tell my MOTHER HOW MUCH I HATE HER? For not protecting me from incest sexual abuse me from age 5-13 and then when I finally had the courage to tell her about my abuse as an ADULT she said to me WHY ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS NOW?
If abortion was legal in 1964 you wouldnt even be reading these words....A child who was a mistake and treated with complete indifference knows Do you know what I mean?
2007-05-09 03:05:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It took me most of my life to get over my dad's dirty deeds. I have 5 failed marriages under my belt because I kept marrying men who possessed qualities like him. I learned to do these things in order to survive.
1.Accept that your innocence was stolen.
2.Accept that you kept it to yourself.
3.Accept that no one deserves the blame for the exception of the offender. Don't take it out on others.
4.Don't let the the jerk win. As he wins every time you allow him to.
5.Let go and let God walk you through each and every tear, each and every fear.
6.Grieve for the loss of the child in you.
7.Remember that its the child in you that hurts. Let the adult in you comfort that child.
8.You are a precious somebody.
9.You deserve to live a happy life.
10.Set aside all the should have, would have, and could haves. Life don't get any easier unless you make it that way.
11.Your responsible for learning coping skills to better your own life.
Please don't say that stuff to your mom. As you may regret it later. Instead tell her flat out "Mom I need you now."
2007-05-09 03:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should tell your abuser. You're mother loves you unconditionally. Legal or not in 1964 if your mother had wanted to abort you bad enough she would have found a way. It probably hurts her to know that you were put through that. Even though she might put up a guard. Don't let your past effect your future. It can't be changed and you just need to have a positive outlook on the life that you have ahead of you. Good luck to you.
2007-05-09 03:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Luvatlanta 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well, I was never sexually abused, but I was physically abused and told on a constant basis that my mother wished I was never born, she should give me up for adoption and she hated me because I ruined her life. I hated her for years, too, but then realized I was wasting my energy on her. I actually feel sorry for her cause she never got to feel the love a child can give their parents, ya know?
2007-05-09 03:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah. i was a mistake too...my mom was only 15...and since then they've tried to take complete control of my life...i was always sheltered from everything...and i've always lived in a broken family in which i was tossed around from person to person...i've moved in with way too many different people. and my dad and step-mom always hit me and told me i was nothing. they fu*ked with my mind all the time...ok...im almost 17 so i can get away from it all.
sorry for your troubles. if i was you i would never talk to my mom or any of my family ever again.
2007-05-09 03:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you . I know where your coming from , for some reason mother's and father's day absolves parents of their wrongdoing for one day .
2007-05-09 03:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get this off your chest, and tell her how you feel !
love n hugs x
2007-05-09 03:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you saying that you wish you had been aborted?
2007-05-09 03:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋