prescribed medicine from a doctor! And so I tried this vitamin for a short time, it helped a little bit, but I needed something stronger and ended-up getting on medication for my anxiety attacks!! I got too tired of going to the emergency room, and thinking I was going to have a heart attack, was just a nightmare time for me!! I also had paramedics at my house atleast 2-3 times a year!! Because people with this disorder get all the same symptoms as someone who's going to have a heart attack, or so it seems!! For your shyness, I highly recommend checking out a vitamin store with your friends, or family!! And ask the lady, if they have something to calm one's nerves with...... If you need to get your mother to go with you I would, if I were you.... I think the vitamin was called "Melatonin" I'm not for sure, but that seems like what the name of it was!! They also have alot of great vitamins for tons of things!!! To use instead of medicines on the shelves at the stores!!! Going the organic way is much better, it just didn't work for me, hun!! It most likely will work for just about anyone, who doesn't suffer from what I have, you know!! Good Luck to you hun, and just know your not alone, in your shyness!! I used too have "Black-Out's" when ever I had to talk in front of alot of people!! I couldn't remember a darned thing I'd just said, that's how hard it was for me, too!! And I would feel my skin turning three shades of RED, too!!! It's just horrible being shy isn't it?!!! I totally can relate to how you feel !!! And my Mom once told me, when she had to do a speech at her job, when she retired from the police dept., that, she'd also blacked out, and wondered what she'd said, and then they gave her a video of her whole entire "Retirement Party" including the part about her speech, in this video.....Well, Mom always told me, "No matter how horrible you feel or think you sound or look , to pat yourself on the back and remember this isn't what other's are seeing, and that you should mentally tell yourself "You did it !!! "you did survive this successfully!!" Inspite of how it felt, you did get through it!!" And my sister once told me, to imagine everyone on the "John" in the audience!!" HaHaHaHaHa!! But, that one is sort of hard to do when your getting ready to go on stage, or in front of everyone, to think of anything else but being afraid, you know!! But if you can, maybe this will help you to not be so afraid, or shy , or imbarrassed, you know....... Good Luck to you hun!! And remember, if you believe in God you could always pray before, you go on stage....God hears all of our prayers!! Smile!!!